Am I too jealous?

In a word yes. If you have to spy on him then why are you with him? If he is going to cheat , he will cheat. If you need loyalty then you have to let a guy show it. You can't Make him. So sit down and talk to him again. If you don't get anywhere then you have to ask yourself this, Do you want to keep spying on him or should you leave. you deserve to be happy. I mean really happy. If this guy isn't keeping you happy then it is time to go. But... if he is making you happy it is just the thought of Facebook , then Stop looking at Facebook.

may i say from man perspectives?? if you don`t mind, i would like to give comments

Yes you are. He's a boy *FRIEND*, not a husband. He has not made a life commitment to you, and if you act like he's your personal slave, he'll ditch you. Trust me. He *will* leave if you try and control him before you have the right. When you are married... then you are married. Then... and ONLY THEN... can you say to him that you are uncomfortable with him talking to this other girl. Because then you are not a girl *FRIEND*, but his wife. Wife has some rights in the relationship. But right now.... you are a *FRIEND* a girl-FRIEND. Not a wife. Don't act like a wife, until you are a wife. You'll lose this boy. You will. I've seen it hundreds of times. A girl just a few months ago did the same thing. She got all bent because her boy-FRIEND was talking with other women, and he finally got tired of that, dumped her. She's all bitter, and it was her fault. She started playing wife, when she was just a friend.

I think you are being jealous. However it is normal for you to feel the way you feel. I don't check my partner's cellphone, or facebook or whatsoever.. and he doesn't check mine either. I told him that I need privacy in the beginning of our relationship. I told him that we need to trust each other to make our relationship works. I trust him and he should trust me as well. I can prove to him that I am trustworthy. That way he doesnt need to worry about me being unfaithful. In your case, I think you should talk to him and let him know how you feel. From the way he reacts, you can tell whether he loves you or not..

I think it is totally normal! Your not too jealous, especially if you did already talk to him about it and he did it again... He should respect that one thing in my opinion. I was very jealous when my husband was my boyfriend and he would be super friendly to one specific person. They had a thing before me so of course it bothered me to some degree. I don't think there is anything wrong with being concerned. I hope if you talk with him about it again that he will stop posting on her page. Until then I know it is hard but try not to drive yourself crazy over it. I know it's hard, trust me but it won't help anything to upset yourself...

Jealousy is normal. It means you are very much in love hence the jealousy.....

I think that many people have jealousy when it comes to their boyfriend. It is made even more so when you see that he is giving attention to someone else. And being that it is a girl at his work thats even more of a reason to be nervous about the relationship that they might have. Does she post back? Is she attractive and maybe a type of a person that he would like? I do think that its good to talk to him about it so that he knows how you feel. But keep in mind that he may begin to feel like you are stalking him and invading his space. He needs to have his space and privacy. I do think that many times if it is a feeling in your gut then it might be that he is beginning to like her. But please keep in mind that he will do what he is going to do. So if you are feeling insecure about his actions and relationships that he is building then it might be better to break things off. One other thing that I want to ask is this, have you actually met her? Ask him if he wants to have her over for dinner or go out for drinks. That way you can see the interaction between the two. If he acts weird about it, I would wonder about tht also. Best to you!

I'm surprised by members responding here who think jealousy is normal and or OK. It's not. Jealousy is a sign of insecurity and immaturity. There is also a level of mistrust directed at your partner. Are you judging him by your own behaviour? Facebook is an open forum between friends and lovers so you are not spying on him but you are right to not go there I think. Best of good wishes.

I don't think there is any formula for this!! This is a common problem and according to me there is no fixed solution to this. I and my gf keep fighting over such issues and it never gets solved. She agrees with me when I explain to her about her not-so-acceptable behaviour with some guys who she knows are behind her. But then, she again starts the same and argues that she is doing right. So..!!!

Well, being jealous in a relationship is normal. Thus, this only shows how much you loved each other. But, having too much jealousy or too much reaction on any thing that has not yet happen is not good. Hence, it denotes possessiveness. And this trait does not bring any good to any type of relationship. With regard to your post, perhaps, your are not too jealous, hence, you just want to know what is the real status as to why you feel uncomfortable.

It is normal to get jealous. I will get jealous too if I am his girlfriend. Ask him why wouldn't you get jealous?

I believe you're seeking to control him with your jealousy. If you've truly communicated your feelings regarding this Facebook friend and he doesn't honor them, then you have some deeper issues with your relationship. That being said, why would you impose on someone restrictions of who they can or can't be friends? It demonstrates a lack of trust. And, if you're relationship is going to survive, you must have trust! Try not to concern yourself with whether or not he's going to cheat! You're operating in the realm of fear and if you put that energy out there, he will live up to it. Finally, when you said you've talked to him about it, you didn't mention how you presented your concerns or how the conversation took place. It is key to discuss any issue, if it's a major concern to you, openly, honestly and calmly.

Jealous is a normal reaction as a girlfriend but of course with some limitations. Maybe your boyfriend is not ignoring your feelings, maybe he just want you to get jealous or no reason to be jealous, but some men they intended to do that especially if they know that can affects your feelings. Sometimes I get jealous too since my husband has a girl officemate who is so close to him and texted her regarding work and other matter, but I do understand and trust my husband. Also he assured to me that he is just being nice and friendly to his co-workers and nothing to be jealous, after that I never check his phone even his facebook account.

:) hello ryanong, I would feel the same if i was in the same place, its natural. But dont take it too seriously, men are programmed like this..you also try to do same with another guy and see his response..:)

I think that it is a very normal girlfriend/boyfriend thing. I have heard stories of one checking emails, phone messages, etc. every day, week, etc. of his/her partner. I don't know if it's a sign of insecurity or something. I guess sometimes it occurs to everybody to be curious as to who our partner is interacting with. In your case, I guess you are reacting on instinct. Maybe you feel that something is not right with what your boyfriend is doing, seems to be that way to me too, although I'm not entirely sure if I understood your description of the incident exactly. Anyway, my point is, try not to get emotional over it rather have a clear head and talk to him about it. Let him know how you feel. If you stay calm, it shows that you are in control and not really accusing him of anything.

Ah, Facebook, the thing that gets way too many people in trouble but perhaps you might be onto something. Or perhaps you may be in fact rather jealous about the situation. Perhaps a little too jealous to say the very least, jumping right to conclusions. Of course, some conclusions can really be made, that there is really just something to it. Of course, if he felt the need to lie and you obviously jumped to the worst possible conclusion, the strength of the relationship is really just something that should be questioned to begin with. There are just many times where these things tend to come to light in the worst possible ways. Of course, there are many times where there is a good reason to be suspect. However, not each and every moment is subject to such a thing.

Yes your being to jealous. People are allowed weather they are dating someone in a relationship with them or not to anyone weather its on or offline. I don't freak out when I see my husband talking to other women. It don't bother me. I trust him and I know he isn't doing anything with any other women. I don't check my husband facebook or cell phone to see what he has been doing or talking to. Its part of our relationship to trust each other. Other wise I feel that its getting into things you should and driving away someone you love instead of trying to live a balanced trusting relationship with someone because your always looking for something that they are doing to make you upset or that will bother you. Even when we where not married I never looked at his stuff. I don't know his passwords or anything but if I wanted them he would give them to me but its not my place to like its not his place to check out mine.

Jealous is just normal for me especially when you are in a relationship which is not so clear to you. I think both of you just need to talk about it. He should listen to you when you speak up you're just need clarification to that girl. When you talk to him also regarding it you have to stay calm don't nag him it should be in a proper way so that he will not get angry with you it might be the cause of trouble okay?I'm hoping that your relationship will still be work on after your talk.