Should go to date or should not???
By ryanong
@ryanong (9664)
Vietnam
June 6, 2012 6:13am CST
My friend met her in his Korean class and they became friends. She is married, still living with her husband but currently she has been sleeping separately for 1 year already, she told my friend like that.
She wants to date my friend and she told she will get divorced soon. My friend currently like her also and he did ask me should he gonna date that woman?
I told him, No, don't date her since she is still married and we don't know what she said (about sleeping separately and will get divorced soon) is right or not. Let her do all as what she told and then he can go to date her.
How about your opinion about this?
My friend should or should not date her now???
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12 responses
@airasheila (5454)
• Philippines
6 Jun 12
good day ryanong,
with regard to your query, it really best not go on the date. thus, it will also be best to make sure before proceeding in any decision. after all, it is easy to make a date when the other party is not tied up anymore to any relationship. both party will enjoy a great date if they are both unattached to any responsibility. your advice is pretty good friend.
@ryanong (9664)
• Vietnam
7 Jun 12
Thank you, Airasheila. You are right, it is not good to date since she has troubles with her relationship also, and i don't think she is serious with my friend also, she just wants to find someone for playing since she is a bit tired with her marriage life.
Honestly, i really don't like her. She is not good when asks my friend go to date her while she is still a married woman.
@airasheila (5454)
• Philippines
7 Jun 12
aside from what i have posted, hence, it is quite difficult to handle another relationship if your hands are still tied-up on the other one. hence, it will be best if that girl will clear-up the previous relationship before going on a new date to come in.
@jvincent_129 (4994)
• Philippines
20 Jul 12
It's not healthy to be in a relationship with someone who is married. Your advice was right. Don't let him date her. Unless the woman files a divorce first then just can they begin to go out and potentially be a couple.
@ladygator (3465)
• United States
8 Jun 12
I agree with you ryanog,
I dont think that she should he should date her. It could become very complicated because as you stated, you dont really know that she is really planning to get a divorce. And if she really is, why did the marriage fall apart? When a marriage falls apart, the person will need some time to get their self back together. Jumping into another relationship like that is called a rebound and usually the other person gets hurt. So Nope I recommend not dating her.
@ryanong (9664)
• Vietnam
8 Jun 12
Thank you so much for your sharing.I told my friend and he wanna talk this talk that for her. I said currently he likes her, that why he is blind to see all things and everything is nice all, but i really hope he could listen to us then he won't get in troubles with that woman.
@youless (114117)
• Guangzhou, China
7 Jun 12
I think your words are very reasonable. No matter what, this woman is still married and it is not right to date with her. If she just cheats your friend and this will be terrible. When a relationship is not ended yet, don't start the new one. As usually it will not have a good ending and it makes everything much more complicated.
I love China
@andy77e (5156)
• United States
7 Jun 12
Bad plan. Very bad plan.
If she can date him when she is still married... what does that tell you about her?
It shows she will date someone else, when she is married to your friend.
This woman has no morals. Your friend should stay away from her completely. He'll get hurt.
Again, if she can cheat on her current husband, she can cheat on ANYONE, including your friend.
@yimsiupang (237)
•
7 Jun 12
Well ryanong,i think your friend should not date her since she is still married now,it is not sensible,if she love your friend,she should get divorced with her husband,then date your friend.
@Lauraleigh99 (4718)
• United States
6 Jun 12
Sounds like a weird situation... I would say no. Don't let your friend get wrapped up in her marriage mess. She may not even be getting a divorce and he may cause more problems that he means to
@jaiho2009 (39140)
• Philippines
6 Jun 12
Well, she is still very much married and one year is not enough to tell if she will divorce or not.
Or at least she should have done it before.
But, about the date- if it is a friendly date then why not.
Date doesn't mean they will end up somewhere- unless they want.
To avoid any trouble- your friend should know more details about the girl before jumping in hot water.
@hestylim (1209)
• Indonesia
6 Jun 12
I would say not to date. First, you never know whether she is lying or not. Second, however she is still someone's wife.
how if she is a scam?? hmm, doesn't mean to be bad.. but your friends certainly know that she is still married though she said she has slept seperately for 1 year.
Hmm, honestly there are a lot of bad things playing in my mind now.. but for the safety of your friend, he had better not date her..
@kingparker (9673)
• United States
7 Jun 12
It sounds like adultery at the moment, but if she really like your friend, or she really gonna do what she said she will do, why not go ahead and be friend with her. Date her or not, it is depend on how people seeing it. I would say, if your friend love her that much, go for it, and be her boyfriend, and push her to take her promise. That is what love suppose to be.
@ryanong (9664)
• Vietnam
7 Jun 12
I asked my friend, and he said currently he likes her but it is not a love yet.
They was friends...but right now that woman wanna to date with my friend. I don't agree with you...because that woman is still a married woman, and nothing to makes sure that she will get divorced later. She told she sleep separately but still living in the same house with her husband...I don't trust her much...it is just her talk...
To be safe, better my friend keeps a friendship with her only. Go on date?...better let her complete all her mess first.
@Dominique25 (9460)
• United States
6 Jun 12
I agree with what you told your friend. He needs to let her take care of all the things that she said she is going too. She has too much on her plate and if she is getting divorced then that needs to happen first. It would make things so much worse if he was to date her now.
