on getting dumped

I don´t know how I´d feel, to be honest. But there is another discussion within this discussion too I think. Like for instance, what is a relationship? Like the wonderful girl who has started this discussion, she is from the Philippines, and I am from Sweden, and we have probably different views on what is a relation? Or I think so. What in other countries would be considered a relationship, could in Sweden be considered as a fling rather. And with the risk of making people angry, I know people in Sweden are more loose when it comes to sleeping around and such than many other places. I am not saying there is anything wrong with it, because whatever floats your boat is ok, as long as noone else gets hurt. But if anyone Swedish would ask me the same question as in this discussion, I would assume she or he had slept with them all, and I would have thought, poor you. But since I know the person very well who started this discussion (she is my future wife, yehey!!!) I know the case is not like that. I don´t know if it makes any difference or not, I just found it interesting to think how people might think differently about what a relation is. Like, is it when you hold hands, when you kiss, when you go further? I think that can also affect the answer to the question maryannemax asked. But what I can say is this, I would not have liked to be with the person I was years ago. The person who was dumped by exes. But having that humling experience made me grow, and made me love myself, for being me, and not for having a girlfriend. So to be honest, I am happy I was dumped earlier!! It made me forced to grow as a person, to love myself, and it gave me the opportunity to, when I was ready for it, to meet the person I want to spend the rest of my life with. So, my answer is this, I´d be happy to get dumped 13 times, if it also meant I´d grow as a person and one day meet the right person!

I dont think I would have given anyone the chance to dump me 13 times to be honest, I think we all deserve better then that and im not sure I could have dealt with the pain of it, and neither should you hun. 13 hey...only unlucky for some and I see this as a sign for you to finally move forward and be treated like the princess you are!! Heres wishing you all the happiness in the world from this day forward :)

Well.. betting knowing I survived the 13th without something terrible happening down the the unlucky number? I think I could face the world after that.

I don't know how would it be, i think i would suffer so much for each one of the ones which dumped me. Can't imagine really. But i wouldn't suffer so much if it wasn't my fault and i give my best like the relationship work. Good luck!

Oh... My... Gosh. You're not serious, are you? I don't mean to be judgmental, or anything. It's just that 13 times is quite overwhelming. But there are points that I have to clear out first before I comment on that. Were the relationships serious? Did the "dumping" happen in succession? Were thrid parties involved? I don't want to pry, you know. I'm just curious, hehe. Congrats on your new guy, by the way. I hope you learned some lessons from your past boyfriends (whom you say are sons of B's). Go girl!

I've been dumped a lot of times (not as much as 13 but a lot). In high school, my parents used to always warn me to stop being with guys and focus on my school instead. But I never listened and I ended up getting hurt a lot of times that I fell into depression at one point. Slowly I learned to accept what happened and move on with my life. If a guy doesn't want to be with you, what can you do? I found that disractions that make me happy helped a lot to deal with the pain, although it never completely eliminated it. For example, I would watch funny movies, read jokes online, hang with my friends - I just try not to think about the guy. But everytime I got over the old guy, the new guy I date ends up breaking my heart! Right now, I'm so lucky to have found the guy I'm currently with. Before we were in a relationship, he was the guy I always called up whenever I had guy problems! Before me, he was in a relationship with a girl who cheated on him so he understands how it feels to be hurt.

it is very difficult to survive...

Oh it would be terrible.. just terrible.. i've been dumped twice and BOTH times it was as if my world just ended. I just used to cry all day and ask god one question- WHY ME ? i even took sleeping pills as otherwise i'd cry all night and get a headache next morning. those were the worst days of my life and i wudn't live to know what wud happen if i got dumped 13 times. Jeez !!!

Dumped 13 times?am I not lucky?thats the first think will come to my mind.but maybe Im not worth it to be dumped and his/he not worth it for me!