We just want to have a baby, that's all...
By mikyung
@mikyung (2232)
Philippines
June 8, 2012 11:07pm CST
My wife and I are planning to have a baby soon. And now we are determined in searching for an obstetrician and gynecologist (OB GYNE) near our place (Makati, Philippines), for convenience reason. We went to a clinic nearby where a very good and reputable doctor is residing. We already set our appointment but my wife has some reservation and quite hesitant because we found out that the one who will be checking her will be a male doctor. As a show of respect to my wife, I just follow her plan of not proceeding. And now we are looking for other options.
If you are in my shoes, as a husband, I'm I right in following her plan of not going to that MD? If you are in my wife's case, will you do the same thing, find a female doctor OB GYNE?
I know, rapport between 2 girls (between my wife and the would-be female OB-GYNE) can be better when it comes to this matter,I think.
We just want to know your thoughts on this. Please share. Thanks in advance
7 responses
@cutepenguin (6430)
• Canada
9 Jun 12
I think it's perfectly reasonable for your wife to prefer a female doctor. Since she's said she'd be more comfortable with a female doctor, she'll probably be more likely to mention any concerns she has to a woman than to a man. Some conversations are just awkward to have with a man, even a doctor.
@barehugs (8973)
• Canada
9 Jun 12
Speaking as a Great Grandfather, I would like to remind you that every one of your Parents and Grandparents all the way back to Adam, got pregnant and bore a child that grew into a parent, and 99.9% of these grandparents had no obstetrician, midwife, or any other kind of help. The important thing is raising a family is getting pregnant first, as that seems to be the biggest problem that most couples have!
@SIMPLYD (90717)
• Philippines
9 Jun 12
I think in this aspect, it should be your wife who will choose the OB Gyne, that she will be comfortable with. 
I guess, if i were in her shoes, i would also do the same. I would feel uncomfortable if it will be a male OB Gyne who will be attending to my gynecological problems.
On the first place a female gynecologist has some gynecological experiences that she can share with me if ever.
I guess, if i were in her shoes, i would also do the same. I would feel uncomfortable if it will be a male OB Gyne who will be attending to my gynecological problems.
On the first place a female gynecologist has some gynecological experiences that she can share with me if ever. 
@WakeUpKitty (8691)
• Netherlands
9 Jun 12
It's not up to you to decide what doctor she should accept or not. If she has a problem with the fact it's a man then she has all rights to go look for a woman.
This is not about you but about her. It is her body not yours. If a doctor is needed you need to feel save and trust that person. And what a good doctor is you don't know. You don't have any personal experiences with the doctor you found it's just from what they say. There are plenty of doctors and what is good for one isn't necessarly good for other people as well. I think you should not ask this question at all. It's a lack of respect upon your wife to ask world wide the opinion of strangers about who she should accept for a doctor.
@sherrybelle (707)
• United States
9 Jun 12
Hello Mikyung,
Yes, I think you are wise to respect the wishes of your wife. She is the one having the exam and it's important that she feel comfortable.
I have had male physicians (OB-GYN), however; some women are naturally more comfortable with another female doing that type of exam.
Good luck with everything!
@Bhebelen14 (5194)
• Philippines
9 Jun 12
Yes, I'll do the same thing to find a female doctor. As a women like your wife I preferred and comfortable to talk to a female OB-Gyne doctor that male. For me I can easily approach the female doctor regarding my main concern without any awkward feelings than to male doctor. I know that male and female doctor are the same in medical fields but as a women we are more sensitive regarding this matters. If your wife preferred the female ob-gyne doctor then follow her because she just concern about herself and security. Hope and pray that you will have a baby soon. Good luck :)
@asdomencil (4265)
• Philippines
9 Jun 12
Yes I will do the same thing you did. respect your wifes decision in choosing he OB-GYN she wants or where she is comfortable with. I am not against male OB-GYN, I know they are good like female. Also, female OB-GYN will be also great since she will know how to talk with your wife.
In lokking for your OB near your place, sorry I cannot contribute on that since I am from Marilao.
good day!
