Stop making excuses!

@911Ricki (13591)
Canada
June 10, 2012 7:45pm CST
My bosses wife was telling me today and it sounds like she is proud. Her daughter is my age (off by a few months). She said she just turned 24 whereas Ill be 24 in 2 months or so. My bosses wife was saying shes so proud of her daughter for making her own doctors appointment . I was making my own at 16 and going by myself. To this day she still goes with her daughter (there are some things I perfer to go about and not have my Mother hoovering over). She said she is still paying her medication including birth control (seriously at 15 I was paying my own birth control for medical reasons - not birth control). Her daughter works full time but doesnt bring in a lot of money, nor could she handle paying any bills. They pay ad give her a car to drive, and I was just shaking my head at this. She doesnt pay rent, nor pay for anything other than for herself. I told my bosses wife Ill be moving in with her I seem to like her rules better. I couldnt believe what was coming out of her mouth, the excuses she had for her daughter. I mean her daughter is fully capable but her Mother seems to pity her and do it for her. She was shocked at me being the same age and why my parents wouldnt pay for anything including birth control, or my car.
7 responses
• Canada
11 Jun 12
Wow I think ill move in as well damn I was paying vet bills for my animals when I was 15 my parents have never payed my way for anything except some schooling the rest I have payed for she really needs to teach her daughter some responsibility for herself and stop handing everything to her on a silver platter damn
@911Ricki (13591)
• Canada
11 Jun 12
I couldnt believe everything she was saying. Saying she needs to because her daughter has issues like depression, and anorexia (her daughter is about my suze), and she has issues to deal with with her father. I think it comes down to the parents my boss was never and still never home. He is working constantly to pay for everything, and I dont blame him for not wanting to be there. The daughter blames the Dad for everything. My bosses wife seem to think it was alright in these situations to hand her everything. I had mentioned about costs of living, and she goes well you would know until you paid rent. I just laughted and said I have since I was 16 plus worked, and supported myself. My parents gave me a chunk of money to go to school and we had to learn to stretch it (I was working full time at 2 jobs while going full time college). But paying for her medication, and even food or caar is ridiculous. I really would like to meet her daughter she sounds useless. But she comes to work and complains about her daughter all the time but I think she is afraid if she puts her foot down her daughter wont talk to her and leave.
• Canada
11 Jun 12
My parents have lent me money for medications before as I seem to always get really sick when I have no money and some times they say not to worry about paying them back but a car reallyyou want a car get a job so you can get one I spent a whole year biking over an hour to ajob unordered to save up money for a car
@Hazelme (649)
• United States
11 Jun 12
Many mothers spoil there kids as much as they can, if she is a only child that may be the reason why her mom is so soft on her or maybe if she's the only girl and has brothers only. I know many mothers treat their daughters exactly like that because of those two "reasons" or as you mentioned excuses. You're bosses wife needs to understand she's 24 not 10.
@911Ricki (13591)
• Canada
11 Jun 12
Yes, she is the only girl and the youngest she has an older brother. I just think at 24 is ridiculous, she will never learn life skills if she keeps holding her hand. I was gave a kick at 16 and told have a nice life.
@lingli_78 (12841)
• Australia
11 Jun 12
every parent raise their children differently... some parents like to pamper their children and also being over protective over their children... my parents are that type of parents... as i am the only daughter in the family, they love me too much... but i never regret it and i am still able to do stuffs on my own now even though it is a bit later compare to other people... take care and have a nice day...
• United States
11 Jun 12
I think your parents were unusually harsh with you. From what you have said, they cut you off and told you to get a job and basically threw you to the wolves. Although they were kind enough to let you stay hone and collect rent from you. But they don't do the same for or to their son. I think if you are old enough (24) to be sexually active you are old enough to get a real job and make her own money. I know you do, so this is not pointed at you. I believe her parents are enabling her to remain a child. A child that is adult enough to need birth control. I believe at 18 you should have most of the common sense and parental guidance to make it on your own if you work hard enough. However to get a decent job that will provide a good home to live away from the parents and to have a car paid for by themselves, they need a job that will afford them these things.
@viji_v2 (727)
• India
11 Jun 12
Your boss's wife is caring for her daughter much and even today she thinks she is like little girl. It doesn't seems to be different for me. It is because the difference in the way of living in our country and yours. In our country, who lives with their parents or in a joint family, has to get the decision or suggestion from the elders. A few would abide by even ages passes by. (some exceptions present). Like here, I feel she is caring for her daughter much and in the mean time want to be proud of her daughter.
• India
11 Jun 12
But here, in my country, except in many cities, parents do take of children(girls) till they marry. when it comes to girls, things become very sensitive and going alone, is not permitted much(well, lot of crimes). I'm 18 and I'm dependent on my parents completely.
@Jessi_T (380)
• United States
11 Jun 12
I'm a lot older than you and your bosses daughter, but I don't like setting in doctor waiting rooms alone. I always take someone with me, my husband, my mom, my sister, my niece, my sister in law. It is a long wait and I get bored setting in a room full of strangers. Though I see the doctor alone. Maybe your bosses daughter really can't make it on her own. Who are we to judge, some grow up too fast, some too slow, some parents have some don't, some parents give some wont. At 16 I was pregnant. My parents who were and my mother still is very over indulgent (my dad passed in August ) make me get a job. They said apart of becoming a parent was being employed. Had it not been for their support and money though I would not had made it on my own meager income at that point in my life, so I can see how one job might not be enough for your bosses daughter to pay for some things. Medical bills are so expensive. Does your bosses doctor take regular meds. I can't get insurance and meds cost close to $1000 a month. I hate shelling out that kind of money at times, but know I need them. Though I don't need financial support from my mom and haven't in many years she is always willing to give it, and do anything for me, so I guess I do understand where your bosses wife is coming from and I know I will be the same with my seven kids.