8 versus 70 :
By mikyung
@mikyung (2232)
Philippines
June 11, 2012 5:03pm CST
I witnessed this incident a while ago while going home from work. I heard a kid shouting, maybe aged 8 or 9 years old talking to an old man, maybe in his 70s. It caught my attention because that kid is acting like an adult. He is shouting vehemently, monopolizing the conversation. He even have those phrases that are not appropriate for his age. The old man is just listening calmly and just receiving those inappropriate words. I learned that they are not relatives. His way of talking give me the impression of how his parents brought him up. I don't want to generalize but I just can't help but think about this until now. It's kinda weird that I find scolding incident like this - involving extreme ages (8 vs 70 years old) and have a twist of roles (the younger one is scolding the older one).
Are those kids of today reflect/mirror the way their parents behave when they were also kids, (same age with their child/children)?
Are those kids of today reflect/mirror the way their parents behave today?
Kindly share your views please. Any comment and response will be appreciated.
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2 responses
@tajara2008 (81)
• Australia
12 Jun 12
Hi Mikyung...
I am a father of 2 teenage girls and a 10 yr old boy... Although they were all brought up with manners and taught to respect other people especially those older than them, sad to say all the teaching at home goes out the door when they are with their peers at school or work...
They see other people acting like you have described and so they think that what they were taught at home is outdated and that it is ok to talk and behave that way...
My 10 year old son has tried to talk like that to his mother and he was shown the wrongness of his ways, but my eldest girl still holds to her teachings and is a very nice and respectful child... At 16 my younger one has joined the ranks of the teenage problems sad to say and no matter how hard we try it does not do any good.
So to answer your question about do they reflect their parents.... in some cases that may be the case, but not in all... their peers and even the way they are taught in schools have a large part to play with the way our children react to all situations...
@mikyung (2232)
• Philippines
15 Jun 12
I got your point tajara2008. I think, one's personality was molded during childhood. It is when we can build a strong foundation . When they grow up, new elements like friends and media will come into play and will influence the way they behave. By that time,they may now have the free will to decide on their own. I think the least thing we can do here as parents or a relative is to guide them and keep them on the right track. If the guiding part is missing, they will be misled. I think, this will eventually make them more independent. Therefore, we should always be there to avoid a missing link to their way to maturity. Thanks
@sherrybelle (707)
• United States
11 Jun 12
Hello Mikyung,
As a mother I would like to respond to your discussion. I've raised my children and they are now adults; ages 31 and 27. I did my best to teach my children respect for everyone including an older generation.
All we can do is our best, as parents, then our children make choices as individuals.
Maybe that child had parents who were also disrespectful. Maybe that child was a victim of an older predator, such as the man, he was angry with. Maybe he's just an angry child who is hauling around too much baggage.
Sometimes we see individuals who end up in prison for committing heinous crimes when they actually have parents who try to live with integrity. This example supports the idea that everyone is an individual making their own good or bad choices.
If we don't see the larger picture we have no idea what's really happening, there.
