Your so jealous and insecure you have to steal from others?
By 911Ricki
@911Ricki (13588)
Canada
June 13, 2012 9:23am CST
Im ready on the edge about this with my sister. I flipped on my brother about stealing things from me, and he hasnt touch anything since. I told hiim ask simple thing to do and witha please and thank you I may give it to you. Which he has been doing and hes learning.
My sister on th other hand is so jealous and insecure she has to try and get a head. Even my Mom has said this yesterday. My Mom came with me to my hair appointment so she could get a quote on hers. She was saying this without me bringing it up, and she goes your doing pretty good without snapping at her and beating the crap out of her.
My sister has the mindset of shes better, older and has to be first. So to try and get ahead she steals things from me, so she doesnt have to buy it, and half the tme she doesnt even use the items it just piled up in her room. She has this mind set she is going to buy a house first, get married first, smarter, and because shes older I have to follow in her footstep.
Even my own mother says she couldnt see my sister buying a house, or even surviving on her own She cant even get ready and go to work without having problems. She said that if I got another job on the side I could even buy a house, and my parents know I can support myself with budgetting.
I just cant understand my sisters behaviour at all. There are 4 of us kids and shes always had this attitude since we were kids. But in the last few years shes gotten worse, and she will say things or do things just to kick you down, and try to make you seem so little yet shes the one being childish and little.
She cant even afford a razor or shampoo so she has to steal from me. Even my own Mother said this to me. My older brother has a similar attitude but not as bad. He use to steal from us more money when he was younger, and had the attitude of you owe him something.
Im going out and getting a basket to bring back and forth from the bathroom with all my things in it. I will then store everything in my cupboard in my room, and get a chain with a lock so noone can touch it. Seems as if they can still get in my room, so I will get a combanation lock so they cant touch anything.
6 responses
@PointlessQuestions (15397)
• United States
13 Jun 12
I suggested a long time ago to put a pad lock on your door to your room. They would have to either break the lock or break the door in to get into your room.
Yes it is a good idea to lock your things up. I would not retard thievery from anyone. You have so much money saved, why not make an offer on a house and get a mortgage of your own. You could get a 30 year mortgage that you could afford. You will never gave peace with this stuff going on.
@PointlessQuestions (15397)
• United States
13 Jun 12
You don't need your dad to do it Ricki. You can buy it and hire a handyman to do it. Your dad is al
Ost condoning her behavior by not helping you solve the problem.
@Paper_Doll (2373)
• Philippines
14 Jun 12
You brother and sister is really something. How could you possibly stole something from your own sister? My brother is also stubborn but he always ask before taking something. I find it weird because you are in your own house and yet you don't feel safe that you still need to lock your things before leaving. I hope they would realized their mistakes and would eventually stopped repeating those.
@SomeCowgirl (32191)
• United States
13 Jun 12
You know it's really sad, you should not even have to do that. It's childish of them to do the things they do, and your sister? JEALOUS! She'll learn one day though, and the hard way. She could be getting ahead if she saved her money, if she did for herself more, but she can't even take care of her cats!
@jaiho2009 (39142)
• Philippines
13 Jun 12
We are also 4 in the family - 4 siblings and I am the eldest.
I never brought up my siblings with such thinking that being the eldest I should be the first in everything.
And that is what I teach my kids as well.
No one is older and no one is youngest.
Everyone should be treated fair and can justify oneself.
I admit that my middle child has some bad habit and jealousy as well.
He is always jealous of the eldest because she is the only girl and the favorite among their cousins especially on their father's side (Relatives)
He is jealous of his younger brother because their eldest sister cares much about the youngest.
I can say that things are still under control- but I can see the trouble my middle child is giving to his sister and younger brother.
It cannot be avoided sometimes, no matter how we tried to fix things and give each other many chances.
Even in the family every member has differences and we cannot just throw them away.
@innocents_lost (1026)
• Canada
13 Jun 12
When I lived at home I had a besket of my stuff that I kept in my room as my mother would constently take my stuff it would pies me off my favorite thing after a long day is to have a long bubble bath and read to relax and unwind now there is nothing worse then having a long busy day and getting home looking forward to a nice hot bubble bath to find she has used all my bubbles my shampoo is missing compleatly and my razor is hiding in her draw so I got the basket and kept my stuff in my room solved the problem wellexcept the missingrazor my cat likes to hid it
I'm so glad I live on my own now I can put stuff where I want and not have to worry about anyone taking it
@jobfindonline (1744)
•
14 Jun 12
Actually you don't have to be that way with your sister and brother. They are one of your family, I don't see anything wrong if they use your shampoo, things as little as that. They have nothing and you have, the best thing is just to help them not to count the things you do for them. Show them them and let them feel they are not a stranger people for you. If you do good for them the tendency is to see you differently and they will love you more and eventually even it will take too long they will reciprocate your kind ways to them. Don't stop doing what is good.
