How to forget someone?

China
June 19, 2012 3:33am CST
If you still love someone, but he's already someone's husband, so you have to forget him. But we all know that forget someone who was your first love it really not an easy thing. Did you have the same experience just like me? What should i do, can someone help me?
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@Bhebelen14 (5194)
• Philippines
19 Jun 12
To be honest you cant forget someone you love even though he is with someone else, you just need to learn how to accept it that he will never be with you again. You just need to move on with you life and maybe someday you will find someone who will love you the way you do. First love is always be the first love I admit it hard to forget the feelings but you should know that there is always a true love that might coming on your way.
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• India
19 Jun 12
Hi friend, welcome to mylot. Sorry to hear about your problem. You are right, it is really hard to forget our beloved person. But there is no use in thinking about them, as you mentioned he is already married another girl. Try your maximum to forget him by divert yourself with other works, engage your self with other things. Time will help you to come out from your problem
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@GemmaR (8517)
19 Jun 12
I was in this situation when I was a teenager, although he was my best friend's boyfriend rather than her husband at the time because they were too young to be married. I was in love with him for four years, and I would have given anything for him to have liked me in the same way that I liked him. But it never happened, and the only thing that really helped me out of the feelings was getting together with my current partner who I have now been with for three years. He helped me to get over the other guy, and I now know that I deserve somebody who loves me back rather than somebody who would just take me for granted all of the time.
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@tiffnkeat (1673)
• Singapore
19 Jun 12
The harder you try, the sticker he remains. Look upon him as a casual friend. Just because he cannot be your loved ones as a husband doesn't mean you forgo the bonding you once had. When you find another to love, this one will still remain in your mind, but he will be less important to remember. Time will heal, my friend. I have been there, and I speak from experience. Take care.
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@taura2p (349)
• Romania
19 Jun 12
It is so very hard to forget someone. I think that you cannot forget someone completely, no matter how hard you try. But there are some techniques I used, when I had my greatest disappointment. First of all, stop thinking about him. It is a process that requires strong will. When you surprise yourself thinking about him, try to change your thoughts. Imagination helps a lot. Imagine yourself with someone else, think about your future, about your career, and try to get as busy as possible. Try to get most of the time occupied, try to meet new people and find comfort in your friends. You will eventually forget them.
@ginspearl (209)
• Philippines
25 Jun 12
To forget is not really an easy thing to do especially so if the one you want to forget is your very first love. I also had my first love and we did not end together. It has been more than a decade now that we havn't seen each other nor talk to one another but still in my heart and in my mind, I couldn't forget him. The only thing I am doing now is accepting the fact that we could no longer have the chance to be together, though it is not that easy, I do really pray hard that someday eventhough I could not forget him, I could accept the reality that we will never end together.
@fracktion (154)
• Philippines
21 Jun 12
To forget shouldn't be your goal. It is moving on. You just need to take all the positive things that happened on that relationship and tell yourself it will never happen again unless you find someone else. Get a positive attitude in your life. Everything will be okay, eventually.
@simonelee (2715)
• China
19 Jun 12
Forgetting someone you love is not as easy as changing clothes so teaching your heart to stop longing for him is quite difficult. So, the best thing you can do is try to divert your attention by means of spending much time with your family, friends, sports etc. and eventually you'll find your self free from him (it takes much time though but it works). Then in time you're ready to welcome another relationship.
@ryanong (9665)
• Vietnam
20 Jun 12
It is not really hard as you think...just let all the past go and don't try to keep it in your hand. Remove all information that is related to that person, never take a look on their page such as facebook, blog, ect.. and going out to have fun time with friends. Never stay at home and just think of that person. All...we can't forget but with the time we feel normal, no feeling toward to that person anymore... You should remember...we live for the present, not for the past...
• Indonesia
19 Jun 12
I will looking for some1 better. Thats what I did, and I have found my best. You should try, I know its hard at the beginning, but then u will realize that some1 better is waiting 4 u. Move on, hes not the one :)
• Bangladesh
19 Jun 12
Wanna forget? Its Easy. Just dont be affected with him or her.
@512771751 (1096)
• China
21 Jun 12
The most effective mathod is falling in love with other people, especially the person is much more handsome , responsible and charming than your foreboyfriend. Bad things are easily token place of by Sweet experience. Good luck girl.
@samzls (22)
• France
19 Jun 12
I had to deal with that kind of stuff, well the girl I liked had sent me mixed signals, some days she seemed really flirty with me, my hopes would go up, then she would act like i was just a friend, so I was really confused. This has caused me to try getting her off my mind, because she really got into my skin, I really really loved her a lot, now I'm trying to forget her completely, don't text, don't call, don't meet.