When do you say you had enough?

@chiyosan (30184)
Philippines
June 19, 2012 10:35pm CST
In life, or in love we usually always give our best... we do things we know we would not even be able to do on a regular circumstance... My take is that how do we exactly know that we should just take a step back and stop doing things that we think would make us happy? Like when do you stop pursuing a love, when do you stop searching for your perfect work, or career? How do we say we had enough and would just stop doing things that actually hurts us?
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@Mashnn (4501)
20 Jun 12
Depending on the situation. In some situation like when it comes to love, you can give up after trying and finding that your partner is not willing to change or to work out your differences but when it comes to something like looking for a job, I think it is hard to give up unless you find something else to do.
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@chiyosan (30184)
• Philippines
20 Jun 12
Yeah, i guess you are right. sometimes its just really not easy especially when you are left blinded in your love life by the person. But generally when you have a job.. do you still try to find better ones? People sometimes do this, too right? we never get contented by what we have... we always just think there is better and we keep looking for it without realizing that we have lost more trying to go for something that seemed unachievable...
@Mashnn (4501)
20 Jun 12
I think unless you are working in very stressful environment, it is always good to be contented with whatever you have, otherwise, shifting from one office to another will not help you that much and you might end up getting even more stressed.
@chiyosan (30184)
• Philippines
1 Jul 12
i have thought about this myself... actually and think that if i do find time to go ahead and look for better options, i have somehow thought that i am actually only acting hastily of the things i am not prepared myself. i have learned already of the things i cannot change and stress is indeed everywhere... when you get out of one, you will be faced with another one elsewhere.
• Philippines
20 Jun 12
Hello chiyosan! when do you say you had enough? it depends on the situation and the person involve. Actually, in love, a person can take as much as she or he wants to bear for the sake of love. Some would even give their life for love, hence nothing could deter them from pursuing a love. However, if you really love yourself, you should have enough of pursuing someone, when it is already hurting you so much, or making you suffer too much. If loving someone already brings pain to you, then that's the time you should have enough. when it comes to career or work, it depends on the person's priorities in life. If his goal is to work to his heart's content or aspire for the most lucrative work he could find, then he won't probably stop at nothing in order to achieve that goal. People have different points of view and this affects how he tackle his daily life and goals.
@chiyosan (30184)
• Philippines
15 Jan 13
hi derielle! it was enough to know the truth, to know more than i should, when i talked to his parents, i knew i had enough... i knew i just had to walk away and i will never be able to forgive them.. perhaps i won't ever say its enough if i hadn't been in too much pain.
@sharie16 (2212)
• Philippines
20 Jun 12
Hi chiyosan, There are times, actually, most of the time that we wanted to give up, that we felt so tired with the relationship we are into, or searching a right partner or finding a right job, or staying on our job or in general, tired of the life we have...When these circumstances arise, we tend to stop to believe on our capacity to move on, to pursue on our lives, but that's the problem we should most deal on it, for my own opinion, if we stop believing that everything happens for a reason, that everything has a purpose, that everything will happen in due time, then we are blocking the opportunity that awaits. We have to feel hurt in order to know how much more we can give or do, in order to know how capable we are on dealing on it. Life is like a puzzle, you have to find and solve every piece of it and make it whole again. So don't stop believing and doing things, 'cause when you do, it is as if you stop to savor the real meaning of life...Most of all, always keep on mind to keep believing you can... Have a blessed day.
@chiyosan (30184)
• Philippines
15 Jan 13
i don't know maybe that time, i really thought i should have really tried to be more patient? or maybe that i should not have insisted on something like that where i know it will lead to nowhere anyway. i just can't hold on any more because that time the more i try to understand the more it is clear that i should not fight for it and so its enough, i had enough and i had to stop the pain i am causing myself. thank you very much for your response! happy mylotting!
@jaiho2009 (39142)
• Philippines
20 Jun 12
When it comes to love, never give up someone as long as you love that person. Now, if you are ready to let go- then it only means you are prepared to lose that person. When it comes to career, when you think you are not doing good anymore and you are not happy with it, it is time to give up. Sometimes we get tired or bored of things we do everyday that it life seems monotonous. So, we want to explore or search for something new. In everything that we do, no matter how simple it is what matters most is contentment and happiness. When there is no happiness anymore, there is no need to keep those things or the person anymore.
@chiyosan (30184)
• Philippines
1 Jul 12
oh, jaiho... i am so moved by the message you have shared with me. your opinions of the discussion is well taken. thank you for sharing them with me, i am glad that you have responded to this. i agree with you to fight for our love, i intend to do so so long as i know that i am sure to be able to fight for him freely of course. as for work i intend to be good in what i do, and if i am no longer able to do as it pleases me and of course if i am no longer fair to the company i am working for... i will be resigning from it rather than fool myself and not be happy being in the company.
@jricky1 (6800)
• China
20 Jun 12
It's really hard to say enough especially when we met something that really love.So i would say i wanna try all my best in terms of the thing that i really love and want to achieve.No matter love or work,trying to make yourself happy can be enough for your life.
@chiyosan (30184)
• Philippines
15 Jan 13
that's true but i guess we will just know it one day, or one time when we have had enough of everything and will just want to be no longer connected to that which makes us hurtful. thank you very much for your response! happy mylotting!
• Bangladesh
20 Jun 12
Love is not anything to be pursuied. It incidentally happens. But i'll carry on searching and doing a job until i gain some fair and decent satisfaction in mx job.
@chiyosan (30184)
• Philippines
1 Jul 12
ah well i think this is with everyone else. it so happens that people does pursue their career, works hard for themselves and to improve their financial status... and many because of pride does not pursue the love of their life, afraid of rejection and afraid what might the lose even if they have not even tried to get what they want
@airasheila (5454)
• Philippines
20 Jun 12
good day chiyosan, with reference to your topic discussion, honestly, i really do not have an exact idea as to when to say that line. but based on my experienced, i have already said that to myself due to a situation that i cannot take anymore. that i have shed a lot of tears so i was forced to say that. that i was really in pain during those times.