Will you marry a man without house property?
@drinkingfountains (36)
China
June 21, 2012 12:49am CST
How old are you? If you are in the age of marry, dose the house property matters to you? Some of my friends, beautiful girls, told me " i will marry with a man with good economic condition. At least he should have the house property. I don't wanna fight for a house after marriage." So they are still alone.
As i know, in our area, the price of house property is crazy. If you don't ask help from your rich parents, who in the age of 28, 29, 30, even the colleage graduated man, you are impossible to afford the burden of house property. So in these manic years, the house could be a advantage of find female partner for a man.
My question, how many girls will take this term into consideration when choose a man?
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@knowledgehub (202)
• India
21 Jun 12
frankly i wanna tell you i will not cause,i want my future bright...simple.
@ForSouls1234 (720)
• United States
21 Jun 12
Frankly, I would feel much sadder knowing my daughter married a man she doesn't love. What good is a house if the poor girl has to live with a guy who is a jerk?
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@zhhlforpay (13)
• China
21 Jun 12
frankly i wanna tell you i think you just think but not to do so.
It's too hard for a girl to marry man who have no house, her parents would feel sad about that.
@zhhlforpay (13)
• China
22 Jun 12
Internet is such a good splace that we can say and do something which we cann't do in real world, we can be ourselves and needn't masked. We can be kind without pay any price.
But, the real China is cruel, few people can overcome it, especially the poor. Everyone was forced to choice, but often do not have good options to choose from.
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@ForSouls1234 (720)
• United States
21 Jun 12
I met my husband when we were in college and working in a restaurant. In America we marry for love, not property. Well, the sane ones anyway. We were without a lot of money for many years. Didn't bother us, we were young and in good health. We had a lot of fun without a lot of money or a house.
Are you aware there are many parts of the United States where there are very few houses? In the North west and West such as Idaho, Oregon, Washington, you will find tons and tons of apartment complexes.
Did you know that is is starting to become a liability here in America to own a house after the recent housing crash? It may be status wherever you are but not everywhere anymore. I never want a house again. Been there, done that. I like not pouring every cent into a house. And there are many people, many I know personally who will never get back what they put into their houses.
@drinkingfountains (36)
• China
21 Jun 12
First of all, glad to hear you got the true love in life. Of course love between each other is the most importanting. And then thank you tell me the situation in your area. But it is really different in China. It could be like the situation in USA before subprime crisis. The Peoples here, all crazy. It seems their goal of life is to get a house in the city. Of course they are poor and even can't afford the debet of house. The richman just buy many houses to rise the price.
@ForSouls1234 (720)
• United States
21 Jun 12
That's really too bad. And I bet a lot of them think that's all we want here in the U.S.A. Many Chinese strive for western possessions. They get a lot of misinformation. Sure some people can afford houses here but there are many who like I said had one and lost it and all their investment. Then there are people like me who bought one, put a lot of money into it fixing it and repairing and paying taxes on it and are just done with it.
We sold it and moved to a nicer area. We have never been happier knowing exactly what we are paying out each month now, we budget, save, spend and buy what we want. We aren't stuck somewhere knowing we have to sell to move. Maybe when we are old and have nothing better to do with our money and don't shop or travel much we will buy a little house in the country, sit and wait to die ha ha. But until then we are loving renting.
@rkennedee (333)
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21 Jun 12
I marry a man without any property at all and I say that we're happy now and we also have 2 kids. though it's really an advantage if you marry someone with who is finacially stable and have properties but that is not the basis of love and I think love is the first thing we should consider before marrying someone. What's a house for if you'll have a broken family at the end because there is no love in you and your partner.
@drinkingfountains (36)
• China
21 Jun 12
Hi, rkennedee, nice to meet you and very glad to hear you have a good family. Of course, love is the first condition of marriage. If no love, the marriage sure will end with sadness. Some girl still dream to find her prince charming who has good money and also love her very much. But sometimes, you can't have your cake and eat it too.
@Bhebelen14 (5194)
• Philippines
21 Jun 12
When I got married I was 23 years old and I admit my husband has already house and other properties in his province but we decided live here in the city to start a new life. In our case we choose to start all over again to learn how to become one by helping each other to afford our needs including house. We bought our house 3 years ago and I cant forget the experienced the first year of stayed here in our new house, we transfered here and sleep even without bed and pillows, we only sleeping on the floor without anything. But slowly we afford to buy appliances, plates and everything we need through nonstop overtime and extra jobs. Now I can say were good and stable. I think marrying a man without a property is not an opinion or choice, lots of couple you has a capabilities to work hard to afford the house by helping each other. It so nice you buy a house if you know that was came from the fruit of hardship and love.
@drinkingfountains (36)
• China
21 Jun 12
Yes, to marry with a man who will respect you, love you, support you in life is the most important thing. If he has good finacial condition is better. If not, just like you said, two of you work hard to pursue the good life will be the precise experience of you.
@amdinesh23 (30)
• India
21 Jun 12
true love does not need house or anything but as a matter of fact u should be educated ands have a good job thats all matters
@SomeCowgirl (32191)
• United States
22 Jun 12
I have been married once, I am now divorced. When we were married, and before we were married we didn't have much. We didn't even have our own place to live, we lived with his family.
Now while I don't intend to do this again, I don't see it as a bad thing for a man to not have a house.
@much2say (55050)
• Los Angeles, California
22 Jun 12
I have been married for about 10 years now - and we just got our first house!!
We have been together since we were 18. We finally got an apartment together at about age 31. Then we got married at age 34. Had our first child at 36. Got a bigger apartment. Had our second child at age 41. Got another bigger apartment. And just recently we were able to get our first house!!!
The prices have been crazy for a long time (in our area it's always been expensive), so although it was a long time dream, we could never afford to do it. We found out earlier this year that we COULD afford a home . . . so we looked into it - and after a lot of hard looking - we got our very own home. We are not rich, nor did we have to ask our parents for any help . . . all the circumstances were just right that we could afford it on our own.
So I married a man that I truly loved. I didn't marry him for his house.
@shylade (3132)
• Philippines
22 Jun 12
For me, that does not really matter before marriage but for your future's sake you should think about it first before marrying and having children. My husband and I got our house through home loan and we are still paying for its monthly amortization. We got the house right just after months of being marriage and we still need to pay it for 5 years from now.
@nerijorge (53)
• Philippines
22 Jun 12
I think that this could be one of the considerations in choosing a partner in life, but not necessarily a mandatory. I married my wife when she was 30 years old, and during that time, the only thing I have is my previous job. I don't have earnings, what more to have a house of my own. Her only requirement is for me to love and respect her wholeheartedly. I know it isn't as easy as it may seem. Sometimes, I felt like I am of no use because most of the bills are being paid by her. I appreciate her sacrifices and for helping me. I think she's one of few ladies who really doesn't look at someone's property in choosing her partner in life. And I guess, I will be in her position, I think I would also have a balance approach in choosing my partner. I would not marry someone for money. I would still a girl whom I love and would love me in return.
@Labrat (210)
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21 Jun 12
From a mans point if veiw i think a man should try to better himself, but also why is the pressure always put on the man to be economically stable. Surely that responsiblity should fall on both genders. I would like to own my own house as this would take alot pressure off my mind.
@jaiho2009 (39141)
• Philippines
21 Jun 12
I agree with the girls thinking.
It is not easy to marry and live without a house.
It is better for couples to start their life or living together having a house of their own.
It is not easy living with parents, or parents in law once you are married.
@ShyBear88 (59332)
• Sterling, Virginia
21 Jun 12
Well you already I'm married. I'm 23 years old almost 24 we do not have a house. I don't think it matters. I didn't marry my husband because of money or what he does or doesn't have. We all have to start some where so why not at the bottom. We have been living in apartments for the past 2 years we are going on to our 3rd year this October. We are going to be looking at next year at houses because this year my husband just doesn't have the credit yet and if only I was working we could get a house this year with no problems. But I'm a stay at home mom. There is nothing wrong with being married and not having a house, house are expensive and not may people that are not married or have kids at least don't have houses. Some married people never own a house for years. It should be about what property you do or do not own. It takes time to build up credit and not everyone is rich enough to pay for everything they want out of pocket and that means big item things like cars your pretty much singing your life away.
@doroffee (4222)
• Hungary
21 Jun 12
If we didn't have to live under a bridge, I would (because I want to live a "rich" life, not in the lucurious sense, but in that sense we can go to the theatre every now and then and don't have to think twice to buy a pair of boots when we really need it in the cold). I mean, I have some expectations, but not too crazy. If we can live together, but in a rent flat/with parents etc., I would. Nobody wants to be dirt poor, but there are girls taking it to the extremes to much.