I am not worried although I am still single...

Philippines
June 22, 2012 3:34am CST
A pleasant day Fellow Mylotters, Just a quick one, as I really cannot explain why some people are the ones bothered for my civil status. Hence, they keep on asking me, why until now, I was not yet married. Even my sister-in-law, she always tease me, why I am still single. Though I keep on telling them, I am not worried even I am still single, yet, they keep on pushing me to choose among the guys that I am dating. According to them, at my age right now, I should be married just like my college friends wherein they are starting to celebrate their wedding anniversary one by one. Should I really take their advices, I do feel I am happy being single.
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25 responses
@alberello (4755)
• Italy
22 Jun 12
Well, I believe that ultimately the decision must be yours. If you're single and you're happy, What do you care instill the judgment of others? I personally would not me a problem. I want to live my life without worrying too much about what people think of me!
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• India
22 Jun 12
It is your life and you have the freedom and you have the right to have the choice or you have the right to do things. If you are not ready not get married now then tell your parents about this and also try to mention the reason why you don't love to do it now. They will surely hear you.
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@ardoy0731 (7273)
• Philippines
22 Jun 12
As long as you are happy and enjoy so be it. Dont worry and dont mind those people around who push you because it is your life. Don't rush time that sometimes could to regret in the end. Just enjoy your life and always be happy.
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@jaiho2009 (38995)
• Philippines
22 Jun 12
hello aira, I have friends who are on their thirties already and still not worried about their status. They are enjoying a single life- maybe a little worried because they might not be able to bear child anymore if they gets a little older. On this modern days, I have observed that people are getting older before settling down- at least those career oriented people- since there are young teens who marries at an early age. As long as you are happy, so be it
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@chiyosan (30213)
• Philippines
22 Jun 12
Its alright, do not feel pressured. this is really wrong about the society. if you are happy being single then do not pressure yourself to get married. Being married is a whole different thing / scenario and a more different thing for you you should enjoy your current status now and look into getting into a deeper relationship soon when you are ready. =)
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• Philippines
22 Jun 12
It sound theres no rush on your side. Well then enjoy your life of being single. One day if that times come you are ready and somebody is really meant for you im sure you will definitely going to settle down. But for me enjoy what you have right now. Being single has no complication for me. Enjoy life
@Austina (92)
• Philippines
23 Jun 12
Yes, you should take their advices if you still want to have a family in the future. By the way, how old are you? If you are getting old, then now is the time to have your own family. But if you are young, then it is okay that you still enjoy being single.
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• Philippines
23 Jun 12
Hi there Austina, My age is not too far to the quantity beside your name. However, I am not really bothered at all. Perhaps, I have a gift of being a single bless person.
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• Philippines
23 Jun 12
Then you should be thinking by now. It would be harder for you to bear a child at the age of 40. But since, I see that you are happy that you are single, then I would happy for you, too.
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• Philippines
22 Jun 12
I feel you. I'm in the same boat as you. I'm not in a hurry to tie the knot with somebody and I like being single. hahaha being single rocks!!
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• Philippines
23 Jun 12
Good day CeresAnyah, Your response is pretty cool. A nice response if ever somebody will ask me again, hence, I will just tell them, I am not worried though I am still single because being single "rocks".
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@meumeu25 (917)
• United Arab Emirates
22 Jun 12
Hahaha, I am also experiencing the same, mine is worse because they start to think I'm a lesbian because I am not even dating anyone. I just laughed out loud. Even my father is starting to get worried. And my age is not even out of the calendar yet. I am actually starting to worry a bit, maybe because of the pressure. But I dont really want to rush, I don't want to end with the wrong person and when I decide to marry I want it to be my decision and I want to be happy about it.
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• Philippines
22 Jun 12
hi there meumeu25, well, i really cannot explain why they are like that. although my father does not join them in asking why i am still single, but, same as you, im just giving them a sound - hahaha
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@else22 (4317)
• India
23 Jun 12
So you are unmarried by choice and you are happy being single.I,then,see no reaso why you should take advice as to what you should do or what you should be.If you are happy,I think you are what you should be.May be if you get married,you would lose the happiness that you now have.Or,may be you become happier.I don't know what would happen after you get married,but why take risk unnecessarily.If you are happy with what you are now,then go on with it.
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• Philippines
23 Jun 12
It's up to you to if you want to stay single or not. What do you feel? Do you feel like it's time for you to be bonded with someone or do you feel like you wanted to stay single because you actually enjoy it? You can't let other people dictate what you should or shouldn't do. It's your life, you could do anything with it. But it's good that you are also listening to their advises and is actually considering it. Although it's still up to you to choose and decide in the end.
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@luvmusic (144)
• Malaysia
22 Jun 12
well, everyone has their own opinions but the really important thing is that you know what you want and stands for it cause in the end its your life that you are dealing with. if you think you are happy with what you have now, then it should not be a problem. i wish you all the best in life :)
@Cutie18f (9560)
• Philippines
22 Jun 12
Hi Air! When I read your discussion I immediately checked and guessed where you come from. Yes, I think it is part of our culture to think that the best way to live is to be married and have a family. Single people are always asked "why" they haven't married like it's any business of theirs. I even have the tendency to ask this question to unmarried friends but I know it's a stupid question. It's like an ice breaker especially for friends that did not meet for a long time. It's like asking "How's the weather?" You don't have to answer nor take this sort of question.
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@GemmaR (8520)
22 Jun 12
You should never think about where other people are up to in comparison to you at their age. If you do this, then you'll just spend your whole life being jealous of other people, and that obviously is never a good thing at all. You should just take life at your own pace, and remember that nobody else has the right to tell you how you should be living it. I made this mistake a few years ago and ended up rushing into things that I didn't want to do, so I have learned that what I want is the most important thing rather than what other people want.
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@bluespygirl (2112)
• Philippines
22 Jun 12
Do not give much attention to what they say and just give them a smile. I have some college friends too who are still single and happy. Some people thinks that we should be like this and like that at certain age. Whatever, as long as your happy. :)
@leeandrew (1226)
• Philippines
2 Nov 12
I got married when I was 30y/o but the feeling of marrying was never been in my mind not until a close friend got married first. If you feel happy and haven't have decided to settle with someone... then remain that way don't get pressured. It's not about them, marriage thing is all about you and the person your going to marry. You need to be committed enough for a commitment or else you'll just regret the rest of your life.
@asliah (11140)
• Philippines
11 Oct 12
hi, me too my friend,because i know that i could be happy if i am a single because i have experienced to lived in with a guy but he always gave me problems that made me hurt or even to stress,but now i am single i dont feel anymore those feeling i had in my past love life.and aside from that for me there is no wrong to be a single even forever.
• United States
26 Jun 12
Hello, I'm 41, very single, no kids, one dog, and in a very good place right now. I'm blessed to look about 15 yrs younger, I am dating guys that are 20 something, (don't judge) I'm having a lot of fun, i'm responsible, and very much my own woman. It bothers me when I hear women say they feel pressured in anyway..kudos to you I say, keep your head up and be proud ;) Have fun, be safe, and you will be in your element and that is what is important. (just me) :)
@meozard22 (872)
• Philippines
24 Jun 12
what you should do is whatever that makes you happy. Don't listen to what others say, just listen to your heart
• Philippines
24 Jun 12
That is the great step in your life. So there's no need to rush and force the issue. Maybe you are not yet ready to get married. Enjoy being single, because once you get married, you'll spend the rest of your life with the man that you love.