CLARIFY if it's blurry, please peace!
By mikyung
@mikyung (2232)
Philippines
June 22, 2012 10:28pm CST
I just want to share my thoughts regarding communication.
I understand the fact that every person in the family is unique. We have different, views,orientation. Different levels of understanding.
Do you still have the time to clarify to be understood or do you react instantly and vehemently to some of the issues you have in the family? I admit, I'm guilty of the former.
I'm also applying this to myLot community, do you still find time to clarify or just react immediately with discussions or responses that you may be got offended or irritated to?
Do you also have the time to clarify things regarding the discussions you just started so others can catch what you really want to convey?
Did you ever think, that we may have different levels of understanding to the language we are using here? I'm working on it too, to have a better understanding.
I think, this is a social network with a heart.
We are a family here. We sort things like a family. Peace to every one. 
We are a family here. We sort things like a family. Peace to every one. 3 responses
@se7enthbird (8307)
• Philippines
23 Jun 12
Hey mikyung !! your topic is quite mind bugling.
I think as a person it is only natural for us to have our own perceptions. Ideas and opinions that are different and unique from each other. If it comes to the point that i can`t understand a certain person, i will try and try to, until i could or somehow get the point of what is he or she talking about. i am a calm person and if the topic makes me angry i will still give him or her a chance to speak out his mind and to explain his side. After that, i will also tell him properly my point. At the end of the day discipline and understanding each person is important to me. It doesn't matter if you agree or disagree to his idea, as long as you can understand and you can respect it as a person and especially as a family.
HOPE YOU UNDERSTAND WHAT I`M TRYING TO SAY !! 
@mikyung (2232)
• Philippines
23 Jun 12
Hi se7enthbird. First of all, thank you for responding to this discussion. If we respect others we may be able to find time or a way to understand that person. Respect begets respect, I think is what we need here to have a harmonious relatinships.
I UNDERSTAND WHAT YOU MEAN. Thanks @se7enthbird (8307)
• Philippines
24 Jun 12
welcome mikyung and thanks stowyk !! I tend to not talk to the person if i am really loosing my patience or they don`t want to listen to my point. Sometimes there are also people that does`nt want to listen. They think that are always correct and they tend to ignore other ideas. I ignore that kind of person. I think they are senseless 
I tend to not talk to the person if i am really loosing my patience or they don`t want to listen to my point. Sometimes there are also people that does`nt want to listen. They think that are always correct and they tend to ignore other ideas. I ignore that kind of person. I think they are senseless 
@meumeu25 (913)
• United Arab Emirates
24 Jun 12
Hi mikyung,
I would say, I prefer to clarify things or discussions, when I think I am being misunderstood. Because for me it is important to make clarifications if you want to have a good understanding with other people. Although I have this impulse to respond without thinking sometimes. I always make it to the point to listen to clarifications, accept my fault and correct it if I could.
@much2say (57760)
• Los Angeles, California
23 Jun 12
Ah, clarification! For me, especially with family and friends in the real world, yes, clarification is a MUST. The relationship is more complex as we have a ties to these people . . . we need to clarify to keep things at bay. I don't need them to get the wrong idea about me, nor do I want to get the wrong idea about them. I see these people in person, face to face, and I care (maybe sometimes too much?) . . . so it's essential that my words are made clear.
On myLot, I do still try to clarify things, for the most part. But I do first think is it worth my time and energy, or not. Here, we can choose to respond or not. We can choose to further the conversation within the discussion or not. We can choose to be friends here or not. We can even simply choose to ignore and let things be. Depending on the person (and in time as you get to know fellow myLotters, you kind of see how each person "works"), you may or may not want to clarify. If one doesn't care what I have to say, well then, I guess there is no need for me to clarify!
See, now as we are getting to know each other here, I am seeing how you work in these discussions too . . . so I think our feelings are mutual! You take the time - therefore, I will take the time for you as well. Yes, I guess we are kind of like family! 
