do you believe in love at first sight?
By kamaeca
@kamaeca (161)
Philippines
June 24, 2012 4:58am CST
Sorry to the believers out there but I don't believe in love at first sight. I think what you think you feel is love at first sight (that spark thing they say) isn't really love. I think it's more of attraction. I believe that love takes time and that there's more to love than the first sight. That there's a deeper meaning to it. For me, I would probably say I love (romantic love at that) someone after I get to know him just a little bit more, like after we get to know each other. haha. Anyways, it doesn't matter what you call "that". The important thing is that you felt that special kind of connection with that person and felt that kind of happiness that only he/she can give. Love, love, love! ;D
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@neerruu (134)
• India
24 Jun 12
love at first sight only means physical attraction, nothing more.
they just don't want to accept that they are just physically attracted to that person.
many people does't get a chance to experience true love.it's quite a rare thing i guess.
cheers and thank you,
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@ranay85 (16)
• United States
25 Jun 12
I completely agree. I have been married for 3 years and when I first met my husband I couldn't stand him. I thought he was obnoxious. We worked together at the time so we had to see each other every day. He would ask almost everyday if we could go out sometime and I would always tell him no. I finally after several months agreed. We had a horrible first date. But somehow let him talk me into a second date a month later. It was wonderful, and the more I got to know him the more I liked him. We were engaged 2 years later!
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@stringer321 (5643)
• Kiryat Ata, Israel
26 Jun 12
That's a nice story , how he didn't give up and kept asking you to go out , it's like in family meters with Steve Erkel and Laura Winslo . Laura never liked Steve but , in the end , she started to like him and the got engaged.
Didn't it turn you down when he kept asking you to go out over and over again ?
I never try to ask the same woman again to go out or else , it can be considered as an harassment. It's a very delicate situation so you husband was very lucky you didn't complained about him or turned him down viciously.
I guess you tried to see how much he wanted you ?
@kamaeca (161)
• Philippines
2 Jul 12
wow good for you. It's amazing how he was so determined to get you when you turned him downa lot of times already for a date. what made you decide to say yes then? that must be love i say. congratulations to both of you and best wishes! thanks for the comment ;D
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@mythociate (21437)
• Oklahoma City, Oklahoma
26 Jun 12
I agree with you. 'Love at first sight' happens when you see someone whom you could be attracted to, you're mind does it's little prophecy-thing (imagining if they were attracted to you in the same way) and--if they actually are--it's that feeling you get when a jigsaw-puzzle piece you thought MIGHT fit ends up fitting just like you thought it would.
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@kamaeca (161)
• Philippines
2 Jul 12
yeah well have you ever felt that? i do. hahaha. i have this imagination kind of thing, like thinking that you're together and seeing him being with you. i had that a lot of times but i never ended up with any of them. hahah. oh well, let's just enjoy life and someday we'll find the happiness that only that person can give. :D
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@joevanosa (303)
• Philippines
29 Jun 12
if you felt something different in one meet-up then it is not love; it is infatuation. if you think it is love, then you are stupid.
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@BabyCheetah (1911)
• Australia
24 Jun 12
Actually I think that the term of love at first sight is actually refering to infatuation. When you are infatuated with someone you only think that you love them straight away. But love and infatuation are 2 different emotions. I think infatuation can be dangerous because it can be borderline with obsession. But eventually you get over that infatuation and get back to normal :)
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@BabyCheetah (1911)
• Australia
2 Jul 12
Yes I think love is deeper and if you truly love someone you will do what makes them happy and if you are not together and they are with someone else still be happy for them. If you are infatuated you won't want them to be with anyone else even if it makes them happy haha :)
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@kamaeca (161)
• Philippines
2 Jul 12
i agree that love and infatuation are 2 different things. love is deeper and i think it's on a more serious note than infatuation. infatuation can progress to love though, i think. funny how i can say these things when i'm not even sure if i had ever fallen love. lol. but one thing's for sure, i felt that infatuation thing already. never been obsessed though. hahah
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@sender621 (14894)
• United States
24 Jun 12
I have always been a true romantic at heart. I believe in the power of love. As much as my romantic heart would like it be so, I am not sure that we feel at first sight can be construed as love. it is more of a spark or attraction. Love needs time to grow and develop.
@prospectboy (754)
• United States
26 Jun 12
I used to be a believer when I was younger, but not anymore. When we see someone we find attractive, that's exactly what it is; an attraction. In order to really love someone you have to get to know them. It defeats the purpose of finding someone who you are physically attracted to, but they have a bad personality, or a bad heart.
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@kamaeca (161)
• Philippines
2 Jul 12
yup i agree with you on that. when we look for a partner, we should look for someone who is most compatible to us, not just the face of our preference. it is important to get to know a person better so that a good relationship can be achieved. thank you. good luck. :D
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@thewonderboy (7501)
• India
25 Jun 12
Love can be very true and deeper when the couples are well know oppositely. Some people have some attractions when a person see another one. Really this is not a truly love. It is just an attraction and in most of the cases fight sight loves gets easily breaks down becuase the couples are not so deep and they are not properly bonded.
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@kamaeca (161)
• Philippines
2 Jul 12
ahuh. a good relationship needs a strong foundation and that can be achieved when the couple knows how to understand each other and a step to getting to that is acceptance. along with that, they should have a strong spiritual foundation. thanks for the comment. :D
@subhojit10 (7375)
• India
24 Jun 12
Well i dont believe in the concept of first love. I mean how do people fell in love at the first sight. When it takes so many years to understand a person how can you fell in love with that person at first site? This concept looks good in movies and on television.
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@Bhebelen14 (5194)
• Philippines
24 Jun 12
I agree with you, I dont believe in love at first sight because I am more on knowing the person first before I started to love him. I admit im became attracted to those cute guys walking around the street or malls at first sight but doesn't mean I love them. Also I think love at first sight only happening in the movies or TV series.
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@kamaeca (161)
• Philippines
2 Jul 12
well it isn't wrong to get attracted to handsome and cute guys. who doesn't? that's normal. hahaha. as well as falling for them. but the first time we see them, calling it love seems wrong. oh girl, in movies, everything is possible and everything can happen! haha :D thaks for the comment. :D
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@PageTurner (2825)
• United States
25 Jun 12
Hello kamaeca
I used to believe as you do. I thought that love at first sight was a fairy tale full of hooey.
That was before I met Mrs. Turner 25 years ago. At that time, I felt that I had known her for an eternity, in previous lives. I felt that I could see straight into her soul, and that she could see into mine. It was an encounter unlike any I've ever had.
Was I physically attracted to her? Yes. But it was much more than that. I never got over her. We simply saw each other, and we were hooked on each other. A mere 22 years later, I asked her out, and the rest is history....
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@ajithlal (14716)
• India
2 Jul 12
I believe physical attraction at first sight and love happens at many sights. I think when we know the personality and character of a person only true love happens. I think love at first sights happens in movies and stories, but it did happen to some people.@kamaeca (161)
• Philippines
2 Jul 12
in movies, everything and anything can happen! haha. yup, it is really physical attraction. love sees more than that. and i agree with you that treu love happens when we get to know the person better. we accept the person despite the imperfections. that's true love then. thanks for the comment. :)
@gaiza12 (4884)
• Philippines
2 Jul 12
I too don't believe in love at first sight. Because it never happened to me and i found my love not through first sight but through second, third, forth and so on sight. I believe you can feel love only when you get to know each other. Like what you have said, love isn't felt with just one look in the eye for love is felt and tested through time.
@katie0 (5203)
• Japan
24 Jun 12
I not only believe but I lived it. I believe also in reincarnation and I had proof he was someone from other life, but I was the man, it's complicated to explain everyone has their own beliefs but I can say I had 100% proof.
So when we saw each other it was all it took.
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@ryanong (9665)
• Vietnam
25 Jun 12
I haven't felt in love from the first sight yet but my ex- did...with me. He loves me from the first sight...he told me that when we was in love. He told it is very special feeling when he saw me on a train. In his life till now, he was in love in the first sight that time only...However, finally that love is broken..it is my fault, not his fault...
@kamaeca (161)
• Philippines
2 Jul 12
oooh. Even if at the first time, it seems that our feelings were not as strong as how our partner feels for us, we should also have to take the effort to make the relationship work and take care of it. you are lucky because he loves you. But he is luckier because you love him. goodluck! thanks for the comment! ;D
@Dassodils (2010)
• India
24 Jun 12
I also agree with you..I am not believing in love at first sight..and also not believing in physical beauty..That love will not last for ever..In my opinion, the two people should talk at least for a month..other wise they will not understand with each other..so, the people who decide to love will not do that by seeing the beauty of the other person..That will not be successive..thanks
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@kamaeca (161)
• Philippines
2 Jul 12
Yes because for me also, love sees beyond the physical. It isn't something that is only superficial. It has deeper sense to it. But I do believe love lasts forever. I haven't personally experienced that though (geeez! im only 22!) But i hope i'd find one. i really do. ^___^ I hope you do too. :D
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@pandasayori (82)
• United States
25 Jun 12
I'm rather half and half when it comes to deciding whether I believe or not. In my boyfriends case he's been in love with me ever since he met me almost four years ago, though we've only been together for three months. In a way, yes, I do believe at love in first sight. Not based on appearance, but by personality. :)
