A terrible coincidence
By winterose
@winterose (39887)
Canada
June 24, 2012 6:13pm CST
I just made a discussion about a woman in new from my old neighbourhood, we connect on facebook. We were texting back and forth about the upcoming community picnic. Anyhow I got tired of textng so I gave her my phone number.
We were talking for hours on the phone and it was really nice. I read her some of my stories and she loves my writing, she is going out to buy the books.
Then we moved on to more personal stuff, she asked me where I was working because the last time we spoke I was doing my university degrees for psychology.
I told what had happened and talked about working at the mental hospital. It appeared she and I worked at the hospital in the same year. I went on to talk about how there was a case where a woman employee was raped at the hospital that year. She was on duty in the middle of the night and patience wanted some medication or something like that. She went to get it and he cornered her and raped her. The hospital was advising each unit that this had happened and the future precautions they would be taking.
She suddenly went quiet, and I instinctively knew this was her. She had a hard time talking about it losing her ability to speak and the talk turned into a counselling session.
Have you ever had an unfortunate situation like this occur?
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9 responses
@sid556 (30953)
• United States
26 Jun 12
Hi Winter,
What a horrible thing to happen to anyone!! She is lucky that she had you to talk to. I am not a therapist but for some reason, a lot of people have opened up and talked to me about some very personal and often tramatic things. Recently, we hired a new young girl where I work. After being there about a week, she started telling me about her mom's boyfriend and how he had molested her for years and how she finally got the courage to tell her mom and her mom did not believe her. Her mother chose the boyfriend over her and now they are not on speaking terms.
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@winterose (39887)
• Canada
27 Jun 12
that is typical for the mom not to believe, that makes it even worse. A therapist would then explain to the girl she is not to blame and encourage the girl going to the police. Some will some won't.
@sid556 (30953)
• United States
27 Jun 12
I've been told that a lot over the years. I have been told by people I barely know that I am very easy to open up to. It's kind of something my friends have picked on me for. We can be walking down the road and someone will stop me to ask a simple question. 20 mins. later, I know half their life story. My friends will ask, "Did you even know that person?" Much of the time, I don't. Anyway, I've never considered getting into the field because for one, I think that by turning it into a job, it would stop being "natural" for me. Also, sometimes, I "feel" too much of these peoples problems and I get what I call, "Peopled out". I just don't think I'd be good at it...it'd be overwhelming. I'd still get it out and about in public and then I'd be doing it for work.
@shello (964)
• United Arab Emirates
25 Jun 12
I haven't had such experienced. However, if ever I were on your used I would really have a hard time on what to say to her. Being raped would be really terrible and I cannot imagine the trauma that she had been through. Good thing that it was you and you easily did find the composure of talking to her and I bet you did a good job in relieving her from that grief. Good job!
@PointlessQuestions (15397)
• United States
26 Jun 12
My field was nursing. I've helped lots of people with answers to questions. I've made observations and asked people to see their doctors. One person had a black streak on her thumbnail. I knew Forgiveness is nit for the cheater; it's for you. You can then have closure and go on with your life. You don't have to live with it day by day with the pain.
My former husband cheated on ne two years before u actually knew about it. He finally fessed up. I forgave him but I didn't want him in my life after that. He had cheated before and his MOM encouraged him to tell me. I forgave him then too but stayed with him. I told him if he ever did it again he was out if the house. So yes, I forgave him to FREE myself from that kind of bondage.
I want to enter heaven when I die. I know that if I have unforgiveness in my heart I cannot be forgiven. I'm not talking religion here. This is how I live my life.
could gave been a type of melanoma. I don't remember the outcome. My mind is like Swiss cheese. There are so many holes in it that I don't remember much.
@Thoroughrob (11742)
• United States
25 Jun 12
Wow, no I haven't. I would definitely stay in touch and be there for her. I would not bring it up again unless she did. Maybe you can become very good friends and help each other out.
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@winterose (39887)
• Canada
25 Jun 12
I am a therapist I know how to handle this hon. I told her if she wants to talk more about it she can call me anytime. I also told to get better she does have to talk about so she will heal, she has to get it all out.
But she can get a therapist, she is waiting for one now, and with the therapist she will eventually talk about it. This is how it works therapy. She has to begin to move forward and not stay stuck in her pain.
@se7enthbird (8307)
• Philippines
25 Jun 12
This was indeed a very terrible coincidence. I haven`t encountered it, not at least this terrible. But that was very brave and sweet of you to comfort way. It must be very tough to be in her situation. And she`s lucky to have you by your side. You two must have been really friends and it was like fate decided to put you together. I hope you can help her more and i also pray that you two become closer 
@winterose (39887)
• Canada
25 Jun 12
She is someone I know more like an acquaintance but I am glad I could help her.
@PointlessQuestions (15397)
• United States
26 Jun 12
I'm o sorry for what this woman went through. I'm also oroud that she and you connected again after so long a time. I believe this was a divine appointment for her to hear some words of wisdom from a professional. Even though you no longer work professionally, you hold yourself to a professional level. I'm glad you could help her.
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@winterose (39887)
• Canada
26 Jun 12
I thought of you when she told me she wanted to talk but the words would not come out She actually did well talking she explained everything well, the long dark coridor how he held her by the neck suspended in the air, I felt so bad for her.
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@PointlessQuestions (15397)
• United States
26 Jun 12
Glad she could tell you. It's tough when you can't talk. I have it every day.
@kingjay071 (96)
• United States
26 Jun 12
First off I would like to say sorry to that individual. Secondly, yes I have been in a situation like that. I was terrible and the person started crying and I helped the person out to relax and I gave them some pointers on how to handle themselves.
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@jirexpress (155)
• United States
25 Jun 12
Yeah, many times in my life I have brought on things that really hurt me or made me feel strange and just so happened it was either something that person was hiding or in some cases it was them that it hurt. To me its just GOD bringing us together to move on or bring comfort to the situation
@911Ricki (13588)
• Canada
25 Jun 12
I've been in your situation before and sometimes the other person needs to talk. Also, for someone to listen. Its so sad this happened to her especially at work as well. I hope both of you can stay friends and sounds like you guys really have a close bond.
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@winterose (39887)
• Canada
25 Jun 12
well we don't have a close bond, but I am a therapist a retired one.
