What would you do if you're on my side right now?
By mobhomeir
@mobhomeir (7558)
Philippines
June 25, 2012 10:05pm CST
Right now we're discussing with my mother-in-law (in behalf of all my in-laws) of our situation of staying here (in their house). We (with my wife) are in hot seat because we're against all odds. No one sided us, instead we are the subject of all the gossip in our neighborhood because instead my mother-in-law is the one passing the story about our life where she should have to keep it privately for our reputation.
My father-in-law will be the one to go if we could not move out right away as what he said to my mother-in-law. My other sister-in-law abroad let her other brother (who is also against in staying us here) stay here from their far residence just to force us to move out immediately.
Right now we will say honestly that our money is not sufficient enough for the house we're wishing to stay at and we are still looking for other option that could fit our recent budget.
To sum up all, they don't want us to stay here which likewise we never ever have a plan to stay here for long, primarily because of their attitude and character treating us like other people to them when in fact my wife is their younger daughter.
Any idea how to manage this kind of problem?
Please share...
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10 responses
@winterose (39887)
• Canada
26 Jun 12
sit down the two of you and have a talk with your inlaws, tell them your situation and what you are doing about it. Ask them for patience and see what happens, then if they still don't want you will have to make a sacrifice and move out. You will have to take any place not the one of your dreams.
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@mobhomeir (7558)
• Philippines
26 Jun 12
Hi rose, we did it already but not all of them but in behalf of their mother. The mother is very considerate, she didn't want us to go since they are already old but majority of them wanted as to go right away...yes..you're right jkct we must go away from them as soon as possible...thanks to you both my friends..
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@jkct02 (2874)
• Kota Kinabalu, Malaysia
26 Jun 12
I have the same views of what you suggested. There is always a place for 2 adults to stay. There is no point in staying somewhere which you are not welcomed as both of you won't be happy too. There is no use to change people's perception. Anyway it is their house.
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@JenInTN (27514)
• United States
1 Jul 12
Oh dear mobhomeir..I am so sorry you and your wife are living in such turmoil. It has been my experiences that more than one family in a house always wreaks havoc eventually. I know that there are families that live together with no issues but if there are more than one or two strong male or female influences, that is where the issues lie. That is not a bad thing...people are born alpha. It just poses an issue when they are in the same home.
I do hope that you are able to have your own dwelling soon and things are comfortable for you.
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@mobhomeir (7558)
• Philippines
1 Jul 12
Hi jenin you're right but, I was wondering, we have recently a neighbor who are still living in a small house though some of the siblings have their own children and yet they live peacefully, until now, i never heard that they are quarreling or having heated arguments that would gives me an idea that they have problem with their living. I guess it all depends on how the parents nurtured their children into what they are right now.I envy.
Yes, right now we are still looking for elusive new home. I hope we can finally found this week.
Thanks jenin for your share..
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@jaiho2009 (39142)
• Philippines
26 Jun 12
dear Martin,
Reading your post breaks my heart.
I have been through many trials, but there is always a hand that hold me not to fall.
Wish someone near you can lift you too and make you feel you are not alone.
@mobhomeir (7558)
• Philippines
26 Jun 12
Yes my dear bonita but there's nothing we can do to resist them because only their mother considered us to stay. We are still looking for that elusive house as of this time 
....thnks again for responding bonita...
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....thnks again for responding bonita...
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@cerebellum (3863)
• United States
26 Jun 12
I am so sorry you are in this situation. What kind of parents would force one of their children out when they have no place to go? I guess the world is full of all kinds of people. Maybe you should find anyplace to live just so you don't have to stay there! Just find a cheap place and tell yourself it won't be for long. I know you are saving for another place, and it might take a little longer, but at least you would be out of there!
@mobhomeir (7558)
• Philippines
27 Jun 12
Got it right my friend. I am not searching my dream house I am looking right now any one that we could transfer momentarily while looking really for us to settle in.
Thanks for the concern my friend and for responding..take care..
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@Bhebelen14 (5194)
• Philippines
26 Jun 12
I know this very hard for both of you right now but you need to be strong and do all your best get out in that house. I dont understand why your in-laws doing this to you and to your wife, they must be supporting you than treating like this. Hope that yu will a way right away so that you will have a less stressful and happy life with your wife.
@mobhomeir (7558)
• Philippines
27 Jun 12
They are my in-laws from HELL my friend. I never heard such family like this ever. I thought this only happens in the movie but it really happening to me...
Thanks for responding my friend...
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Thanks for responding my friend...
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@BysenBase (190)
•
26 Jun 12
I think that you need to sit
down and come to a
understanding of your financial
situation. Set a goal and have
them understand your budget.
I also advise that you take
whatever you can for as cheap
as you can living in a hostile
family environment leads to
really bad blood. But let them
know politely that your trying
to leave but can't and will be
gone as soon as possible. Let
them be bad but try to
spend as much time as possible
out of the house. I feel for you
man and hope the best for you.
And try to get with an agency it
may suck but it can help. Ill pray
for you man.
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@mobhomeir (7558)
• Philippines
26 Jun 12
Yes my friend I did it all already. I would not go home early and would not go inside the house as often if the old man is there. As of now we still looking for the elusive house for us to settle...thanks for the advise my friend...appreciate it...
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@SomeCowgirl (32191)
• United States
26 Jun 12
I think that you should do all in your power to move out. Honestly even if they do let you stay longer, you and your wife will not be happy with the situation. Do what you can to find somewhere to live and save and scrounge until you have enough saved up to get an even better place.
Good Luck To You.
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@mobhomeir (7558)
• Philippines
26 Jun 12
You're right my friend. I was already doing some house chores being always done by the old man to give us just a little bit consideration, but it is all to nothing. Nothing at all. Right now we are still looking for the right house for us...
Thanks for responding my friend..
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@shylade (3132)
• Philippines
26 Jun 12
You are in tough situation. I think you should just go out of the place for your own peace of mind. I know through God's grace you can find a house for you and your wife. I don't know why there are some people who doesn't care about their own relatives. Just keep on praying and this too shall pass.
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@mobhomeir (7558)
• Philippines
26 Jun 12
Yes my friend I know someday I can overcome this because I am not losing hope. Thanks for responding anyway...
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@buddha110 (15)
• China
26 Jun 12
i think you should pay some money for staying in their house. maybe that can take you some peace. god bless you.
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@mobhomeir (7558)
• Philippines
26 Jun 12
Yes that is a good idea my friend because this old man is so selfish and so greedy. But the problem is as of now I could do it yet because we are saving yet for our new house to come...Thanks for responding my friend...
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@ellegor (40)
• Philippines
26 Jun 12
what ah family...they should understand your situation and give you enough time to save or to find ways before they move you out. Family should help each other unless if their are some reasons why they want you to move out right away. As the man and as the husband of your wife, you should talk to them and try them to understand your situation. In staying with the parents of your spouse, you should do some things that you can contribute to their household like helping in the household chores or give some money contributions in terms of expenses. You should know how to adjust or to deal every person on that house. as i read your story, it so complicated...good conversation and listening are the best way to solve your problem . Good luck!
@mobhomeir (7558)
• Philippines
26 Jun 12
We've tried it already but all in vain. Only the mother considered us but since majority won't let us stay, majority wins therefore we must go the earliest possible. Thanks for responding my friend...
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