Women are more likely to commit financial infidelity

Absolutely not. I know not one woman who squanders money. This nonsense comes from television myths. It totally depends on the couple. There are wealthy men who have secret love interests and women who keep secret bank accounts. But it is totally unreasonable to say that women as a whole, as a species are more likely to do it. I can't speak for the whole world but for my 20 years on the internet and in real life I never heard one woman admit to it. And me myself, every cent of mine is his and vice-versa. Money that I myself waste hurts me as well as him so why would I waste it. I buy what I want and what I need because yes I work but I would never ever open a secret account, like I said that would only hurt me.

I do not believe this at all. Randy and I are very honest with each other and I would never have an account that he would not know about. If I do start an online business I may have a business account for expenses for materials and shipping, but I would tell Randy about it and he would have access to it. I am the one who does the family budget and he always knows what we have in the account and what needs to be paid off.

i guess the terms aren't appropriate for me. i suggest using the plain term secret finances.

I have to disagree with you actually. My husband knows about my bank account and I would never do such a thing. Nor do I ever go shopping unless it is for my kids. I HATE to shop, I know weird right? You probably thought ALL women like to shop too right? My husband is the shopper. He cannot save money worth a flip. I save money for him because he will buy everything he sees! He loves to shop and spend money! Lol. I think this is very general thinking that you have stated here. Not all men cheat, not all women shop, not all young people are rude and disrespectful, not all older people are grumpy...I could go on all day long with this. It is just plain judging and not the case.

Kingparker, I have heard that argument being circulated before: (1)among some women, and (2)which often form the basis of complaint by men in relationships with their partners. Really, I cannot understand it at all. In order to explain this weird situation, I wonder if perhaps, there seem to be some unwritten rules (or convention) that 'somehow' give the women (who are in the position to be in a joint financial arrangement with their spouses/partners) the right to use monies without giving a proper account of its useage to their partner. As a result, the discovery of and objection to, this 'strange behavior' in these women may tend to be source of conflict between the sexes; hence leading to elements of mistrust. I ask, if both parties in a relationship decide to have a joint financial arrangement, why would ther be a need to have a secret account being set up by the woman in the relationship- for her private personal use? Is'nt that strange to be accommodated?

I don't know whether its more females I think certain personalities. I am femle but I don't throw al my money on the table. I put money away just in case. I'm always afraid a relationship will fail and money will be an issue (lack of it). I always want that security I've had many exs say why I do this and I don't trust them, I simple need that know of me having savings in case of an emergency one being a split up. I don't hide it and make it clear, that we won't be sharing accounts which seems to cause a lot more issues but will pay my share of bills.

That is why i would rather have separate finances.. like us, i have my own and he have his atleast he won't get mad if i spend too much as long as we have all we need.lol but i still cannot prevent him from complaining as i am really that bad at budgeting but he does not push it more as he can see that i can provide what our family needs without asking money from him. I do only ask him on times when i ran out of short which is rare.

I personally believe that it is not fair to conclude that women are more likely to commit financial infidelity. This is the same as saying that women are more likely to steal money from the common family fund. Stealing- because this is assuming that the husband has no knowledge of the wife taking money from the fund/account, and the like. That is why, in my opinion, it is very important that wives must have a 'say' when it comes to all financial matters of the family. This is regardless of whether she is employed or unemployed. Marriage, in all aspects, must be an equal partnership where respect is given to each other. If there is trust and respect, I don't think matters like this will ever happen. By the way, kingparker, I like the last part of your post saying "If they work so hard enough, they should treat themselves something they really like." That somehow shows your generosity and being considerate as a person.