Love is longsuffering...

@CODYMAC (1356)
San Diego, California
July 1, 2012 6:53pm CST
Hello, everyone here. It is said that true love burns the deepest, but leaves the deepest scars. (Not sure who said it.) But, anyway... In every relationship, I have seen and been in, one wrong thing done can change how the other person looks at you forever. I am talking about my relationship with my Filipino girlfriend. Over the last few weeks, the same few I had been gone doing other things I didnt want to do, our relationship took a turn for the unforeseen due to my stupidity. Without getting into details, I will say that my jealousy is what caused her serious pain. We have a mutual friend, and she loves joking with him. He is a great guy, and I know that he would never try and take her away from me. At the same time, I see her joking as flirting. He and I talked about it, and came to the conclusion that he had done no wrong and neither had she. But before this understanding, I freaked out... I normally am pretty easy going, and mild mannered. It was the words she said to him that got me heated. I just sent her text after text telling her how unfaithful she was. And if she had a heart, she would see how bad it would look to her if I told a single woman the things she told our single friend. I took her pic off of my FB page because I was serious about being done with cheaters. I was not going to look back...until he and I talked. He had known her longer than I because they met, as friends, in the same christian dating site. So I believed him when he told me she was just a jolly gal... Ok, So, I was a jerk, and now I have to pay the price. She now thinks I am a little crazy and may need to understand Filipino culture a little better. Meaning that they are naturally a happy people, and love being friendly to everyone... I am just happy that she loves me, even if I am crazy... but there must be some way I can show her that the crazy she sees is just for her... And maybe I should send her some flowers? What do you all think?
4 responses
@debrakcarey (19887)
• United States
3 Jul 12
Flowers never hurt. humble yourself, speak from the heart. you're human, let her know that. Hope it all works out for you an her.
@debrakcarey (19887)
• United States
4 Jul 12
You have a treasure, God Bless you and her. AND don't do it again!
@CODYMAC (1356)
• San Diego, California
4 Jul 12
Yes, ma'am. I promise to never do it again. There is only one her, and one life. I will just spend it with her...
@CODYMAC (1356)
• San Diego, California
4 Jul 12
Thanks for that. She is a very understanding girl...I hate that it even happened once. It made me feel like a complete jerk... I have sent flowers...she loves them!!!
@jaiho2009 (39140)
• Philippines
4 Jul 12
Well exactly..Filipinos are happy, jolly and often mistaken as flirt for being like that. but no one can change our attitude or else it won't be us anymore. I hope you learned your lesson and love is a matter of trust- if you do not trust her, love is useless.
@CODYMAC (1356)
• San Diego, California
4 Jul 12
Yes, I have a ton to learn but I am a quick study. I know that she only has eyes for me... I love that about her too. She is just so happy all the time... It makes me happy too
2 Jul 12
I think you are deeply in love with your Filipina girlfriend. Congrats for having that wonderful feeling. I think it's just normal for you to be jealous but always listen to her explanations first and try to see things more clearly before you get into a conclusion that might affect your relationship with her. Maybe she is just too friendly but since she is already your girlfriend, there should be some boundaries when dealing with the opposite gender. Both of you should clear this thing and you know in a relationship both of you must consider each other feelings. You should both put an effort not to hurt each other in ways of words or acts. It's a good thing that your girlfriend still loves you despite of your misunderstandings. So, go treat her well and send her flowers to make her smile and let her feel your love.
@CODYMAC (1356)
• San Diego, California
2 Jul 12
Hello, jobfindonline. This is great advice and I am grateful for it. I have sent her flowers and a card to show that I will not give up. She didnt know before that I had a problem with what she was doing, and then, WHAM!! She thought I was going to break up with her, because she posted, "If Ever I'm In Your Arms Again" song. I had to tell her that I had no intention of break up with her. She just needed to know that someone in a relationship just shouldnt talk that way to a single person. They take things the wrong way. Anyway... thank you for your comment.
• Philippines
2 Jul 12
Filipinos love to joke around by the way, Do not misinterpret such things. She proved that she loved you since, even though you act despite of the though. Sure, send her some flowers, and add a love and sorry letter. I know she would love it!
@CODYMAC (1356)
• San Diego, California
2 Jul 12
Thank you for that wonderful advice. I am happy that she knows my shortcomings like I know her's. We are in this together. She really is a wonderful woman and I am happy that she is in my life.