People are separable.
By sharksfin
@sharksfin (1091)
Philippines
July 6, 2012 12:56am CST
People come and go. It's a fact of life that's simply inevitable. That's why it's but wise to not hold on too anything too much. Loving someone doesn't require us to keep them for as long as we want or wish. We have to learn to understand that it's just a matter of time, they'll want, need or even have to leave. It could be by choice or by fate. And, to insist that they stay longer could only hurt us. Fact is, most of the time, it's just what we want that we focus on. We don't bother seeing what they want. So, when what happens next is against what we want, it hurts us...and often we get angry. Let's just accept that certain decisions have to be made and move on. There is really time for everything: a time for hello and a time for goodbye.
1 response
@stealthy (8181)
• United States
7 Jul 12
What you say may be true. However, I know that the one time in my life that I was really, truly in love, I followed the old saying "if you love them, set them free" and I have regretted it for a long time now. I regret that I didn't try harder when she wanted to break up to get her to stay. As far as I can tell we both probably would have been better off in the long run if I had gotten her to stay with me. From what I know of her life since then and certainly of mine, it couldn't have been much worse.
@sharksfin (1091)
• Philippines
7 Jul 12
What you did was just ok, actually. It doesn't mean that because you feel "regret" means it's wrong you didn't really try harder. Regret is a wrong feeling. If say, you did try harder, and still nothing happened (I just listened to "In the End" by Linkin Park)...you could still regret you tried, right? I mean, having regrets is not a measure whether what you did or what you did not do is the right thing to do. There are reasons for why things happen. Most of the time, the reasons are beyond our understanding. Regrets only make us hold on to "what could've beens". We wonder, "what if"? Then, we begin to blame ourselves when the truth is, things simply happen. Don't begin the cycle of blame. If now you feel there was something lacking that you should'be given willingly, then, just learn and be conscious never to repeat it with your next relationship. Just saying. :)
Thanks for sharing, btw.
