On fights: would you be the speaker or the Listener type?

Hi Grenzy! I'm not really a fighter. I do have a temper, like most people do. However, I am really not into battles or grudges. I think I would be the listener type and realize that my soul mate was going through some confusing and difficult times. Perhaps things are going on that he will not tell me for whatever reason. I believe it is my nature to listen and nurture and not punish for whatever transgresses. That is the the massive part of this, the fact that one should not punish someone you love for a blow up. Lets face it, we all have them. If my soul mate were to have a blow up, I were to take it upon myself to nurture them, and not to make demands, ultimatums, or use it as an excuse to become a drama queen. these are people we love,and deserve our utmost consideration in all things. So yes, I believe I would be a listener and nurturer. When their anger is over, I act as if nothing had occurred.

I hold the same idea that it is not worth fighting as it only hurts people. There is no need for that. A peaceful situation is much more important than a fight. I like the saying, which goes, "It takes two to make a noise". If one keeps silent facing such a situation, no fight will arise. Take care, grenzy.

I'm usually the listener or observer, but if I have a clear opinion on the matter, I'm gonna speak up.

Personally when I get into a fight with my boyfriend, I never really end up saying what I wanted to say. I listen and try to reason, and not start fighting if possible. I hold too many things inside... One day I will explode like a bomb! I tend to hold back I guess because im afraid of hurting him... :-[