How do you handle anger?
By Pose123
@Pose123 (21635)
Canada
July 7, 2012 3:12pm CST
Anger, when channeled into the pursuit of change, can be a useful tool on our emotional plate. Anger is experienced by most people, some more than others but it is when it has no outlet and lies dormant within us, until it germinates into resentment, that anger carries with it the potential to cause great turmoil. It then allows us to assign blame for the pain we are feeling. Resentment tends to smolder relentlessly just below the surface of our awareness, eroding our peace of mind. The target of our resentment grows ever more abominable in our minds until we rue the day we first encountered them. In my opinion however, resentment is merely another hue on the emotional palette and therefore within the realm of our conscious control. We can choose to let go of our resentment and to move on with our lives, no matter how painful the event that incited it. It is never easy however, and can be very difficult because we would rather hold unto our anger than confront the original source of our anger. What has been your experience with anger and have you overcome it and if so how? Perhaps you are like many others and would rather hold on to your anger, if so what are your reasons?
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@suzzy3 (8342)
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7 Jul 12
I used to cry and shout when I was younger.The older I get the less angry I get,not letting things get to me anymore ,just walking away.There are some people in the family that take delight in upsetting and rubbing others up the wrong way for a bit of sport and a giggle.These relatives should really know better so not putting up with it anymore have decided to finish with them.I realised it was not me with the bad temper.To provoke someone on purpose for a reaction is just so awful.To bring up something from the past then laugh about it in front of them for a laugh will not happen in my house anymore,These so called clever intelligent ,richer family members will have a very lonley old age.rant.
@surveychick4 (380)
• United States
7 Jul 12
Yes we all have anger, and I have learned to turn to God. I have realized that not getting enough sleep can lead to anger as well. A person has to be strong in the mind.
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@Pose123 (21635)
• Canada
12 Jul 12
Hi surveychick, Thank you for commenting and I agree that a lack of sleep can lead to anger. Turning to God did not work for me but I guess it does for some, and I'm happy that it has helped you. I find that as I get older and more thoughtful, I become angry less and less often. Blessings.
@PointlessQuestions (15397)
• United States
7 Jul 12
Yes, a lack of sleep can lead to a short fuse. I have a long fuse, but when lit, it burns up fast and I explode. I have to be pushed and pushed in order to get angry, but when I do, I have to move on past the anger. If a person makes it a habit to push me in a direction I don't want to go, I have to drop the person from my life so that I won't live with that kind of anger in me.
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@vijayanths (7877)
• India
8 Jul 12
First of all I want to try my best not to get angry. That said, every man and woman gets angry, no doubts about it. But we can't afford to get it to often in life.
There are two types of situations that make us angry.
The situations that we can change and remove our anger- In this case we should do all that we can without getting too emotional.
Some situations make us mad yet they are not in our control. In other words, we can't do anything to change such situations, for example your flight gets delayed for a few hours that could mean a lot for you. In this case you just have to keep cool and leave everything to God.
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@savypat (20216)
• United States
8 Jul 12
Old age has taught me to take my anger away, and then to rant and rave to my heart's desire until I have vented all, heavy physical duties, like hand washing the floor or digging in the garden also help. This way I harm no one including myself and I do not bury this extreme emotion where it can come back and bite me
when not expected. This doesn't mean that the original situation escapes, but rather I can be cool and intelligent about dealing with it. Just a few ideas from a person with a terrible temper.
@starsailover (7829)
• Mexico
8 Jul 12
Hi Pose: I have to say that anger issues haven't been a big issue in my life because I am more the patient guy. However, when someone has hurt me in a personal way it's difficult to me to forget about this. I've been in a process to take the learning of these bad experiences and don't keep the resentment because when you feel resentment you are actually hurting yourself.
ALVARO
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@dellessimon45 (710)
• United States
8 Jul 12
There are a few ways that I handle my anger but the two most common ways are listening to relaxing music or working out. I love to work out, and when I'm angry, lifting gets pretty intense because I try to give 110% on a normal day. If I'm full of anger, I will rage, and I will give like 150% in the weight room which is very beastly. If its a softcore anger I may try to take a nap, or go for a walk, but music usually does the trick. I try listening to like dubstep or house, or maybe even reggae depending on how I'm feeling. I really do hate to be angry though so I try to avoid situations where I may experience the emotion.
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@dainy1313 (2370)
• Leon, Mexico
7 Jul 12
Many times I used to explode. Because I felt alone with the problems myself. But I had had many problems because of this. I´ve always had problems with my parents, til they get divorced and I do not see them no more together, that´s worse. However, I have found some nice ways to channel my anger, I exercise and I play music, and I work more on my eshop. In the past two years I have run two marathons, this year I make my debut in triatlon, and I play piano, and keyboard, and I get paid for my music. I have renewed my efforts to work harder on my eshop, and leave the messy housework rest in a lady that helps me. This has helped me 
. Blessings pose... dainy
. Blessings pose... dainy @PointlessQuestions (15397)
• United States
7 Jul 12
Hi Pose! Good to see you. Great discussion. Anger that is unexpressed is the number one ingredient for depression. Anger turned inward on yourself causes poor self-esteem and depression. Learning how to channel one's emotions in a positive way can bring healing to the self.
Many blessings to you!
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@Bhebelen14 (5194)
• Philippines
9 Jul 12
When I was young it hard for me to handle my anger because I used to shout and slammed all doors or even breaking some glass things inside the house but I overcome it when I noticed that i am become very violent when I am angry. Until one day I realized that I want to know how to handle my anger and found a way to divert my anger. Now when I am angry I am not shouting, slammed doors or even breaking any glass I just try to be calm by going to the kitchen and drink some water to rehydrate and relax my body, so far is very effective to me.
