Don't let go too soon but, but don't hang on too long.
By sharksfin
@sharksfin (1091)
Philippines
July 10, 2012 7:46pm CST
One of the hardest things in life is balance. Weighing things isn't as easy as we think it is. That's why many people who got their heart badly broken suffer longer than they should after a break up. Some, are too scared to even fight for anything then regret later on. Well, personality differs so, I guess there'll really be complications all the time.
But, it's gonna be helpful if we learn when to let go and when to hold on and how long one should hang on.
Mostly, women are the ones having the hardest time to let go. I am not sure why but they still hold on to this fairy tale in their heads that prince charming is still gonna come back to save them. It doesn't matter how long they have to wait. For as long as the feeling is there, even if they have to wait for ages, they will. While men are typically too easy to let go. It's like breathing to them. Makes me wonder why.
When can you really say you've been holding on too long? When can you say you're letting go too soon? What is balance?
3 responses
@stealthy (8181)
• United States
11 Jul 12
All I know is that you shouldn't make the mistake that I made a long time ago. I had been in several relationships that were sort of love but then I met someone and this time it truly was. Then there were some problems and she broke up with me and I followed the old saying(axiom, whatever) "if you really love them, let them go." I have regretted that ever since. If I had pursued her harder would we have ended up together, I don't know. I do know that I wished I had. I have had several relationships and one marriage since then, but I have never felt that kind of love again. I don't know why the men that you think have let go too easy did so, I just know that I did it from a misguided attempt at being noble about the whole thing. I have experienced your other point about women not wanting to let go. Someone I dated after my letting go when I shouldn't have was probably the most attractive woman I ever went out with but the chemistry really wasn't there. So I broke it off with her and she managed to get me to take her back. This happened a second time, but after I broke up with her for the third time, she finally gave up. I read another one of your discussions that I did not reply to in which you mentioned something about your age. But either I misread it or you weren't being serious because the depth of this discussion along with some of your photos point to you being older than the impression I got from that discussion. One of your photos even shows you with a child who, of course, may not be yours but if she is that implies you are older than I was thinking also. Then again that does not have to be true. It does make me curious as to how old you are, however.
@sharksfin (1091)
• Philippines
11 Jul 12
hahaha... which post is that that mentioned about my age? Can't seem to remember. My age is my most guarded secret you know. hihi
And no I am not married and I don't have a child. hahaha
Really, I look older than you thought I was? oh my!
I think real and strong LOVE happens only once in our lives so if we've finally found it, we better hold on and fight for it with all that we are. Especially, men have to do that. With us girls, it's easy for us to give love as it is our nature to just love. With men, who are more on the intellectual side, rather have to make a decision to love before actually loving for keeps. Just my observation, ok? Please just share you thoughts if you don't agree.
@stealthy (8181)
• United States
12 Jul 12
I'm not sure I agree about men being more intellectual. As far as your age goes, it was a post where you said something about going on 17. I particularly mean that you looked older but that your posts are more mature than most people's of that age would be. So I'm assuming you are older than that but that you are in your early to mid twenties. Even for that age you make some very mature and philosophical posts.
@Kashidanga1971 (1354)
• Bangladesh
11 Jul 12
Being in love is being in wild where people always try to find variety or innovation. Better we must socialise this kinda love and bring them under social legacy and accountibility.
@sharksfin (1091)
• Philippines
11 Jul 12
I am not really sure what you mean, but, I have observed that even in the matters of love, people really want to have many options. Many of them have long lists of their negotiables and non-negotiables. It's their preference, actually. But, for me, though, when we found love, we shouldn't anymore keep screening the person whether they fit into our lifestyle of liking. That when we find a flaw, we simply just wanna stay away and have nothing to do with them. I think I won't call that love. Because love accepts even all the bland things about the other person. This is just me...just my thoughts and belief.
@roshigo58 (4856)
• Pune, India
11 Jul 12
Yes balance though hard to perform is of a vital importance in happy life. One should able to know correctly as when to hang on and when to let go. If more stretched then a fear of break.So always try to achieve a golden mean. I know it is not a easy task but not impossible too. Always complete the work started and do not leave it in between being afraid of not failure.Be positive always and you will see a miracle that whatever was hard is now easy.
