courting in cellphones how disappointed?

@kiyumi (62)
Philippines
July 11, 2012 10:48am CST
Are you feelin bad when someone try to court you using their cellphones and saying " i love you " ? Or is it ok nowadays? Beacuse of high technologies that people using. But for me, as a woman I don't like it it is some kind very effortless in winning the woman's heart you love. I asked someone and did some research why guys did that about just using cellphones in courting to the girls they like. And one man says, I'm shy with her that's why I'm just sending messages containing my feelings that I like her rather than talking to her personally. If I'm gonna ask you. Are that kind of a guy are serious with the girl whom they like?
5 responses
• Canada
11 Jul 12
I do not think there is anything wrong with it. My partner and myself use our cellphones all day to send these types of messages, just to know the other is thinking of them. But, at the same time, we also use the same words when we are together in person as well. I can see how shy people can resort to this method, but if that is the only time that they express themselves, then I do not agree with it. If you are truly comfortable with the one you are courting, there should be no reason to also use the same words in person! But that is only my opinion!
• Canada
11 Jul 12
Sorry, just to rephrase what I previously said, there should be no reason why you cannot use both and express in both ways. But if he/she is only using the cellphone, then that is not right - in my opinion.
@eagletrek2 (5499)
• Kingston, New York
10 Mar 13
Hi in today area I think It might save time. Before cell.we guys Use to write papper Notes to ladies we like And some of us forgot To put our name On the paper.with The text the lady will know who like Her.
• Philippines
31 Jul 12
Some guys are too timid to express their feelings in front of someone they love nor like so they use other means on how to say it and mobile will help, i didn't see any problem with it as its also means of communication though of course there's still need for formalities so probably you can ask him to say it in person than in mobile and so you can answer directly seeing him in his eyes. If the guy refused then it means his just playing games with it and now his interested then go ahead and give him a chance, though of course it doesn't mean that you will also answer a big yes to him if he says that in person but at least you can tell him that now you know that it was him saying it and not just someone else trying to use his mobile to play games with you and if you interested with the guy then tell him to wait for you to think and decide and if not then tell him directly his sorry.
• Philippines
12 Jul 12
We cannot blame if were living on new technology and not in history. So that follows on courtship. For me it's some kind of communication not to be misunderstood. Actually it's okay for me to feel that I'm being loved by saying it thru phone call. Its some kinda sweet sometimes, Still the same usually if the guy wooing you is next from other side of the world. Like me in London he in New York. Communication bridge the gap. You can really feel it if the guy's really inlove with you or not despite ur not celphone or face to face. It's not disappointing at all. Well it has disadvantage but all I can say is there's more pros from it.
@giex22 (273)
• Cebu, Philippines
3 Mar 13
Some guys are really like that, they're always shy showing up what really they feel, but for us girls its disappointing that they court us through text and not in person. For me if they tend to send me some flying words i'll jut tell them directly that it is much better if you court me in person and not by just texting/ sending me with your flying words. You will see if that man really courts you in person if you tell it to them 'coz some guys are not really serious with their feelings towards you.