Sometimes I am thinking, I am an adopted daughter.
By airasheila
@airasheila (5454)
Philippines
July 15, 2012 10:57am CST
Good day Fellow Mylotters,
Before, I used to be closed with my mom. In everything that I do, I always consider her comments, feelings and suggestions. As I really want to be a good daughter for her. Although she always ignore my feelings and does not consider my emotions. Still, I am considering her words towards me. That I do always obey what she says, though she speaks tactless and her words are sometimes rude. I know I need and must obey her but, as time goes by, I feel tired and quite stress everytime she talks to me now. As a result, I prefer not to have a conversation to her instead and all I want to do is to keep quiet. Aside from that, I sometimes think, I am an adopted one because she is not doing this treatment to my other siblings.
5 responses
@jvincent_129 (4994)
• Philippines
16 Jul 12
I don't think so. She is just very concern with you. She is giving you discipline so that you'll become an obedient daughter. She cares for you and loves you very much. 
@airasheila (5454)
• Philippines
16 Jul 12
do you think it that way, perhaps, maybe, giving the benefit of the doubt the benefit.
@ShyBear88 (59342)
• Sterling, Virginia
16 Jul 12
Just because she acts that way with you doesn't mean your the adopted one. If you let someone walk all over you then they will always do that. Does the rest of your family allow her to speak or do things to them that you let her do to you. Your a human being and you don't have to listen to your parents ever especially after you become an adult you can do as you want and as you please there words mean nothing then.
@wilsongoddard (7291)
• United States
15 Jul 12
Why do you need to obey your mother? Perhaps, it is that your mother favors your siblings because they are independent and are seeking their own paths in this world.
Don't trouble yourself so much about being the dutiful daughter. Go be a strong, independent woman. Pursue the things that you want in life. I suspect that your mother will respect you more if she sees that you are strong and capable. Even if she doesn't come to respect you more, you will feel better about yourself. Either way, you will be better off than you are now.
@verolop29 (1096)
• United States
15 Jul 12
i dont know what to say to that. except ur mother should not do that to u. u r hers nevertheless and she should not treat u that way. shame on her!!
dont change babygirl. be who u are and keep at it. one day ur adoptive mother will come to relize what she is doing and she will hate herself for it. but u must be there for her. i know sometimes kids do need time apart from their parents, y, i dont know! my daughter is about to be 7 and she is now starting to feel that she needs some alone time. but not from me, from her little sister! she annoys her to no end!
u should have a talk with her and tell her how u feel about how things are now and maybe could better understand ur feelings and what not. how many siblings are there? are they younger or older? and u dont always have to do what she tells u.. like clean or do ur share of the household yes do it but if she picks a guy for u to date..have ur say in it. afterall she is not the one dating him!
talk to her, friend and let her know how u feel. i wish i had someone like that to talk to but i have no one. but im ok with that.
@subhojit10 (7375)
• India
15 Jul 12
Well i can understand your plight but what we should always remember is that parents are an embodiment of Lord. God are invisible parents while parents are living God.
parents always think about the betterment of their children and would aspire that their children stay happy and blessed through out their lives.
I hope things would definitely change and i wish you wait for the right moment to come.
