The one you love or the one who loves you?
By imAbigael
@imAbigael (475)
Philippines
July 17, 2012 11:53pm CST
I know that I'm stubborn to ignore this guy, full of efforts. I don't even know where he get this determination. I wrote poems and he turns it to a song, he sang the song post it on youtube just for me. We were friends since last year, I like him but only like a brother.
Suddenly, he has the courage to say something about his feelings. It feels awkward and then we fight, he act so annoying. I push him away.
It's been a month, I met a man and he is older than me (7 years). It was fast I was fell in love with him, just like he is my ideal man. But months later.. one thing that I hate about him, he cheated on me. On my own face! It's painful, I don't even know what to do, I cut my long hair. So stupid but I caught his attention, their attention.
After so many painful break heart, I can't see myself fall in love with another person again. Months later, I talk to them both, the 1st guy I treat him like a friend, but I know he has something carry on. Even though I said to him "no chance PLEASE!"... he is still waiting.
But the person that I loved he said, he was change after our breakup, I have doubt after giving my whole trust to him. If I give him second chance this is the last chance I can give. If he fail me again.. we cant be friends, we cant be lovers.
So my question to you... When you cant be with the one you love, will you stay with the one who loves you?
Thanks for reading my loveeeee story hehe.
Love is crazy but I know there is more than life than love. yes or yes? Good day lotters!
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6 responses
@karyl15 (251)
• Philippines
18 Jul 12
i maybe prefer to stay with the one who loves me because i know that he will always be with and i know in time i will be able to love him back.yes love is such a crazy feeling. love is very unpredictable, first you love each other the next thing you know is that you already broke up. its sad but also happy.
@dorannmwin (36392)
• United States
19 Jul 12
I am married to the man that loves me and also the man that I love. There is a part of me that doesn't care for my husband at times because of things that he chooses to do, but I still believe that he is the person that I am supposed to be with. I don't think that the feelings that we have for another person is something that we know right away, but I believe that for a relationship to be something that is successful long-term you have to love your partner and they also have to love you.
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@imAbigael (475)
• Philippines
19 Jul 12
Your lucky you have a husband like that. I wish I can find mine too. Thanks for sharing :)
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@Hatley (163781)
• Garden Grove, California
19 Jul 12
imAbigael look somehow you are fooling yourself. you know
that man no,2 whom you say you love cheated on you.okay
once a cheater usually always a cheater.No he did not change not in that short a time. do not fall for that hooey , now go to
number one. look at him without that judging you did before.
there is something in him you like.or you wou
d not be protesting so much he is just a friend. try going out on a date with him as friends then if you sense something open your e yes and heart. I think you could be in love with him but you do not want to be.
d not be protesting so much he is just a friend. try going out on a date with him as friends then if you sense something open your e yes and heart. I think you could be in love with him but you do not want to be.@Hatley (163781)
• Garden Grove, California
19 Jul 12
ImAbigael whatever you decide do take time to think. do not take
him back unless you c an see he has changed. most I have seen do not change and just keep hurting different women,. sorry the friend who l oves y ou is so irritating as sou nds like he is the better man.but ultimately you are the one who has to decide.
@imAbigael (475)
• Philippines
27 Jul 12
Its been a week and I'm thinking of it over and over I've decided that I want to love myself first, these guys bothering me I cant sleep they continue irritating me and its not healthy for me, its funny I ended this up into nothing. I realize, I'm still young and maybe this is not my time. Thank you so much I appreciated all of your replies.
@imAbigael (475)
• Philippines
19 Jul 12
I know, but I love this man and don't worry about me i'm not that person again, fall in love so fast. I need time to see this man really changed.
My friend number 2, I feel so bothered he is so annoying (really!) every move I do he notices it. I don't know this feeling but he really irritate me ,unlike when we are friends before.
Maybe yah im just fooling myself. I need time to think. :(
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@anex08 (868)
• Philippines
18 Jul 12
hmmm. hard question but my advice is love yourself first. according to saying "you can't love somebody truly if you have not truly love yourself first. Love isn't instant, love hurts but forgiving and love is understanding but not stupid. This is the same with the saying that a "cheater is a cheater" I don't believe it though because every human being has the capacity to change into a better person. You must ask yourself if you are ready to be hurt again because falling in love is like falling into trap where hurt is it's best friend. .
But don't be afraid to fall in love with the right person, you may get hurt but I assure you it's worth it...:-)
@imAbigael (475)
• Philippines
18 Jul 12
Thanks for replying i'll keep that in mind. Thank you again :)
@rhodzptc (1317)
• Philippines
18 Jul 12
If you can give a chance to the one who cheated on you? why can't you give the one who loves you a chance. Remember this man is waiting for you he is patience and it was a virtue for some one to have a that kind of patience. Why not give them both a chance let them prove their selves test them if you needed to. In the end its your heart who will decide.
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@imAbigael (475)
• Philippines
18 Jul 12
Let the best man win! hehehe thats for the wonderful idea.
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@imAbigael (475)
• Philippines
18 Jul 12
Thank you so much.. Im not on rush but also I want to clear my mind. I want to choice the right decision. Ill keep that in mind :)
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