moving on tips
By itsmechelle
@itsmechelle (114)
July 19, 2012 8:47am CST
For those people who are currently experiencing heartaches due to breakup, allow me to share with you some tips on how to deal with the pain. NOTE: My (ex)boyfriend for 8 long years broke up with me 6 months ago, because (I guess) he finally found someone to replace me. Yes, it hurts.. soooo much, but I never made things difficult for him (coz I love him sooo much) so I set him free. He's now happy with his newly found woman.
NEVER GET BITTER. Bitterness will just make you look more a loser. Wish him all the best in life.
EMBRACE THE PAIN. You can never avoid pain. I know that it could be so severe that even you yourself will find it very hard to define or explain. Just cry as long as you want and as long as you need.
And as for my case, I CHOSE TO REMAIN BEING FRIENDS with my ex-bf right after he broke up with me. I remained nice to him and I never got mad on him. The reason is.. it's much more easy to move on with peace in your heart.
Go all throughout the process. Never avoid and try to escape. "The pain that you've been feeling, it can't compare to the joy that's coming."
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@subhojit10 (7375)
• India
19 Jul 12
i totally appreciate your way of thinking about the post-break up situation.
While some people take break ups sportingly, some people often become a prey to stress and depression.
It is indeed important to understand that life is not bed of roses. We need to struggle every bit of the moment to earn an identity for us. If we are stuck after a break up and start thinking about it every moment then we are sure to lose our identity among the people.
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@padu19 (1441)
• India
20 Jul 12
Being friendly with that person is the right thing! I appreciate you for having chosen this solution. Because, the more you try to keep yourselves away or the more you try to forget someone, the more it will keep running in your mind.
It is not a healthy solution. I would thus suggest you to be normal and yet friendly with this guy. 
Good luck! 
It is not a healthy solution. I would thus suggest you to be normal and yet friendly with this guy.
Good luck! @itsmechelle (114)
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20 Jul 12
Thank you! It's good to know that someone agreed that I did the right thing. ;-)
@Jshean20 (14349)
• Canada
27 Jul 12
This post proves that you obviously have very strong character which is awesome, not a lot of people could remain friends or put bitterness aside, I'm not sure if I could do that myself. Good for you, this positive attitude and mature outlook will bring you someone special when the time is right.
@churchill1980 (764)
• Philippines
25 Jul 12
i don't have much tips on moving on. i just do what i felt i want, but one thing i constantly do is loving myself more than anything else. i cry when i feel it. and oh, when i just have my heart broken, i notice that i sleep a lot. i think it comforts me more. i pamper myself like going to the saloon or spa. i feel good after a relaxing massage, or new hair style. it boast my self confidence again after feeling like "trash" 
. basically, i think, handling breaking up will depend more on your personality 
and just doing what makes you feel good and happy.
. basically, i think, handling breaking up will depend more on your personality and just doing what makes you feel good and happy.
@yiart65 (146)
• Singapore
19 Jul 12
Acceptance is definitely the first step to moving on. I did the same way as you did. Embrace the pain. But remain as friends right after the break up doubles the pain. Could not bring myself to do so. Took a really long time to get over the pain too. Well, every one of us has a different approach to moving on. As long as it works, it will be fine.
@anneshirley (1516)
• Philippines
19 Jul 12
Moving on....easy to say but hard to do....this is one thing that all of us will experience whether we like it or not. I just broke up with my very first boyfriend 3 months ago and it hurts like hell but I cannot beg him to say because it will just pain us even more. Before we can really say move on, we must first accept things that happened to us. Once we learn to accept, we can put logic into our system and work for our good. Just like they say, if you can't depend on your heart, depend on you logic instead.
@triplejazzm51 (1373)
• Philippines
19 Jul 12
Tha's right michelle, forgiveness makes us move on, no matter how painful our experience is. If somebody hurt us, we forgive him, so in moving on, we don't have a burden. When we forgive someone we have peace of mind and we don't look miserable or haggard. So look at the brighter side, frustrations makes us strong.
@Raine38 (12257)
• United States
19 Jul 12
I think the first step in moving on is acceptance. Accept that your relationship has ended. Accept that there are really people like him. Accept that you have to grieve. Accept that your grief have an expiration date. Accept that sh*t happens even to the undeserving. Accept that this really happened to you. After acceptance, you can start forgiving. Once you're past these, the rest will be easy peasy. Its always the first step that's the hardest to take. But once taken, the rest just follow into places.
