My Mother In Laws Phoney Ilness
By MoonGypsy
@MoonGypsy (4605)
United States
July 20, 2012 5:06pm CST
well, now that she has swindled ssi for money. our tax dollars is going to yet again another fraud. right now there is someone who really needs ssi, but is getting denied. meanwhile, i know she is faking. i wish i could call on her, but my conscious won't let me. not to mention, she could narrow it down and find out who it is. she knows me by my views. she knows i hate people trying to use the government. my husband would be so upset at me for doing that. i wouldn't be able to live with the fact that i called. i would feel like i am stooping to her level. we use to hang out all the time and do things together. we were really close, but i can't hang out with her anymore. i don't respect her as a person. i don't look up to her at all. i look down on her for her ding bat actions and her con games. it makes me harbor so much resentment for my own daughter's grandmother. she is no role model at all for her kids or grandkids. this makes me feel torn and conflicted. i don't know. maybe i should get someone else to call on her. wouldn't that be the same thing, though? sigh. does anyone know anyone who has faked an illness to get ssi (she is faking multiple sclerosis) and then got caught? is there a chance that they will catch her? i know how she slipped through the cracks, but can they pull her out is the question. i feel so guilty about hoping so. i think i will chant to get these negative feelings out of my heart for my kids grandma.
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@savypat (20216)
• United States
21 Jul 12
It sounds like the choices you have made in this issue are really bothering you.
Time to review these choices. In this case you must look out for number one, that is you. No matter what other may say or do, you are the one who must live with your choices all of your life. Many times in life there is no easy answer, do what you need to do to look yourself in the mirror again. Blessings
@MoonGypsy (4605)
• United States
22 Jul 12
no, it's not my choices that are bothering me...it's hers. i didn't help her one bit defraud the system. i just knew what she was up to every step of the way. i know that i can't tell on her. i wouldn't be able to look my family in the eye. i wouldn't be able to live with it to know that it was me who foiled her get down. the only thing i can do is just be disgusted inside and hope that there is someone out there who really needs ssi and getting it. that way at least justice is served in some way.
@sid556 (30953)
• United States
22 Jul 12
Moon,
That is exactly what Savypat is saying. It really IS your choice to help her cover it along with the rest of the family whom you could not look in the eye if they found out it was you who told. It's wrong and you know it which is exactly why you are disgusted. Also IF she were to get caught and anyone at all found out that you knew...you would go down right along with her for knowingly covering for her.
@3SnuggleBunnies (16374)
• United States
21 Jul 12
You know she's not the only one to scam the system. I did a discussion about a firefighter who hurt some portion of his finger so he's "disabled" and collects a healthy disability check plus runs a business in his wife's name. Yeah disabled my tushie!
I'm sorry you have to bite your tongue about this. All you can do is hope that karma will come to those in which it's due.
@MoonGypsy (4605)
• United States
21 Jul 12
i know karma will prevail. it's just a shame that we often can't see justice take it place.
@SomeCowgirl (32189)
• United States
20 Jul 12
That just makes me sick. My late mother had MS and when she firsst applied it was hell for her to get ssi because at the time the government believed that if you could use your brain you could still work. It sickens me that the government has lowered there standards and allowed so manyto claim government assistance who dont need it. If i knew you i would call for you and probably call your mother in law out on it in front of everyone. I had an aunt in law who would get people to pity her by spreading her lies. I hate that.
@MoonGypsy (4605)
• United States
20 Jul 12
yes, i understand your frustration. i know someone who has brain cancer, surgeries and all. still is having trouble getting his ssi. i just don't how they let her get over. i hope your friend finally got her ssi. at least my tax dollars could be going to something legitimate.
