Have you been Stalked On Facebook?
By dismalgrin
@dismalgrin (2604)
United States
July 21, 2012 2:27pm CST
I love Facebook... I really do. But, at the same time it annoys me. There has been this person trying to friend myself and my boyfriend for a couple years now. The name sounded totally made up and there was no profile picture so we figured that it was probably his exwife trying to start stuff. She has tried on several occasions to contact him and said things like she thinks he looks good still and all that. He keeps blocking her, but she makes new accounts.
Well, yesterday I got on Facebook with my phone and saw that this same person was trying to friend me again and now they had a profile picture. I couldn't tell who it was because it was a far away picture so my boyfriend showed me how to zoom it in and I about hit the floor in shock. My ex fiance who I thought I had completely gotten rid of has been trying to friend me on Facebook! Arggggg! I got moved, changed my number twice, and got a new car all so he wouldn't be able to find me and yet somehow he does anyhow. It's been years since I've seen him the last I saw him he broke into my home and violated me while I was messed up on new meds that the doctor gave me for Bipolar and I couldn't do anything about it. It stirred up a lot of feelings of hatred for me. I am with a wonderful man now who would never do anything to me like this Ex of mine did and now both of our ex's are trying to stir things up. I kind of wish they'd get together and leave my man and I alone.
6 responses
@choybel (5042)
• Philippines
22 Jul 12
I don't think I am worth stalking...
but, i have heard similar cases and Facebook is mostly involved, probably because it is now one of the most used social networking site and very easy to find people you are looking for. It is sad In your case, don't you think you can stop using Facebook? I mean if you are not really using Facebook for any other important stuff then maybe you should avoid having an account there to prevent being stalked. The kind of person you have described as your ex sounds really dangerous and it would definitely be good to have no communication at all with him and best to let him have no way of finding you and bother you again.
but, i have heard similar cases and Facebook is mostly involved, probably because it is now one of the most used social networking site and very easy to find people you are looking for. It is sad In your case, don't you think you can stop using Facebook? I mean if you are not really using Facebook for any other important stuff then maybe you should avoid having an account there to prevent being stalked. The kind of person you have described as your ex sounds really dangerous and it would definitely be good to have no communication at all with him and best to let him have no way of finding you and bother you again.1 person likes this
@dismalgrin (2604)
• United States
23 Jul 12
Thanks for your response. I don't think anyone should be worth stalking... or everyone should, not sure what sounds best to say. But, anyhow, yes he is a dangerous guy, but I'm so over him... and I can be dangerous too if I'm violated like that. So, I hope that he just stays away.
@winterose (39887)
• Canada
24 Jul 12
that is awful, I hope these people do not come back into your lives. Fortunately, for me nothing like that has every happened.
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@dismalgrin (2604)
• United States
25 Jul 12
Oh I won't let this man back into my life. And my boyfriend now will help make sure of it. It's funny when I dated this other guy my mom was all for me dating him. My Dad hated him. However the guy I'm seeing now my Dad totally approves of. My Mom can't stand him... I don't trust my mom's instincts on men anymore.
@savak03 (6684)
• United States
23 Jul 12
Back before face book and computers in general changing your phone number and address was usually sufficient to drop out of sight. Now with your life posted on the web it is easy for almost anyone to track you down. The only way to stay hidden is to get totally off the grid.
@vidhyaprakash_2 (7116)
• India
23 Jul 12
Back stabbing and stalking activities are common in most of the social sites. As some persons are joining with social sites to scam and spam it, this kind of spammers will check our profile and send friendship request to us, after approving their request, they started to send spamming messages to us. Better to deny this kind of persons request.
To avoid unwanted issues, first of all we must check the persons activity in the site and confirm whether we know about the person or not, if the person is completely strange to us and don't have any activities in that site, better to deny their request. Some persons will find some pretty girls account in social site and started to send the friendship request again and again to them even though they are denying the request, better to report this kind of persons to the admin.
We must avoid giving personal information in public mode in the social sites, it will help others to know about our contact details, better to avoid sharing address and phone numbers in the social sites, if you are in need to provide them, change your account settings to private, it will protect your privacy.
Flirting are common in most of the social sites, don't give importance to it, if you are not interested with a person, better to block him/her or delete their name from your buddy list.
@imAbigael (475)
• Philippines
23 Jul 12
well yah be careful, i have a stalkers on facebook too but i dont add them just be careful for those you will accept as your friends, just choose the people have mutual friend/s or just add the people you really know.
@dismalgrin (2604)
• United States
23 Jul 12
Thanks for respoding... I don't add anyone I don't know on Facebook... in some way or another.
