Where are all the nice people?
@TrinityDownpour (790)
Liechtenstein
July 22, 2012 12:38am CST
I can't even make a simple discussions without people attacking me or being sarcastic about it. Yes, most people say grow a thicker skin blah blah or It's the internet or Grow some (insert something here). But to me that is an excuse for people to continue to be rude.
And the site I'm posting is a site for professionals. But I see some immature behavior.
People love to abuse their rights to freedom of speech don't they? They really need to understand there's a limit to freedom of speech.
They started insulting someone and you politely tell them "if you got nothing nice to say then don't say anything at all". But the person insulting you starting attacking you because you are violating their rights to freedom of speech.
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@much2say (57760)
• Los Angeles, California
22 Jul 12
I think sometimes it's all in the way people say things - and how people react to it. Sometimes a person may phrase things in a way that it doesn't sound nice, though it may not have been intentional (or at least not meaning to sound that bad). And then the rest is how we interpret what they have said. That happens in real life - but it's harder with online communicating because we can only judge by the written word. Every now and then, even on myLot, I will see comments on my discussions that I feel are insensitive or sarcastic . . . and I have to tell myself not to take these punches personally. Or at least maybe I think it's a punch, but it's really not - but it sounded that way to me. I don't know if that makes sense? But yes, there are those who are darn right rude and quite obvious about it. Well, we can't control them, but we can try to control how we react to these kinds of people and their words.
@much2say (57760)
• Los Angeles, California
22 Jul 12
binggaling
Haha - yes, I would love some fruit punch - ha ha!!
That's another thing - the cultural factor! This reminds me of the other day when one mom friend told me she was highly offended by another mom we knew. I guess she was told by her that she looked like she lost so much weight because the last the she saw her she looked fat! 
. I know this mom - and she doesn't know how to speak English that well, so I really don't think she meant to be offensive - it just sounded really bad the way she said it. Things can get lost in translation too.
. I know this mom - and she doesn't know how to speak English that well, so I really don't think she meant to be offensive - it just sounded really bad the way she said it. Things can get lost in translation too.@TrinityDownpour (790)
• Liechtenstein
22 Jul 12
I think those people in the forum made it very clear that I'm stupid for making the thread , I'm not welcome there , they simply want nothing to do with the other site I mentioned and they have a very low opinion on it,they think I'm not entitled to post whatever I want as long it's within rules or I'm a busybody with no life.
@Lorden (348)
• South Africa
22 Jul 12
That's awful! People have been mean to you online? Shame on them!!
There is one problem about the internet and that is that you never see who you're talking to. Eye contact is very important to read someone's soul, and observing their body is very important as body language is part of their communication.
All of that is lost on the internet, so you may find that people have no empathy for each other online.
And now that you understand that, I hope it will help you to not expect much if any empathy from anyone. Remember, everybody who's chatting online are most likely people who were rejected by actual living, breathing society, because they didn't have the social skills to get along with their peers. So, they turn to the internet as lonely basement dwellers.
But they still don't have any social skills, so they won't be any better online.
Just don't have any expectations of people being decent online. And then if they are, see it as a bonus. Disappointmnet is none other than having expected what wasn't there. Don't expect that.
Love your fellow man online!
@TrinityDownpour (790)
• Liechtenstein
22 Jul 12
Actually they were not that mean. But instead they reply sarcastically to my thread in a way that it makes me feel like I did something wrong or feel awkward for even posting there. And that the forum I posted in were even made for off topic discussions.
@aabuda (1722)
• Philippines
22 Jul 12
Really there are people who doesn't care of the feelings of others. As long as they will air their so called freedom of expressions.... so bad...
@natliegleb (5173)
• India
22 Jul 12
This is one heck of a ride and i have also witnessed in many forum and nice site too,they are all basically spammers and hackers who find their way in somehow and want to hurt everyone and nettle everyone through their bad attitude and try to create a ruckus.
That is really disturbing to see,the only solution would be to ban them as a part of violation of terms and if possible imprison them in real life so they will realise what a mistake they have committed.
The rules have to become quite stricter
@TrinityDownpour (790)
• Liechtenstein
22 Jul 12
If you imprison them people will start to cry foul. They will complain that the authorities have violated the right to freedom of speech and point fingers at the victim of internet abuse.
They really should be thankful of the rights they had because in my country you're not allowed to even suggest what a government should do or point out their mistake because it leads you to instant arrest.
@squallming (1775)
• Malaysia
22 Jul 12
Yes, it is definitely true that most people are abusing their rights which is very wrong. I did encounter exactly the same situation where someone pops out of nowhere and insult and critic what I said and done. When being questioned back, they would say that they have the right to say or do whatever they like. Some customers also abuses the "Customer is always right" term which really irritates me.
