To stay acquianted or not
By aileen2008
@aileen2008 (838)
Philippines
July 22, 2012 5:38pm CST
The other day I've posted quitting the job because I am not in good terms with my office mate. I have decided to not have anything to do with this person, because we only end up fighting. Aside from the fact that he says bad things about me behind my back (another co-workers confirms that) and shows how nice he is to me whenever we are face to face gave me the signal that I should stop reaching out to this person.
He has brought out the worst in me. And if that happens already, isn't it time to call it quits? We can talk and discuss regarding work, but personal relationship like trying to be friends is something I should avoid already. Don't you think? Am I bad? Do I violate the golden rule, Love your neighbor as I have love you?
3 responses
@Raine38 (12387)
• United States
23 Jul 12
I know this is slightly off the discussion but, why quit your job just because of one office jerk? You could have asked for a transfer or just avoid this person completely. You are there to work anyway, not to socialize and make friends. In my opinion, its not right to let yourself be bullied into quitting your job.
@emdjay23 (1575)
• Philippines
23 Jul 12
i think you just have to ignore him, just focus yourself to your job..and better not to be friends with him because he's a back stabber.you're not bad,you're just picking true friends..it's hard to trust someone these days..
@janiece (55)
• United States
23 Jul 12
I think you are doing the right thing. The Golden Rule is actually "Love your neighbor as you love yourself" and the best way for you to love yourself is to not to subject yourself to abuse from anyone.
That doesn't mean that you have to be mean or mean spirited. It just means you limited your interaction with this person. When you have to interact, be cordial and nice. Say hello or good morning and leave it at that. Send good energy their way and take care of yourself.
You are actually loving this person by helping them understand, in a loving way (by your loving actions), that it's not OK to treat people wrong and that you love yourself enough not to let them do it to you. Eventually, they might even learn to respect you.
