Do I have to be involved on this?
By lynpreety
@lynboobsy11 (11343)
Philippines
July 24, 2012 12:55am CST
Okay this is the problem here, well it's not mine but it seems I'm involved.
It is about almost 2 years when my friend here traveled in the US. This friend is making fool of this guy who happened to be her boyfriend for almost 5 years now that almost a father to her. She has a family here living with her husband but she told this guy that she was been separated so long ago before they met. I will just call her K.
K got her multiple tourist visa in the US she was with this guy and she lived at his place. I have also a friend who lived in the US and she is C one of my best friend, and K knew this. K ask me if she can meet C there so she can have at least a Filipina friend. I asked this to C if she has time to meet K. Well she also agree. They met at the Casino, but C already told me that she don't want the attitude of K since she is a hooker and also arrogant. I almost knew that, it is only I want to be nice with them both and even K has this kind of living I'm not the type of person who will also agree and do the same as she is.
After they met I never knew that behind those meeting K do something not good to C. According to the version of C, K asked her a favor to deposit a money she steal from her boyfriend while in the Casino. I think she won and she did not told this to his boyfriend instead she ask C to send the money to her family here just to make it secret. C was nice and friendly and for her it is not a big deal to send money but after that It is clear to her all the money she gave it was written in front of the envelope where the money was inserted. And also she gave an extra money that was not included on the written amount. But C is the one who write it down. Since I think it is not allowed to deposit such that big amount of money C divided it into two deposit. But before she make the second deposit K called her and ask her how much is the rest of the money left. C told her the amount together with the other money that she was the one who wrote. K wonder if it is only the money left in other words K accused C that she took some money from her. Which is impossible to believed C is a US citizen with a nice full time job and with a family and of course a good background. C was totally angry with her and she told me she will give the rest of the money to K boyfriend she doesn't care if he will knew about it. I already talked to K about it and she admit that she was sorry for accusing C but what done is done she already hurt C's feeling, and I also told her she the one who asked favor why she have to accused her. Still up to now the money was on C's hand I don't know what her plan but she's still angry with her.
Up to now K always text me to remind C about her money which is I know I'm out of their business. I knew them both but I don't want also to be in their middle. But still I have a feeling that I want them to fixed the problem which I don't know how. I'm really bothered about this.
9 responses
@Raine38 (12387)
• United States
24 Jul 12
Of course you don't have to. They may be both your friends, you may be the reason why they get to know each other. But they're grown ups, both of them are capable of making their own decisions. You don't know what really happened, and always remember that there's always three sides to a story: K's side, C's side and the truth. If C really didn't like K on first sight, she could have avoided her entirely and refused to be involved with the money deal. Everything gets so messed up when people starts dealing money with other people they barely know. I suggest you stay out of it, the more you say anything about it, the more you just dig yourself into the mess. That doesn't mean you're being a bad friend, you're just letting the actual people involved resolve what they need to resolve. They're no longer kids, they know what's right and wrong.
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@lynboobsy11 (11343)
• Philippines
24 Jul 12
I just hope they act like a grown ups too. But when I see it C wants to give her a hard time on this.
@dorannmwin (36392)
• United States
26 Jul 12
Oh man, that really stinks that you have to end up being the person that is stuck in the middle of this mess. I am not able to stick up for either of these people because of the fact that I don't know them. Therefore, it is clear that there is someone here that is lying and which one of them it is isn't clear to me.
I personally think that you should tell K that you are not able to remind C about the money because you really don't feel like it is your place.
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@lynboobsy11 (11343)
• Philippines
26 Jul 12
thanks, C already told me that I should not be involved on this and if K ask me about C I will just tell her to call C not me.
@drannhh (15219)
• United States
24 Jul 12
It does not seem like a difficult decision to drop K, who seems to be a shady character and to stick by your friend C who deserves better than to have K pestering her. But I hope C learned something and that is not to launder money for someone of dubious character. Surely you do not want them to fix the problem, because it would seem that K is the problem. Surely it would be better for her to simply be dropped out of the equation. Good luck and please do not allow K to suck you into anything unscrupulous. I do not think you will introduce her to any more of your friends.
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@lynboobsy11 (11343)
• Philippines
24 Jul 12
Im really got a lesson now from her attitude. It was a shame to introduce her to someone.
@savypat (20216)
• United States
24 Jul 12
Other than introduce them you have no responsibility here. Each one of these people has made their own choices and now needs to cope with the results. Say a prayer and wish them well and do not allow yourself to be dragged into this relationship. It's just a waste of your energy. Blessings
@bhabycatch013 (9150)
• Philippines
24 Jul 12
hi lyn,
I know that you just been a good friend to C and K but unfortunately K got some attitude and brought some problem in you like what Jai said just tell C to send the rest of the family to K's family and forget her.
If K will still bother you about this tell her honestly what you feel.
happy mylotting
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@lynboobsy11 (11343)
• Philippines
24 Jul 12
Hi bhaby, I just hope by this time C is not totally hurt of what happened 2 years ago. And I just hope she already has her revenged when she gave her K a hard time to get her money. K told me that she texted C and even called her but she can't get through. I told this to C she told she also did not received any text or call from her. I don't know who's telling the truth.
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@Chibenze (71)
•
24 Jul 12
You cannot ignore them, because you are the one who brought them together, so you are the real root to all this problem and also the real one to solve the problem, my advice for you is to speak with c make her understand you and parsuade her to send the money back to k, also talk to k as a friend make her understand that she is wrong and every thing we be alright.ok good luck
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@lynboobsy11 (11343)
• Philippines
24 Jul 12
But Im not the one who ask them to be introduce. K is the one who ask me and before I introduce them to each other I also ask C. I also warned C about K as a user and I hope she will not be also a victim. Behind this is the plan of K that's why she wants have a friend there because she wants to use C on her agenda.
@jaiho2009 (39140)
• Philippines
24 Jul 12
I see the point why you are involved.
You are the one who made these two girls met each other.
Anyway, it's not the problem in this case- but here you are getting involved deeply.
I suggest that you convinced C to deposit the remaining money to K's family and forget about K forever.
That is the best thing to do to end all this thing.
because, if C will try to get involved and give the money to K's boyfriend, she won't be able to get through with the situation- instead, it will only make things worst than expected.
Let the money disappear and give it to K's family, at least the money will gone for good and C can now moved on erasing every memory of K.
@lynboobsy11 (11343)
• Philippines
24 Jul 12
I already ask this to C 2 years ago after she told me what happened. And it seems she is not returning the money to K, she told me she knew K's boyfriend and he is very kind in other words C is on K's boyfriend sympathy she was pity on him that after all what he gave to K she can do this to him. I told C it's not her problem anymore K is the one who fooled her and I know someday K will be the one who is responsible on this wrong doing of her. That's why I never convinced C about returning her money. I will try again this time I hope she forgot all what happen and I hope it will be fix soon.
@lynboobsy11 (11343)
• Philippines
24 Jul 12
C told me that the money is still on her, she just no chance to visit K's boyfriend because its too far for her also. Im really don't want to get involve on this that's why even we are talking I don't open up about it maybe that's why it is also got this long. I also suspected that K are not really calling C because she know she hurt C's feeling before. K is a user I know her and I was her victim also before that's why I avoided her. My only wrong is I introduce her to C but I also warned C before about K's attitude that she is a user, I did not really expect this is the plan of K when she ask me to meet and be friend with C. I will try to ask again C for the last time what is her plan about K's money.
@jaiho2009 (39140)
• Philippines
24 Jul 12
Granting C knows about K's boyfriend being kind and generous- still the fact it is K's money.
There is no reason for C to keep the money- let she put her self on K's shoes, what would she feel?
K has all the rights to demand for the money- and if C wants to get out from this problem she needs to give the money back to K or send it her family which is the first instruction.
Gosh...so it's been two years....where is this money which is the root of all these troubles?....
I am not on K's side, but no one knows what really happens and give the doubt- where did C put the money?
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@LetranKnight25 (33117)
• Philippines
24 Jul 12
I don't know but if you are part of it some how you need to resolve it i guess. I am single don't ask me i think i'd go out of my mind. probably i should hide and let them solve it themselves but i don't know since i am not involved in it. before i did once, but now i don't want to get into that trouble anymore.
@CTHanum (8233)
• Malaysia
24 Jul 12
It has been two years sis and C still hold the money?? Its weird~ If she really want to tell K's boyfriend, she will do it long ago..I wonder why she still keep the money and not doing anything either tell K's boyfriend or send it to K's family??? What happen to the money for all this years? Why C do that to K? I don't think C is doing the right thing as well. It's better for her to say the truth rather than to keep and hold the money like that while at the same time keep saying she will tell the truth for this long.
@lynboobsy11 (11343)
• Philippines
24 Jul 12
I know C is very mad that time that's why I did not push her to give K's money and it will only sounds like Im on the side of K. That time I really don't want to get involved that's why I ignored this I just told myself Its their problem not mine.But since it is almost two years now I think I must go in between them because I know K is not really sending message to C because I know its her fault. Why K did not do anything in the past two years she's been back and fort to the US she has all her chance to meet C there. Because I know K is afraid that C will reveal K's secrets to her boyfriend and she will lost everything she has now. Last time I talk to C on skype I saw K's money inside the envelop still its with her.
@jaiho2009 (39140)
• Philippines
24 Jul 12
That's what I thought as well- the problem starts with the money, and if C only did the right thing- either to give back the money to K or to K's boyfriend or send to K's family- then the problem is solved!
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@CTHanum (8233)
• Malaysia
24 Jul 12
Sorry to say this, but what kind of people who keep other people's money for years and continuously threaten others? If I am K, I will feel upset too- no matter if the money should belongs to K or her boyfriend, C got nothing to do with the money. I doubt C sincerity.
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