Girls: How do you want to be wooed? II Boys: How do you woo a girl?

@sharksfin (1091)
Philippines
July 25, 2012 1:34pm CST
Am not the type of girl who would show any motive to a guy. Especially if I know that the guy have an intention to court me. I mean, if I do that then it's done. They're gonna be so confident already. What else is to pursue, right? Well, this is just me. Not all girls are like me, I know. But, that's actually where this discussion is leading... There's this guy who expressed his interest in me. But, I don't think he's exerting enough effort to really woo me. He doesn't send me text messages as often as most of the other guys I know. He would invite me out ...but heck at the dead hours of the night! Just when am in the middle of my shift. And, when he invites, he'd really insist! If I don't oblige, he'd be feeling bad. When we bump into each other he won't even wave or try to catch my attention. He's practically waiting for me to initiate a move! There's this one instance when we were in the same area and he was like trying to flag himself around me just so I would notice him. But, in my thoughts, I was like... "if you really wanna talk to me, you can simply just approach me, right?" He didn't do that. I kept finding a way to stay far away from him as I didn't appreciate his style. When I reached home, I received a msg from him saying, "I was doing every possible thing to start a conversation with you..." Golly! I dunno what things he tried doing just to do what he said he did! As far as am concerned, he didn't try to start a conversation with me. Cause if he did, we could've engaged in a real conversation if twas the case! *at wits end*
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@wogibook (75)
• Singapore
25 Jul 12
Not trying to be love expert here but I can sense by your post above that you like the guy too(pardon me if I'm wrong though...) and you are perplexed for not knowing his real intention(whether or not is he seriously interested in you). I can't speak for all the guys, but I can sort of tell you that there are guys who don't really know how to initiate conversations to a girl,especially the ones they like.They are not exactly timid. They just need some kind of acknowledgement as well as encouragement.So, one of the few ways for them to express themselves is by sms, writing letter and stuffs. On the other hand, you stated that you want to feel that the guy is putting much effort to woo you. Nothing wrong with that, in fact, it proves to be useful tactic :P I think just give him more time and see how things develop. At the same time, you could find out more whether or not is he sincere in wooing you. Use your girl's instinct to find out whether or not is he sincere and help him out a bit if you are interested in him too ;)
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@desiree91 (515)
• Malaysia
26 Jul 12
Good topic. Hey, why don't you just initiate the talking to him? Sometimes some matters will be much easier when you take it into your own hands. You know he's interested to get to know you, why not coming up to him and spend some time talking? You won't lose anything, and certainly don't think you're being immodest. I never ask someone to be my boyfriend, and if I'm interested with a guy I usually talk a lot to them, because to me friendship comes first before anything like love. Good luck! Talk to him!
@doroffee (4222)
• Hungary
26 Jul 12
I'm not a typical girl in that sense that I'm waiting countless of texts or little gifts. But I really want to see that he is really interested in me and pays attention to what I say or do. My boyfriend invited me to the theatre first, as I love theatre, and on our second date, he took me to a used book store, just because the owner had a collection of owls (like statues, toys etc.), and I love owls... it just felt so caring. Also, I like it when and expect a guy to make the moves. I'm not going to ask a guy on a date (until like the 3rd or 4th one at least, and not before we're officially a couple), never initiate a kiss, never ask someone to be my boyfriend.