Wake Me Up From This Nightmare. :(
By Daddy Neil
@neildc (17239)
Lapu-Lapu City, Philippines
July 25, 2012 8:14pm CST
Hiya myLotters and friends!
Sister-in-law called us last night. It was still early 7 in the evening. I was still in the kitchen preparing our dinner. Sister said, come over to fetch our Special Child as he was going amok. No idea what exactly went on. So we did come but Lloyd was not around, so we returned home.
Until almost midnight, he did not come home. So I decided to get out and see if he was just around the neighborhood. Luckily, he was sitting by the store, a few steps from our house. I asked him to get in the house but he refused. I noticed he's not feeling good as he continued rubbing his stomach so I asked if he drunk and he nod, trying to tell me he is really drunk.
I came in and my wife alternately tried to convince him to get in so he can sleep as it was already 1AM. It took them a little more time, a few more minutes arguing before Lloyd finally got in and took his bed.
Although he is already 21 years old, he is Autistic and his thinking capability is not the same or at the level of his age. His mother is already pissed off with his attitude. We already lost temper, most of the time. His younger sister Joana already lost "amor" with him after he punched her when they argued with something about 2 years ago.
I don't know how we can escape from this kinda nightmare. They are six children. He's the only special but the other five are acting like special children sometimes, and sometimes gets worse than him.
I feel so stressed. 
~~ NEIL™~~
~~ NEIL™~~10 responses
@anne25penn (3305)
• Philippines
26 Jul 12
It's hard to have a child with special needs here in our country. A lot of schools aren't equipped on how to handle these children, let alone other children too. I had a brother who is schizophrenic and I recall that he would go to PGH for weekly sessions, something like a school. But when we all became busy he became neglected. It has become my mother's nightmare when my brother went out of the house never to be seen again. Yes, I have a missing brother, one who is also a special child.
He would be 43 by now if he is still alive. I pray that even if you lose your temper with your special child that you still keep an eye on him and never allow him to get lost. After my brother went missing, not even 24 hours had passed that eldest brother and I hit the streets trying to find him. We went to TV, radio, newspapers and even flyers trying to find him. We scoured the streets on foot, praying to find him.
It has been ten years and we have had no trace of him. You and your family might need a little break from this so that you can all regain your patience with dealing with your special child. Do take care.
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@jaiho2009 (39142)
• Philippines
26 Jul 12
hello neil,
I know how hard it is my brother- but that's life.
No matter how we give our best to raise our kids, showing them all the good manners- still we miss it sometimes.
Regarding the special child- I wonder how he manages to get drunk- maybe he's still a little bit normal than the other of his kind huh.
That's life my brother- be patient 
@neildc (17239)
• Lapu-Lapu City, Philippines
26 Jul 12
his autism was level 5 when he was younger but lowered down to maybe 2 or 3 when he was still going to school. i know his time in school helped him a lot.
@bunnybon7 (50973)
• Holiday, Florida
26 Jul 12
i know its bad when its your child but if he is this old and really getting uncontrolable you may have to put him in a program where they take care of such things as autism. 
for your safety and the whole famiky's. my youngest here has been drinking at times and driving us up the wall. he still works so my oldest son tolarates him. but there has been a couple of times i just dont know what to do with him. ive actually told him if he dont get help he may end up in a shelter as we cant deal with a lot more. it doesnt help to have my daughters bf here thats even worse. 
so i know what you are going thru@neildc (17239)
• Lapu-Lapu City, Philippines
26 Jul 12
i also consider sending him to a shelter or a program for person like him. but here in our country, you need money to do. i am not aware if there is any program of the government for their likes and for free. he's not getting any younger and he is not improving making the situation at home worse. if this is my own child, i don't know what i can do with him.
@jazel_juan (15747)
• Philippines
26 Jul 12
Now i am wondering why you post it in the interest, not interested at all..
i got confused though, this is your child? or your sister-in-law's? Anyways i also know someone who also have a special child and that special child is also autistic in nature and is already 27 years old..but he is a bit tamed as the parents put him into school for the special child and somehow this helped him a lot.
did you guys put him into school?
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@maygodblessu44 (7336)
• India
26 Jul 12
Hello my friend neildc Ji,
Let us understand taht Life is never ' A BED OF ROSES' as we grow old we come across many hurdles and one should overcome, that is what is known as experience and getting old. If I am 677 yrs, I must have crossed such or might be more dangerous hurdles. So let's solve them. I also kmow for a positive thinker that one can solve all such things. You have to wait for right time.
May God bless You and have a great time 
@maygodblessu44 (7336)
• India
31 Jul 12
Hello my friend neildc Ji,
Nightys and Days are totally balanced and I am sure after the night Day will break with huge sun-shine in your life as well. have patience.
May God bless You and have a great time
. I guess you need to have a whole body massage at times to relieve your stress 
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@winterose (39887)
• Canada
27 Jul 12
maybe you need to have therapist who will tell you how to handle him.
@rhane7315 (5649)
• Philippines
27 Jul 12
i feel you. i also have a sister-in-law who's kinda retarded in a way. she thinks like a grade 3 kid most of the time, asks my mother-in-law what food she'll eat, and many more. there's also this incident that i was going out then she's still asking me if i'm going somewhere or sometimes she ask me this and that which i have already answered a few minutes ago. sometimes i easily get pissed off with her attitude so i try to avoid her most of the time by not talking to her even though we're on the same room. she's also a hard headed one because she doesn't listen to her siblings. the only thing that she listens to is to her mother.
@neildc (17239)
• Lapu-Lapu City, Philippines
29 Jul 12
good thing she listens at least to her mother. but my step-son looks like he do not want to listen to us. maybe with friends he has which we do not even know the names.
@savypat (20216)
• United States
26 Jul 12
You are doing what you can. Just take each day and each situation as it comes up.
But try to keep your emotions out of the mix. Keep your ears open and maybe some new program will come along to help these people. With more and more Autistic children being born society will have to face this challenge. Blessings
@neildc (17239)
• Lapu-Lapu City, Philippines
27 Jul 12
i still do not lose hope that one day, he'll get better. thanks.
@neildc (17239)
• Lapu-Lapu City, Philippines
27 Jul 12
Shib, it's not his drinking habit alone is the issue with him. but his attitude towards the people especially with us the people living with him under the same house.
