Deal Breaker --We are done ...or are we?
By Jshean20
@Jshean20 (14349)
Canada
July 26, 2012 7:58pm CST
In your opinion is there anything in a relationship that just couldn't be worked out? Once a cheater always a cheater? Maybe it depends on how long you've with the person? Or would cheating be a done deal for you? I've never had to face being cheated on so it's tough to say what I'd do in a situation that I have yet to face. However I can't help but think: without trust what is left?
4 responses
@katcarneo (1433)
• Philippines
27 Jul 12
I used to say if someone cheated on me I would totally leave him. But when it actually happened, I actually begged him to choose me! I used to say if someone treated me badly and with disrespect, I would totally leave him. Then someone did and I was there ready to forgive him. I am too forgiving! I guess if someone hit me, that would be it. But then, I don't know since I haven't experienced it.
@katcarneo (1433)
• Philippines
27 Jul 12
Things worked out well,thank you! Those were all in the past. Now I am in a relationship and things are well.
@LilyoftheThorns (12918)
• United States
27 Jul 12
It really really depends on the situation in it's entirety! Looking at everything surrounding the incident. In some movies/stories when I guy cheats I say...that one might be forgiveable, while other times I'm like, "no way kick him out!"
Example: Ross in Friends...the whole "we were on a break" scenerio...that's forgiveable.
I think there are a lot of things that need to be looked at to determine whether or not it is forgiveable.
And as to the question: Is there anything in a relationship that can't be worked out? I think that answer would be different for everyone. Like for me...animal cruelty is a no way. If my boyfriend/husband beat a dog they'd be gone! If they were intentionally cruel to an animal they would be gone.
And another deal breaker for me is smoking. I don't think I could ever be with a smoker!
@Jshean20 (14349)
• Canada
27 Jul 12
I always thought smoking would be a deal breaker for me also, but I fell in love with a smoker so we are working on getting rid of that disgusting habit. I'm totally with you on the animal cruelty thing, it's never acceptable and a person who would ever do that, well this reveals a lot about their character!
@prism10568 (11)
• Philippines
27 Jul 12
You know people change..Its unimaginable what a person is capable of doing after he/she find the person that she love..HE/she changes for the better..Dont judge a person because of his past..Trust is the biggest part of any relationship..once broken its hard to made whole again..
@Danniella1110 (106)
•
27 Jul 12
Hello jshean20. I have put myself in a dumbest situations and I learnt the hard way, but cheating now would be a done deal for me.
I have been cheated on and it was horrible. I cheated on him as well. We pulled through because we both felt something strong and we are still together until now for about 2 years now. And believe me, this no trust thing is intense ,because you get so angry over little things. There would be days that would feel exactly like the day before because we are still arguing about the same things, we went through a phase of sneaking around checking each others phones while the one was asleep! He deleted pictures of conversations he had with this other girl that I took because I hacked into his iPad. LOL. Anyway, it was pretty crazy for about 3 4 months- tiring of course. But we are happy now. It's really cool, he has even met my mom and I with his. We both gave time for each other to mature. Cheating happens when someone is not satisfied with something, I discussed this in a topic earlier this week. Serial cheaters they do what they do because the need is still not satisfied, it is still not an excuse to cheat because it is still selfish and insecure. The need perhaps is in their head.
If we dont work out , then I would turn my back immediately on someone who cheated. I dont think I have enough patience to go through what I did, again!
