I'm over you!

Story of my life, I just recently ended a on and off again relationship after 5 years. I am definitely at that stage where I have moved on. You don't want to be miserable while he's or she's out there enjoying themselves. How about you try dating, maybe you'll meet someone who would make you want make that final break from your previous relationship.

The hardest part of every relationship is moving on after the letting go. And that hardest part is the easiest way to give ourself freedom from any pain. Yes, it's not easy to moved one, but it is must. Or else you cannot find the right person if you cannot moved on from the wrong one.

Hi Daisy, you know this kind of topic is one of those that is closest to my heart. Why? Just like you, I had experienced it also, getting heartbroken, and to tell you honestly, I can't say that I'm really over it now even if it has already been more than 6 years ago. What I can say is that, if what you have felt for the other person is something that is pure and true, I guess it will really, really be hard to just close the chapter and turn over the pages, but one thing I do know now is that, however painful it is, we just have to let it be, the pain, the hurt, just let it be, because this is the other half of what true love is, we'll never know when exactly we can say that we are already over it and when we can really move on, only time will tell when it will be, do not rush things, just to show that you are over it, just let it be, and do not jump into another relationship just because you want to heal your wounds, you might just caused pain to the other whom you will start a relationship out of the idea of your wanting to move on, because if that is the case, it will be worst, because instead of healing you become the reason of another's pain. Just let it be for now... Let the pain remain... It will teach you a lesson and it will make you a better person... Happy mylotting.

I do not know why there has to be a confirmation. I don't like to sound mean but I do not think it is my business if he's over me or not or vice versa. I think that what we need during this kind of stage in our lives is acceptance. I ended up a 7 year relationship not because I no longer love that person but because I think it is best for both of us to have separate lives. A year after, I entered into another relationship and married that person without asking myself if I am really over my previous boyfriend or not. On the back of my mind, I know that I still love him but what is left in my mind are just memories. I have made my decision and carried it out. I have accepted the fact that we are not meant for each other and I am not having doubts that I love my husband. Maybe you are worried that you might just hurt this new guy because you are not yet over your past bf. My advice is never enter a relationship with a guy that you don't love.

I agree with you its easy to say that you moved on but the truth the pain was still there and really hard to move on from painful break up. It takes a year before I moved on in my past relationship and it really help me to love and respect myself more. After a year my ex and I talked not to be together again but to asked each other forgiveness and asked to be happy whatever decision that were going to make in life. When I talked to him during that time I tried to figure out my feelings to him but I felt nothing at all and I my heart doesn't like and love him anymore that was the time that I told to myself and to him that Its all over, I am over you and I moved on. I am just happy after I moved on and while reaching my dreams I met someone who respect, love, care and comfort me most of the time and I am very happy that I found him because he makes my life more beautiful and meaningful. He is my husband now after all those bad and painful experiences in the past relationshio all of it was erased because of his love.

I am still on moving on stage, too. I really don't know if I could get over with my first love. Although I can say that I'm done with the denial, anger, bargaining, depression and acceptance stage. I know that I will always love him and care for him for the rest of my life.

It is very important when you have been in a relationship with somebody for a long time that you both get to the stage where you can honestly say that you have moved on and that you don't like the other person in the same way anymore. This is because at the end of the day you could both just sit and mope about the times that you've had together, but once you've split up it is for a reason and that reason should be clear to you. You might even be able to be friends, but this would not be the case if you didn't both feel the same way about the end of the relationship.

Well my last ex doesnt really count cause I was happy to say i move on just because, we fought all the time and he didnt treat me right at all. But, the one before that was a lot harder, i think it took me about 3 months to turly move on like yeah i told myself i moved on but, i would still think i of things or see something on facebook that would get to me.

Hi dear Daisy_22,pls cherish yourself and pursuit the happiness for yourself,if you still love each other but there are some barriers between you guys,pls get rid of the barriers.But if you do not love each other again pls let him go,and let you go as well,just be natural and pleasant,move on is better for you and him,and that sentence"I'm over you" not a crude sentence but it is a natural one,no one just live in the past,we all should live in nowadays and fight for the bright future,no matter love or career.

In my experience, moving on is just the second part after a break up. The first part is acceptance. I have to accept that the relationship is over. I have to accept that there really are guys like him and there's nothing I can do or become that will ever change him, as change must stem from his own self. I have to accept that I was treated badly, I have to accept that this is for the best. Once I have fully embraced the situation and there's nothing more in me that's left with any uncertainty or false hope, then I can start moving on. At this part, this is where the "no contact" rule applies. I travel, engage myself in newer hobbies, I never talk about it. The only time I can tell myself that I have moved on is when I am already able to say his name without stirring any emotion from me.