Girl is younger than the boy in a relationship :|

love - Love in its mysterious ways
Philippines
July 30, 2012 6:36am CST
I have a crush on this guy for about 2 years already. He is a brother of my close friend. I knew him even before but did not feel anything for him but when I discover who he really is by and by, I realize i already like him. I think he likes me too but he's shy to talk about it because he knows that there is an age gap. In your opinion, is it okay to date younger men? By the way he is 3 years younger than I am.
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18 responses
@ckciasigurl (2081)
• Italy
31 Jul 12
Hi gelli! Welcome to mylot. I think you are new here my Friend,well for me there is nothing wrong if you are dating 2 years younger because for me im in a relationship since my Boyfriend is 2 years younger than me and its seems that There is no problem :)
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• Philippines
1 Aug 12
yes you are correct i am new here. thank you for the welcome! :) and thank you for the response..
@joevanosa (303)
• Philippines
31 Jul 12
it doesn't matter. age doesn't matter at all. what important is that both of you understand what situation you are entering into. try to understand everything. i mean, be keen and smart enough to decide for the of you.
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@se7enthbird (8307)
• Philippines
30 Jul 12
I think it`s fine but there are consequences that you need to face when there is a age gap. You have to handle the relationship since you are older. You have to handle his attitude if sometimes he is quite childish and inconsistent. You also have to be frank in every situation. I think young people are quite scared and still curious about many things. My daughter suitors are mostly younger and she is encountering this stuffs. But when twenties and above is the topic here then age doesn`t even matter anymore. My grandma and grandpa has seven years gap. When both of you are an adult already then there is no issue anymore. As long as it`s okay to both of your parents then go for it
• Philippines
5 Aug 12
exactly !! you dont have to hurry when it comes to having relationship. Let it come and i assure you it is more worth it than when you are searching for it. Focus instead of improving yourself so that when the right person comes, it will really work out. Good luck and have fun
• Philippines
30 Jul 12
NICE advice! :) Very precise. Thank you so much. Your point is noted.. maybe, I'll just wait when we both get to above twenty years old and see if we are still single and still have the spark. then maybe, we are meant to be. hahahaha :)
@visavis (5934)
• Philippines
30 Jul 12
Hi Gell, Your situation is a little bit normal from normal life of teenager. If your age is like 19 or 20 I think no problem at all as long as no string attached. But you are 18 meaning he is 15 years all that's corruption of minor problem my friend.. think it twice before you decide...
@visavis (5934)
• Philippines
31 Jul 12
don't think act and decide now before too late... enjoy being youth and young with God fear
• Philippines
30 Jul 12
thanks for the advice. okay, i will think about it. I'm not in a rush. I'm still young. :)
• Philippines
31 Jul 12
Go for it! Number is just a number. when you truly like someone follow your heart. I can say that age is doesn't matter when you truly love someone.
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@Umaiya (43)
• India
31 Jul 12
Absolutely no prob. If u really do like him and u r sure that he likes u too then nothing else matters, what matters is love and that person u love I think u guys ll make a really good couple Age is jus a number dear Good luck with ua oh-so-cute-love
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@SomeCowgirl (32191)
• United States
30 Jul 12
Oh my goodness, gasp! NO no no! I'm just kidding. That's a silly age gape! My own sister is married to someone like 18 years older then herself! It's really no difference. Age is just a number. Provided you are both of the age of consent in your country, I see no problem. It's your own barriers thats keeping you from getting to know each other better.
• Philippines
30 Jul 12
haha! you got me laughing there at the start. thank you by the way for the response.. :)
@dorannmwin (36392)
• United States
31 Jul 12
Age is honestly nothing but a number and I don't think that there is anything wrong with dating a boy that is younger than you are. In fact, the first boyfriend that I ever had was four years younger than I am. We had a really good relationship and we might still be together today if it wasn't for the fact that I went to an out of town school and that meant that we didn't get to see each other all the time. That said, we are still friends today. Now my husband, on the other hand, is five years older than I am.
• Philippines
31 Jul 12
thank you for the advice.. :)
• Portugal
31 Jul 12
for me i dont think thats a problem^^ besides is only 3 years difference^^ its not that big and also love doesnt choose age. if he likes you and you like him its ok to be together. dont worry with what others think^^ as long as you are happy with him. tell him how you feel. you can win the love you want ^^ if you feel he likes you too just risk and tell your feelings^^ dont worry about the age. there are a lot of couples that the girl is older than the guy and they are happy. dont let that affect your happiness. if the age gap doesnt bother you and doesnt bother him thats what matters^^ wish you the best then tell me if he is with you^^ i love happy love stories. i will hope that you and him be together^^
• Philippines
1 Aug 12
yay! thanks for the message and advice.. sure! i will tell you if we end up together..I really hope we will :)
• Valdosta, Georgia
30 Jul 12
To me age doesn't mean anything. I am 4 years younger than my husband and my mother is 7 years older than my father. It is not such a big deal. If there are true feelings there you can make it work. =) But he has to be able to talk to you first! LOL. My parents have been married for 25 years and my husband and I 8 years. So, age is not very important! =) Good luck and I hope you can have a good relationship.
• Philippines
30 Jul 12
wow! that's amazing! :) yes, i will wait of course for the guy to make the move. :D thank you.. God bless to your married life also!
@512771751 (1096)
• China
15 Aug 12
Oh, I think age doesn't matter. My boyfriend is two years younger than me, but I think it is ok to have a true love no matter how old we are. So just brave to have your wonderful love. Best wishes.
• India
30 Jul 12
Hi friend, welcome to mylot. There is nothing wrong in having relationship with a younger guy, if you both are interested in it. As you mentioned he is also interested with you, so go ahead.
@visavis (5934)
• Philippines
30 Jul 12
my friend I think depends of the age.... if she is 16 less 3 years meaning 13 years old the boy... not really good example
@imAbigael (475)
• Philippines
30 Jul 12
Hi! It was always "age doesn't matter" answer, I am a girl and I have a boyfriend once and he is 7 years older than me. We also talk about it, and it was not really matter anyway. When you love someone, you have to accept him/her for who they are. Age is just a number, but love is everything matters. :)
• Philippines
30 Jul 12
yeah, age doesn't matter. I do believe that saying. But I have to prove that myself to see if it applies to my case by considering the pros and cons of it since nothing fits all. anyway, thanks for the advice! :)
@anuraga (41)
• Australia
30 Jul 12
Think twice before dating him, As a girl you need to love with a guy who have deep understand about life. But I should say even if he had a deep understand he would be a smart guy. But I respect to your emotion. It is wonderful thing. But if you need long relationship with someone it is very important to understand his or her vision about things, but I wish your love
• Philippines
30 Jul 12
yeah.. I am also considering that issue.. and many said to me that women matter faster than men and it is best if the boy is more mature than the girl..
@annavi23 (6522)
• Philippines
1 Aug 12
As they say, age doesn't matter when it comes to love. My parents are 10 years apart but then my father is still older than mom. It really depends on situations. Sometimes matured men even if they are younger than the girl. It's up to you to decide on that and if you feel true love, don't let it go...
@Cherish14 (2693)
• Philippines
31 Jul 12
at first i was never attracted to boys younger than me. only when i met this guy, he is actually a lot younger than i am. but still i still see him as a younger brother and i tell him we can be friends, and i will try to be here for him when he needs someone to talk to. but he tells me age is just a number and that he really loves me. i admit he is amazing, he really is. but then i have a boyfriend. i just always hope and pray that someday he finds the girl for him. at first, age really mattered to me, but when i started talking to him, i realized it really is just a number. he seems mature, he is very nice. any girl would really e very lucky to have him. i hope he finds his happiness very soon. so yeah, i think it is very okay to date younger men oh and my boyfriend is older than i am. he is older by 5 years
@jemzchix (116)
• Philippines
1 Aug 12
those are just numbers. go for it if you think you both feel the same thing. also, what matters is that you mature together in your relationship, learn each other's mistakes. but the most important thing is know him more, deeply and intimately.
• China
31 Jul 12
Age is something stupid if you meet some perfect guy for you.You must know not all the relationships girl is younger than the boy.When we love some people we really need to be brave to let him know.Don't let yourself regret.