Adding friends

Don't delete me

I have stopped adding people who request for to be my friend as I am not sure they will be here for a long time or they will just on and off. Like I always said, I will add the in my list but it will be me who will send the request not them and most of them are discussion starters and some who like post comments..(^^)

I actually have quite a few people that are sitting in my friends request list right now. The reason that I have not approved them to be my friends is because of the fact that they are fairly new members to the site. I would like to keep the people that I choose to add as friends to be people that are going to be active on the site and not be people that are simply sending me referral links to other sites that I am not interested in. If I see that these people will be active on the site, then I would be happy to add them as friends, but if they are not active on the site, then I will deny those friends requests.

What I've been doing lately and I'm not sure its correct is I go to their page to see if they are not your worse nightmare. Then I respond to a discussion they started if there are any that catch my eye hoping they might respond back or catch one of mine. I accept that people new might need a friend but if a friend becomes abusive or an aggressive sales person, I can deal with them, thank goodness.

I usually accept those who I have had interactions with and are active straight away. And I watch out for requests from those I do not recognize especially if they have very low user activity rating. I also go over my friends list every few months and delete those who are not active or those who I have added but turned out to be just spammers.

I am new to mylot and I'm wondering how to add friends to my list and also how do I go about setting up my profile. I have noticed many with huge numbers of post with numbers in their stars -- perhaps if you wouldn't mind explaining what that means and how can I best utilize my time and energy here on mylot. I so far have enjoyed myself on mylot and could spend some time getting to know people here. I will add people to my list if I have seen them perhaps on some of the posts that AI have done and feel that there might be some things we have in common and it'd be fun to get to know them.

Hey there Suggar. Somebody told me recently that your discussions will receive much more comments if you have many friends. I actually didn't mind how many friend requests I had before but when he said that I decided to check it out and accept all. I have never received any message so far. But maybe if it starts to become annoying than I will start slowing down with accepting friend requests.

Whether the friend request comes from a new member or an established member, I go to look at their profile. If they have similar interests to me, and intelligent posts, I'll add them straight away. If we appear to have nothing in common, I'll deny the request. After all, you wouldn't make friends with somebody who didn't share your interests in the real world, so why should it be different online? When it comes to new members, I'll usually keep them on hold and monitor their participation for a couple of weeks. The spam merchants don't usually last past the first week, so once that hurdle has passed, I'll look again at the friend request. Again, I'll only sanction it if I think we have stuff in common. The single thing to keep in mind when actioning friend requests is this: do you have interests and opinions in common? If not, deny the request.

hi, actually in adding friends i disregard their count of post or their responses to other mylot user or member,and the important to me is to accept their request because who knows if someday they could be more active than me,and aside from that i could benefits from them too.