Deleted Messages = Drifted-apart Love?
By babyanna
@babyanna (1216)
China
July 31, 2012 11:57am CST
Hi,my fellow Mylotters~
I know I haven't been here for a long time. I just finished doing my summer internship. It was seriously an overworked and underpaid job.But anyway,I've been thinking a lot about my relationship during last month while on my way to and from my work.
My boyfriend went back to America for the summer vacation and I'm staying here. So it gives me a lot of time to think about our relationship. And I just don't know anymore.
One day,I was lying on bed and going through my cell phone SMSes. And I saw all those text messages between my boyfriend and me. There were tons of them. I remember when we first started dating,every message looks soooo important and is a part of my memory,so I never deleted any of them. But now... I just started deleting all those messages.
It kinda freaked me out. I remember all the relations I've been in, either with my ex or my best friends, the moment I started deleting their messages is the moment I started drifting away from them.
So has it happened to you before? When someone is no longer that important to you, you start deleting their messages?
I know I haven't been here for a long time. I just finished doing my summer internship. It was seriously an overworked and underpaid job.But anyway,I've been thinking a lot about my relationship during last month while on my way to and from my work.
My boyfriend went back to America for the summer vacation and I'm staying here. So it gives me a lot of time to think about our relationship. And I just don't know anymore.
One day,I was lying on bed and going through my cell phone SMSes. And I saw all those text messages between my boyfriend and me. There were tons of them. I remember when we first started dating,every message looks soooo important and is a part of my memory,so I never deleted any of them. But now... I just started deleting all those messages.
It kinda freaked me out. I remember all the relations I've been in, either with my ex or my best friends, the moment I started deleting their messages is the moment I started drifting away from them.
So has it happened to you before? When someone is no longer that important to you, you start deleting their messages?4 responses
@bhabycatch013 (9150)
• Philippines
2 Aug 12
hi babyanna,
Deleting messages doesn't mean your love is drifting away my mobile phone can only hold up to 2,000 messages and I have many messages usually I write it on a notebook including the sender name date and time the message was receive.
There is a girl who send me rude words I still keep them cause every time I read it the memories of how jealous she was gave me an evil smile on my face 
happy mylotting
happy mylotting
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@janiece (55)
• United States
1 Aug 12
Babyanna,
The thing you have to ask yourself is, do you love him? And I'm not talking about those mushy, dreamy eyed feelings you get when you first meet someone, I mean are you willing to work through the hard times and come out on the other side still with this person?
Love really isn't a feeling. It's a commitment, companionship, going through the thick and thin. So if you really love him then it doesn't matter if he's next to you or a million miles away.
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@babyanna (1216)
• China
1 Aug 12
Hi,janiece~
Yeah, I know that. Distance is not a problem. The problems between us have been there for a long time. He doesn't seem to notice them, I do. Yet I don't like to talk about them. I think that's the thing. I need to talk about those problems when he gets back.
And yes, I think I don't love him enough to overlook his shortcomings and solve the problems with him.
@historydog (239)
• China
19 Aug 12
Hi,I haven't signed in mylot for a long time ,too.The main reason was that I am worry with my poor English.I deleted my girlfriend's messages each time when we quarreled with each other.And I find that deleting the messages is just a lie which can make me feel better in the quarrel.When I am cool,I feel it's stupid.
@subhojit10 (7375)
• India
31 Jul 12
yes i have deleted the messages of those whom i want to avoid and stay away. I feel that this is a way that can keep away the bitter memories from my mind. Even though we delete the text messages, the memories spent together can not be deleted from the mind that easily. What say?
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