I like helping dad
By Suggar
@Suggar (3606)
Bulgaria
August 1, 2012 1:52pm CST
The story of my life is that my parents divorced when I was 10 years old. I was little lonely and strange kid. I grow up in very modest family, only mom was caring about me, dad wasn't taking so big responsibility about my needs. To be honest he wasn't that well to help mom with money. He was always saying you will understand me better when you grow up. And it is true now. He is having another wife and two kids. I am not very close with his wife or my brother and sister, but I am close with dad.
He had business time ago, but the economic here is terrible, so he quit doing it after 15 years having his own small company. Now he has no work, he has only one bus left of his transporting business.
He asked me a month ago if we can make a website for him. We did it, I also added his website in many website catalogs, posted an ad for him how he transport stocks with his bus. I did my best to help him has at least little income, because he is having dept and bills for living which he was finding very hard to cover.
Now I heard him on the phone and he thanked me a lot for doing this for him. He said it was much better now, because they were calling him now and then to transport stocks and it was helping him to earn at least some money for living.
I was looking for a way to help him since he closed his own business few months ago. Our financial situation is not that good and I also doubt that he would accept any money from me. But I am glad I could help him make his own money with the personal bus he owns.
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12 responses
@Raine38 (12257)
• United States
1 Aug 12
That's so sweet of you. It's so nice to know that despite what happened between your parents it didn't affect your relationship to both of them. It sure is a big thing for you to be able to help and do something for your father. He seems like an honest to goodness and hard working man who's just having a rough time. Glad his business starts to perk up due to your efforts. I'm sure you're feeling so good about it.
It really goes to show that the state of the parents' marriage isn't always the reason on how a kid would turn out. In your case, despite growing up with separate parents and another family, you didn't become hateful or resentful.A lot of young kids nowadays can definitely learn a lot from you and wouldn't hurt them to try doing what you do.
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@Suggar (3606)
• Bulgaria
1 Aug 12
Thanks about saying so nice words Raine, actually the friends of my mom who was divorced with kids too was always saying that I am a good example of how a kid may grow up normal in such situation. I wasn't smoking, drinking, using weed or whatever, while I was kid. I also wasn't the best student at school, but I had this favorite lessons which I always visited and loved being there and making efforts to be good one.
I don't know why kids grow up with so much hate. My parents were and still are nothing special, I mean they are not so very high educated people, making lots of money, being very protective with me. They are just modest and nice people. I grow up with a lot of love around me.
I don't blame anyone for anything, I even think they made the better decision in the past. 
@bounce58 (17387)
• Canada
3 Aug 12
That's really great that you were able to help your dad. Even if it weren't financial, and it was just a website. At least this would help him get back on his feet.
I too would like to have that kind of opportunity to help my dad. As he is far away, it's a bit difficult for me.
@Suggar (3606)
• Bulgaria
3 Aug 12
We can do different things to help, depends on the situation. I had to do it earlier, but even now it's helpful. He quit his business last year in the autumn I think. I had to offer help, I offered him to come on vacation and stay with me for a week to take a break of his second wife, he said he will not bother us that way.
So until he asked to have this website, I didn't think of helping this way. But he gave the idea, so we made it.
@savagecabbage (1216)
• Philippines
2 Aug 12
I was moved with your story. I like the idea that you want to help out. I understand that feeling. When my family was financially unstable, I also wanted to help them out. I felt that I was partly responsible since I belonged to this family. Continue helping your family :) I wish you more power and success.
@riyauro (6421)
• India
2 Aug 12
Your story is awesome. Wow despite what happened between your mum and dad, you did not let it affect your life. When one has the wish for something good it happens. My parents are always together and I have always heard sad stories of kids after divorce. You are first one from whom I am hearing such good things. I am happy for you that you came of some help to your father. So sweet. 
@Suggar (3606)
• Bulgaria
2 Aug 12
We are so much alike with him about everything. Doesn't matter if I am getting mad at him sometimes for not showing enough interest about my life, such like forgetting to call me on the date when I am having birthday or something like that, at the end I am always helpful when I can help him.
I also feel sorry about things he experienced, because his parents were little colder with him, mostly my grandmother, his dad - my grandfather was an awesome man.
@sunshine007 (100)
• United States
1 Aug 12
Great story. I really connected with how you were able to make a website for him and he was able to get some customers -- you stirred him in the right direction. You know what they say if you teach a fisherman how to fish then they'll eat for a thousand days -- and that maybe all he need some reassurance that things have changed and that in this economy -- the world is flat -- things are done all over the world via the internet -- as I learned in a book called the world is flat -- talked about how India has changed and how China is moving forward and the US well we're still stuck in the 20th century and have to get out of that box and accept reality -- that money today will be made online.
@woopaul50 (1)
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2 Aug 12
I LOVE your story !!!
this helped me so much.
my Father and I are having some troubles having fun together.
THank you so so so so MUCH !!
@ladygator (3465)
• United States
1 Aug 12
Good evening Suggar,
Its very hard on everyone when a family separates. Everyone deals with it different. And as a child your emotional reaction will also vary. Its hard for anyone to understand what makes people how they are and do what they do. These days its more common than is should to have the dad out of the picture in the childs life. There are very important roles for each parent to do that will aid in the raising of the child. Some people grow up angry and resentfull. Others just seemingly let it roll right off their shoulders.
I think that its great that you have helped your dad through some hard times. It shows that you have a kind heart and dont harbor anger for thing that happened when you were young.
@Suggar (3606)
• Bulgaria
1 Aug 12
I think they made good decision with mom by divorcing. Mom is now happy. My dad's choice was not the best about having his new and little younger than him wife, but it was his fault.
What can I do for him now is to help him in difficult moment.
Thanks for your words.
@thanks1961 (7035)
• India
2 Aug 12
Life is such that we are just surviving for live. It is good that you helped your dad and he benefited from yoru help, which he will remember for his life time, though he left your mom and gone with another lady. As long as you love your dad, what you did is a great job and you did the moral thing considering as a best daughter.
@Suggar (3606)
• Bulgaria
2 Aug 12
Thank you very much. So nice words I even didn't thought that someone would take the topic like that. I more hoped that we will discuss here the forgiveness we are able to give, the hand we can give to someone, who made mistakes but still have chance to become a better person.
@xx598907296 (178)
• China
2 Aug 12
i am moved by your action.i love my parents and willing to do anything for them.because they can treat me the same.they love me so much,they can contribute everything for me.i can't imagine if my father treat me like your father,the same conditions occured,i would help him or other.so i admire you and will study to you.wish you better and better.
@saberblue (33)
• China
2 Aug 12
that's moved.i'm always thinking about how i can do for my parents as well even though they are totally independent in some ways of their life. it's love that holds us tight toghter even when sometimes fate seperat us apart. I envy you a little for the things you do for your father.I wish i can be better on myself and do sth for them to get over a difficulty.
