should i talk to her?

United States
August 2, 2012 6:47pm CST
my friend that i talk to you guys about my ex friend she was doing a number of things that i don't like but i got so mad that i stop talking to her all together yeas past and life is good but out of o were i got a message from her to hang out, do't get me wrong i do miss her somethimes but she has done so much worng that friends don't do and i would never do to her. she now has a kid now and my best firend (who is a guy) thinks i should talk to her again, i told him no and he say people can change but to me not all people to what to you guys think should i give her a change or now way. i say no but my bff is being stuped and keeps trying to talk me in to it. here is so info on why i say no: she try to make people feel bad about their looks she tryed to take my crush and bf away she was diding a little raciest and i'm not raciest i date all colors
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11 responses
• Leesburg, Georgia
2 Aug 12
I think it has to be your decision in the end, no one else. If you don't like the things she has done then don't talk to her. There was this girl that did the same kinds of things to me, brought me down a lot with her talking bad to me and about me, said some things about my husband that crossed the line and told me I was a bad mother. Therefore I stopped talking to her. No one could convince me to talk to her ever again. She was NOT a friend at all. Friends do not treat their friends badly... If you feel strongly about it, then tell your other friend too bad I am not going to talk to her no matter who likes it or not.
• United States
3 Aug 12
thak u so much you r soo right
• India
3 Aug 12
Hi friend, if you are not interested in talking with her, then you can avoid it, don't give importance to your friends wish, take your decision by your own and don't do anything without your interest.
@rkennedee (333)
3 Aug 12
time heals all wounds maybe and maybe after all this years she already realizes all the wrong things she did to you. It feels good to be reunited with a long lost friend. Why not try to talk to her again and she if things is already change. You can also grab this opportunity to open up with her.
@tetris15 (539)
• Philippines
3 Aug 12
I think you should hear what your heart has to say. Don't feel obliged to do things because somebody else said so because if you do that, you're not being true to yourself. You wouldn't want anybody to make friends with you just because that person was influenced by others to be your friend. Take time to find it in your heart if you're ready now to face your old friend. I hope you'll also find the courage to stand by to whatever decision you may come upon. I wish you well.
@caopaopao (12759)
• China
3 Aug 12
Maybe you can try to forgive her and being her friend again. People really can change. If you give her a chance, and you find she really changed, that's a good thing, if not, you can choose to say goodbye to her.
@Byamee (84)
• India
3 Aug 12
Its obviuos that you still care about this girl. Your bff is right about giving her another chance. I'm not telling you to become best freinds or something like that but you should give her a chance. You say that she has a kid now and this new part of her life might have changed her thinking. She might be calling you to ask forgiveness for all the wrong she has done to you in the past. Don't hang in the "may be zone". Just go there, talk to her, if she makes you feel even a little uncomfortable JUST LEAVE! simple :D
• China
3 Aug 12
in my opinion,if you each other lived good in noe situation,you don;t need to change it.let past passed.
@sjlskl (3382)
• Singapore
3 Aug 12
Since you don't feel like talking to her, then just leave it as this. Don't force yourself to attempt to look her up since the chances of you getting pissed off is so high.
@vicereine (451)
• United States
3 Aug 12
Well persona I think first and foremost it is your decision alone to make. Saying that with what you have said she does I do not think that it is a good person to have in your life because she seems to want to bring you down. I know people can change and some do but many more don't. It is very difficult to tell if someone has changed or not and you have to be sure that you are wanting to take that chance. If she has not changed and you do speak to her again you are only opening the door to much trouble and heartache for yourself. As my mother would say it is better to let a sleeping dog lie, meaning leave well enough alone and life should be good for you. I hope that this helps and that you find the answer within yourself and not let you bff decide for you.
@Axai2012 (371)
3 Aug 12
I think the best person who should stand up to her is you as a friend. She also has the right to know why you don't want to be with her so that she will have a chance to think it over to herself if she wants to either change to keep her friendship or carry on with her habits and lose her friends. There are some people who can keep up with friends like that but some cannot after talking to them to change. So maybe now she has a kid, everything has changed. Why not talk to her and straighten things out. If she remained to be the person that she was, then it is not your fault,it is her loss.
@Raine38 (11512)
• United States
3 Aug 12
Follow what your heart says. If you're not ready to spend time with her, then don't do it even though most people around you urge you to do it. You will come out faking it and insincere and she will feel it. Instead of a good reunion, it might turn out to be a bad one. If you think you shouldn't associate yourself with that kind of person then stand your ground. Maybe you can still talk to her on the phone or something, that should be enough to tell her that communicating with you is okay and open. Start with that.