Honesty, Guilt,, Fight

@sol521 (61)
Philippines
August 7, 2012 4:47am CST
I can't stand guilty feelings. It bothers me a lot. It gives me an uncomfortable soul. I want to be honest with him all the time because that is what good relationship all about- honesty. But I don't want him to worry a lot about me. He has already lots of worries in his life. When it comes to financial matters, I find it hard to tell him the truth. He already helped me a lot. He wants me to be honest with him about everything. I am an honest person but when it comes to financial matters, I can't be 100% honest to him. I just want to fix things on my own. I remembered we had a big fight before. He told me, I shut him off. But I didn't. I just don't want to mix him up with my family problems because I don't want to lose him. He's important to me. But he thinks differently which I don't understand at all. He told me, he would help me in everything but it just that I don't want him to not because he's unimportant but because he has done too much for me. I'm used to independent life. I don't know what to do...
2 responses
@imAbigael (475)
• Philippines
8 Aug 12
Hi sol! first of all wow you have a good man on your side. Don't think to much he is just worried about you because he cared and loves you. And I understand your situation that you don't want to depend on him and instead do it alone because you also care for him, well that is good and if you want it that way. Explain to him everything you feels and plans. For sure he will understand that soon because he loves you. You are a strong woman and you choose to fix your own problems.
@sol521 (61)
• Philippines
8 Aug 12
I did explain to him several times already but we just ended up into an argument. I actually appreciate what he did but it's just it's too much and I hate depending on him. I don't need material things. I just want him. That's all.
• Philippines
8 Aug 12
I think that's what you call white lies. Although it's a difficult situation, you have to think that there are still some things that you need to keep to yourself.