i can never stay mad at my husband. not for long, at least

Philippines
August 8, 2012 1:28am CST
do any of u out there feel the same way? it's like i always come up with excuses for him in my head whenever he does small things that upset me.
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lologirl2021 (Holly)
@lologirl2021 (5542)
• United States
8 Aug 12
I think this is just a part of what women do. I might not be married but i do this to my boyfriend and he gets mad at me. I blow up and have a loud voice and he goes why are you yelling at me im like OMG just shut up already. I usually walk away but then at times he follows me or gets upset that i am walking away. Its just life and i think Men just have to put up with it and get over the fact that we all do it.
zainirye
@zainirye (36)
• Philippines
10 Aug 12
I like to blow up too, but in my case, he will always get upset! But I let off steam in other ways, like stomping my foot or banging the door, or walking away (he never follows me, by the way). But, after a while, he makes me breakfast or fixes lunch, or does some thoughtful thing and we just kind of let things slide. *sigh*
Raine38
@Raine38 (12257)
• United States
8 Aug 12
Me too. One look in his little boy eyes and droopy lips and I'm lost forever lol! Actually, it's so hard to stay mad at someone who is kind enough to admit their mistakes and are really true to their word of doing better next time.
zainirye
@zainirye (36)
• Philippines
10 Aug 12
That's true! I can't stay mad at him because I think about all the things he has done for me, and I end up just hugging him and we both say sorry to each other after a while.
Jshean20
@Jshean20 (14349)
• Canada
8 Aug 12
I always try to come up with excuses for my other half also because I don't want to believe that he did or said something that made me so angry. I tend not to stay mad at him for very long, we usually work things out after we've both had time to pout about it.
zainirye
@zainirye (36)
• Philippines
10 Aug 12
Yeah, I tend to think "he didn't mean it" or "he isn't aware that he got me upset". I do frown about it, but he seldom notices because I frown about everything, haha
angelkarah050182
@angelkarah050182 (4980)
• Philippines
8 Aug 12
Yes, when I am upset with my husband I try to control my emotions. I forgive and forget. I sometimes give him a silent treatment but I've observe that the problem will just get worst. If it's just simple things I just try to ignore my feelings. I want to have a good relationship with my husband. He's my partner in life.
zainirye
@zainirye (36)
• Philippines
10 Aug 12
Me too, I let the little things pass. If it's a pretty big deal to me, I cry about it, and sometimes I let him see that I'm crying, but most of the time, if I get mad, I have to explain why, and it's tiresome, so I just don't do it anymore..
AngelaMarie
@Bhebelen14 (5194)
• Philippines
8 Aug 12
Yes, I think its normal in a relationship especially if they really love each other. My husband and I fight and argued a lot when were newly wed but both of us never stay mad to each other and we talked all the reasons and cause of our fight.
zainirye
@zainirye (36)
• Philippines
10 Aug 12
It's good you guys talk things out! My man's not much of a 'let's talk about it' kind of guy. Usually we exchange words, then we just sort of forget about it, and if I'm still mad, I ask him to hug me and say why I'm still upset. (either he says sorry or he gets mad, in which case I'll be the one saying sorry) ahaha
STOUTjodee
@STOUTjodee (3572)
• United States
10 Nov 12
I can't stay mad at my husband for very long either,after all we live together! I'm not saying though that I don't get mad at him, but he knows when I get upset with him. We then communicate with each other and we talk about what each other did to make us mad. That way we then can avoid not doing what made the other person mad at us.
lushcy
@lushcy (1)
• Philippines
16 Aug 12
I am 31 and I've been married for 12 yrs now. I am proud to say we're still together despite the fact that there was no year he didn't cheat on me. We're going through another bump in our relationship and I am mad, very mad for him making me feel this way my whole life with him. But I do not understand why I can't stay mad at him, I guess that's the magic of love.