Have you ever had a blind date?
By captinjack
@captinjack (788)
China
August 8, 2012 6:19am CST
I just have a blind date last night. And it couldn't be more terrible. As it is known, Chinese are very conservative. In general, youngsters at my age are married already. Maybe my parents are eager to have grandson, or afraid that i can not get any girl as my spouse. Anyway, they began to crazily arrange blind dates for me. Since i am filial and do not wanna my parents worry about me, i took part in all of the dates.
The date last night was killing me. Here is the story. While i was cooking, my cellphone rang. And it was my dad. He told me to visit one of his friends for a blind date. Like usual, i shaved my face and changed my clothes as quickly as i can. After my arrival, my dad's friend introduced a young girl to me. Frankly, she is the most beautiful among girls i have dated with. Moreover, she is almost 1.7 meters, which is a popular height in China. At the bottom of my heart, i was on top of the world. But i played cool so that i could hold the situation. Then, we were guided into a room. After we were seated, i turned on the electronic fan because it was hot. The girl said she was selling cellphone in a mall. When we were chatting, she seemed indifferent to me because I was the one who kept asking questions. Just several minutes later, the girl proposed to get out and have some fresh air. Then, my lousy blind date was over.
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19 responses
@youless (112131)
• Guangzhou, China
8 Aug 12
I had a blind date long time ago. Since my parents were also worried that I couldn't find my spouse by myself:) Of course it was not like what I dreamed about since that man was older me a lot. I didn't like to have the generation gap:)
As to your situation, this girl seems fine. Especially you seem to have a good impression to her. If so, you shall not keep cool so much. After all, you are a man and you can't expect a girl who will chase you, right?:) Try to date her a few times to see whether you are suitable for each other. Good luck!
I love China
@captinjack (788)
• China
8 Aug 12
Hi, youless. It is over. The girl seems not very interested in me. I'll get out of there next time. Thanks for your advice.
P.S. what is the relationship between my dating and China?
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@dorannmwin (36392)
• United States
10 Aug 12
Well, I've been on a couple of blind dates in my life and one of those people that I was on a blind date with is now my husband. With that said, I don't think that blind dates are something that is all bad. Yes, there are going to be times that going on a blind date is something that could be a terrible experience, however, I also think that there is an equal chance that you might meet the person of your dreams when you agree to go on a blind date with someone.
@captinjack (788)
• China
11 Aug 12
Maybe you are right, dorannmwin. Yet it indeed was a bad blind date for me.
@lkbooi (16070)
• Malaysia
8 Aug 12
Hi Captingjack, my friends lol...instead of my parents had arranged blind date for me after my graduation. It seemed really weird huh. Actually they are all in couple respectIvely except me. They felt sorry to see to be alone, but I was not and I was still very young that time. I attended the date out of my curiosity to see how the guy looked like. Certainly he was not my cup of tea and we had become friend only.
Happy posting 
@captinjack (788)
• China
8 Aug 12
I am so regretful that i did not pick up any chicks during my college life. And as far as i am concerned, i don't think those who dated each other and failed can be true friends.
@hsofyan (3446)
• Jakarta, Indonesia
8 Aug 12
So, whether you like her? If so, you need to continue dating.
Good luck.
@simplepleasures (282)
• Philippines
8 Aug 12
Perhaps you can give him some tips hsofyan? :) How can he convince someone to go on a date with him if she does not seem to be interested?
@512771751 (1096)
• China
8 Aug 12
I have a blind date when I was in college. I still remember I meet my net friend when I was so angry with my bf. As soon as I see my net friend, I feel so regretful and then hurried back to my dorm withour saying a word to the net friend. Hahaha,,, it is interesting.
@captinjack (788)
• China
8 Aug 12
I am so fortunate that i was not your cyber-friend. I can't imagine the situation he has been in. Anyway, it is not a good idea to do things impulsively.
@simplepleasures (282)
• Philippines
8 Aug 12
Oh I am sorry to hear that captinjack.
I personally think that blind dates are ridiculous. The ones who sets you up think that it would be exciting and fun but the truth is, it is not. How can it be fun if we are forced to spend some time with someone we do not even know?
I am sure your date was also forced by her parents that is why she seems not so interested.
I hope your parents would cut you some slack and accept the fact that love would come your way without them intervening.
Good luck to you! :)
@captinjack (788)
• China
11 Aug 12
LOL. It seems that you do not know much about the situation of Chinese youngsters. For us, the prime time for dating is college life. But unfortunately, i missed it.Afer my graduation, i am busy with my career. And it is hard for me to meet nice girls. So in general, the best chance for people like me to find our soul mates is to have blind date.
@kaka135 (14916)
• Malaysia
12 Aug 12
I never had a blind date. I met my husband in high school, and we started to go out together when we were in university. I don't think my parents have ever worry that I can't meet any nice guy, as they always think I was too out-going.
If you like the girl, maybe you can ask your dad's friend for her phone number or look for her where she's working. Sometimes people may not have common topics on their first meet up, or maybe the girl is shy. Good luck to you!
@maygodblessu44 (7336)
• India
10 Aug 12
Hello my friend captinjack Ji,
Well, I was married to my lone hubby in 1969 wihout any date and without meeting any time even during dreams. My then would be hubby refused to meet me as it was being arranged by our parents. Today we are running in 43 yrs of arranged marriages with six grand childre out of three of our children . I think, it was not a bad deal.Our parents are no more, but we remmeber them everyday. Why do you not give this task to your parents. No parents would do anything wron. You know what was thje idea of my hubby for not meeting me. No on ecan judge within less time. Even people date for yrs together and tehy are seperated. In our marriage there is no room for seperation. It is blocked. We will ;live till our last breathe.
May God bless You and have a great time
@Canellita (12029)
• United States
9 Aug 12
It sounds as if maybe you were trying too hard. You took one look at her and got excited by what you saw, forgetting how much you were dreading being fixed up. Did it ever occur to you that she was not happy to have a blind date set for her? Maybe you were not asking the right questions or maybe she is very conservative or shy or interested in someone else. Be fortunate it was a date and not an arranged marriage where you would not have any choice. Why did your father want you to meet her? Is she some random girl or does he know her family? Stop complaining and get more proactive.
@aeiou78 (3445)
• Malaysia
10 Sep 12
ha! ha! ha! I am sure you like that girl very much during your first meeting.
May be, you should not ask so many questions during your first date with this lady because you seemed to control her or to frighten her by trying to know so much during your first date.
You should treat her as your normal friend and I am sure you can understand her more when the time passes by. Do not be so hurry to know about her.
Good luck buddy.
@Paper_Doll (2373)
• Philippines
9 Aug 12
I had experience blind date for 3 times but they were all introduced by a friend and not a family member and they are all just for fun and not for serious commitment at that time because I was still in college that time. It was just a usual date to get to know each other more. But none of them really lasts because they aren't my type. That is the problem with blind dates. You can't really choose the person you will date so you aren't aware if you will enjoy his or her company and vice versa.
@sol521 (61)
• Philippines
9 Aug 12
There's nothing wrong with blind dates. It's more fun. But if you're going to take it seriously that might lead into something. But as for me, I don't like to have a kind of relationship with someone who used to be one of my blind dates. IF that something that makes you happy then why not go for it. You're attracted to that woman anyway. Just see what happen next. But you must have to understand about culture fist.
@bhabycatch013 (9150)
• Philippines
8 Aug 12
hi captinjack,
Before some of my friends wants to put me on this kind of date but I always refuse them I don't like the idea and i am not thrill at all about it.
Well maybe it will be fine if that will be a group blind date or if I am allow to invite someone with me
happy mylotting
@isha242 (83)
• United States
9 Aug 12
I think that her leaving simply means that she was not interested in you :( . Which means that there is still someone out there for you. I think that blind dates can be fun when they are mutual friends of people you may know. I dont agree with blind dates through the internet because you don't really have any background information on them other than the information they have told you; truth or lie. Sometimes the right person is right in front of your face but you have failed to notice them. I think that you should go out and do something fun that you like with some of your friends and while you are there dont be shy to approach a girl and introduce yourself to her. This way you know that you have at least one thing in common because you are at the same place.
@riyauro (6421)
• India
8 Aug 12
well I think that if your Dad had fixed the blind date, then the girl would be good and nice. I think she got bored or something 
. but try to meet her be creative next time. Think of something that girls in you country like. You will do better next time.
I have never had a blind date in my life..and I am happy about it.
. but try to meet her be creative next time. Think of something that girls in you country like. You will do better next time.
I have never had a blind date in my life..and I am happy about it. 
@wagkangmakulit (69)
• Philippines
9 Aug 12
Wow, that's nice but sorry if your date was not goes well but still you can ask her again for a date and for this time, plan it so you can give her unforgettable date. I have also experience blind date and that experience was great and memorable. I have a blind date before that my date's becomes one of my good friend. HAve a great day!
@crystal_0616 (1)
•
9 Aug 12
maybe, she's really not the right girl for you. i also went to a blind date before and i found it so boring because he kept on asking me, i know that's part to know each other better but he didn't caught my interest anymore. So i told him i will go to the rest room for a moment but i didn't go to the rest room instead i went outside to the restaurant and wait for a cab.
