Home is not Home without " MOM"

@prashu228 (37524)
India
August 9, 2012 2:00pm CST
hello friends, I realized it recently when my mom , went to her friends daughters marriage. she never went anywhere without us,till now . we all used to go together, for long journeys especially and out of station. she was always there with me. May be ,thats why i never realized her importance , in my life. But now when my mom went just for a few days , i started feeling very lonely , ( actually i am not alone my brothers and dad are with me) but still i felt something is missing and very lonely. she is the one who take care of all my things. Friends what are your views, do all feel like this , when mother is away for few days..please share..
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20 responses
@oindy54 (3445)
• India
9 Aug 12
Hi, I completely agree that home is no home without the presence of our mother.When your mom went to attend a wedding for the first time leaving you, you felt lonely just as I do when my mother goes somewhere for few days. She is now reaching the age of retirement and so she is making frequent trips to different holy places. We are a nuclear family of three, so I stay with my father when she is gone. I feel so lonely and downcast at those times; those are the times I realize what my mom means to me and what a significant role she plays in my life. There is no one in the world who can take the place of my mother. I miss her badly when she is away on those trips; I keep calling her up frequently and sometimes I am in tears as I get so emotional. We should shower our love on our mother as they have taken such pains for us and love us from the bottom of their hearts. I hope your mom is back now and you are happy now my friend.Surely mothers are the best in the world.
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@prashu228 (37524)
• India
10 Aug 12
hi, i agree, my God you think so much like me, (related to mother), yes mother is the best gift of God to us. thanks for the response
@else22 (4317)
• India
11 Aug 12
The bitter truth is that we realize the real value of things when we lose them.Of all my brothers and sisters I was the one most attached and closest to my mother.She loved all of us,but being the youngest I was her dearest child.Six years back she expired.Now myself,my wife,my sisters and our kids all seven members are there in our family,but we feel as if we are living in a desolated house.My father left us long ago and we could not fill the space created by his departure.And then my mother expired.Now our home is a house only,not a home. I agree with you.
@prashu228 (37524)
• India
12 Aug 12
yes, we never realize the value of mother ,we just take it granted, but we miss them badly when they are not around us. thanks for the response
@else22 (4317)
• India
12 Aug 12
I loved my mother,but had never thought that she would leave me for ever one day.So when she took her last breath after remaining in coma for one and a half day,it was a devastating moment for me.The most unfortunate moment of my life. Thanks for comment.
@Paper_Doll (2373)
• Philippines
10 Aug 12
I understand that you are very close to your mom, but I guess that you can take this moment to practice independence. You can take this time to learn to do things on your own like cooking, baking, or just rearranging or cleaning your room. So that when your mom arrived you can tell her about the new things you have learned. Maybe, you can cook or bake for her. I am sure she would love that. I also grew up with parents and when I entered college, I had to move out of our house to live near my school. It is really hard at first but surely you will learn.
@prashu228 (37524)
• India
10 Aug 12
hi, i agree, i am trying to learn cooking.yes i too feel my mom should go on small trips/vacations on her own. thanks for the response
• United States
10 Aug 12
Moms are great aren't they? I'm a mom and I know I have a great influence on them. My youngest is 18 and I was proud that he can cook for himself and doesn't rely on me all the time. Although I love to cook, I'm just not here all the time. Sometimes I take the dogs to the doggie park and get home late. I don't have to worry though because my 18 year old will take care of himself. I do miss my mom so I know the feeling of missing someone. My mom lives 60 miles away and lately I have been staying home and not going very many places due to the high gas prices. So the phone is the next best thing as well as skype where we can actually see each other. It's like we're right next door. Hope your mom has a great time with her friend and her daughter who was married. Great for your mom to cut the strings too.
@jureathome (5361)
• Philippines
10 Aug 12
Definitely! And, a happy mom makes a happy home. That's also how i felt before, when I was still single and staying with my mom. When she's away, even for just a couple of hours, it seems that the world has gone upside down. I can do stuff for myself, but it really feels different when our mother is there. Now, that I'm a mom, myself, the house is really different if Im the one managing the chores and everything else.
@prashu228 (37524)
• India
10 Aug 12
hi, i agree, a person who understands better, will definitely be a best person. you definitely sounds like the best mom to your children. thanks for the response
• Philippines
11 Aug 12
I'm still working on being at least, a good mom, to my kids. Although, I've been a mother for 4years, now, I haven't really maximized my motherhood yet. I'm just starting to fulfill this career, and right now, Im enjoying it a lot. Of course, there are times when the kids can really be a pain, but when they start to cry, I just can't help but go to their rescue. I'm still learning, and there's just a lot to go through before I can say I'm the best mom for them.
• Bangladesh
11 Aug 12
To lose mom to lose everything. Mother is second to none in the world. There is no other heaven better than that of being with mother. Mother is an ever well wisher. May be if we hit our mom's head our of anger and bleed it, she never allege against me or curse me. Mom is our direct God. Even mom is ready to die for us.
@prashu228 (37524)
• India
12 Aug 12
yes she is ever ready to do anything for us, thats what makes her special in our life. she isc the one who cares for us, no one can ever take her place.
• Romania
12 Aug 12
A House is not Home without ''Mom''. It is true. Each woman is unique by age, education and experience and each child is unique too. A good mother is there when child needs her and who puts her child's needs above her own.
@prashu228 (37524)
• India
12 Aug 12
yes ,a mother keeps her children as top priority, and then comes everything else, this is what makes her , the special in the world. thanks for the response
@Pose123 (21635)
• Canada
10 Aug 12
Hi prashu, My mom passed away a long time ago but I still know what you mean. Mothers are often taken for granted until they leave us, even if it's only for a few days. I remember how much I missed my mother the first time she went away for several days and later I missed her when I left home. Mothers are very special, no matter what our age. Be sure to let her know that you missed her and how happy you are to have her home again. Blessings.
@prashu228 (37524)
• India
10 Aug 12
yes , they are very special, no matter how old we grow up. we share a special bond with her. I agree we take it for granted, when she is around us. But she is the only one in the world whom we can trust and she is the one who understands our needs and also our pain , even before we say it to her. thanks for the response.
• Philippines
10 Aug 12
That is true prashu, i also miss my mother till now that i am old already. We live separately and we seldom see each other so i see to it that i call her once a week. I have an eighteen year old daughter and she is so dependent on me but whenever i have to go out of town she has no choice but to be left at home alone. I know she miss me but i see to it that i call her two three times a day. You know sometimes we have to leave you to teach you to be independent. Take this opportunity to do the things your mother do to you. I am sure she'll be surprised but will be more than happy.
@prashu228 (37524)
• India
10 Aug 12
hi, i think all mothers think the same way , i feel very bad and sometimes emotional when my mother say, i should learn to be independent, she wont be there with me always etc etc.. thanks for the response
• Valdosta, Georgia
11 Aug 12
I truly hope my children feel this way about me as they grow. I try to do my best for them so I hope they love me that much that they will miss me if I went somewhere without them. Their my world.
@prashu228 (37524)
• India
11 Aug 12
hope for the best. thanks for the response
@roshigo58 (4859)
• Pune, India
11 Aug 12
Hi, As your mom never go alone anywhere without you it is obvious that you feel upset without your mother. Mother ust be missing you too. But you should take care of yourself when your mo is not with you. By doing this your mother would feel happy for you.
@prashu228 (37524)
• India
12 Aug 12
yes, thats one of the reason, but again , i thought , she should also take time for herself, i am sure she will be proud the way i handled everything, thanks for the response
• India
10 Aug 12
Hi friend, you are right, it is really hard to miss our mum and our home is not a good one without our mother. I too missed my mother in my childhood days some times due to some festivals and functions, at that time i will stay with my siblings and father and we all are feeling loneliness without our mother
@prashu228 (37524)
• India
11 Aug 12
hi, yes she is precious gift .thanks for the response
@Shavkat (140046)
• Philippines
11 Aug 12
That is a nice description for our mom's, a home is not a home without their presence. I think, the role of a mother is a tough job. Nurturing and taking good care for everything and for her family. She has this golden touch to feel us weak at times.
@prashu228 (37524)
• India
11 Aug 12
hi, yes its a huge responsibility, on mother , but she do everything with much care and love. thanks for the response
@Byamee (84)
• India
10 Aug 12
It feels weird to stay away from my mom. My mom stays at home most of the time and i am the one going out on short and long trips. Even in a bunch of people i keep thinking about what she is doing without me. Whether she is worried or happy. What type of smile she is wearing. I keep thinking of how she is holding up. But on the other hand i also feel freedom. :D with no one to call me early in the morning i really enjoy the late morning sleeps and the parties at night.
@prashu228 (37524)
• India
10 Aug 12
hi, yes we miss her , in all aspects of life, when she is not beside us. But yes we enjoy our freedom too, but get bored very soon ,if she is not there to stop us from what we are doing. thanks for the response
• China
10 Aug 12
I hope you are okay, and let this time without a treasure one remain okay. We share your loss, we will all experience something like this.
@prashu228 (37524)
• India
10 Aug 12
thanks for the concern
@thanks1961 (7035)
• India
10 Aug 12
I had a discussion topic 'mother has no substitute' earlier some months back and there I have mentioned and may have commented their views. Yes, still I am telling, mother has no substitute and the love of a mother is not greter than anything. I know your feeling and what it could be. Mother is just mother and there is no substitue for her...
@ravisivan (14079)
• India
9 Aug 12
hundred per cent right. we feel the absence of people only when they are not with us. we miss our people, At times when we are together we may fight forgetting this. mother plays an important role. i am not surprised in your missing her. So be a good boy when mother returns back and tell her. in India we do not tell others about our good feelings for them whereas in the western countries they do not hesitate to share good feelings to their close people also.
@prashu228 (37524)
• India
10 Aug 12
hello sir, i agree, Indians are very emotional people, but at the same time we are not very expressive. thanks for the response
@svjomboy (873)
• Philippines
10 Aug 12
Well when i was an elementary grade and come home the first words comes out from my mouth if i never saw my mother is "where is mama" so feels like the house if no mother is incomplete and i do agree for that. She is very important of the house..
@prashu228 (37524)
• India
10 Aug 12
hi, i agree, we are incomplete without mother, we feel every thing is lost . thanks for the response
@mikyung (2232)
• Philippines
9 Aug 12
That is totally true. Though I lost my mom in an early age, we manage to have a good family. I really missed her, especially that I have a wife. I think she would be happy and nice if she she see us right now. Thanks
@prashu228 (37524)
• India
10 Aug 12
hi, yes mother plays a very important role in our life. thanks for the response
• Philippines
10 Aug 12
I know the feeling. I have never seen yet my mother since I was in my elementary days ( 7years old ), I just only seeing her in a picture. :( It is so hard having no mother beside you and it is very sad. It's like your life is not complete without her. You need to be strong in heart and in mind. And now, I'm still hoping that one day I will see her personally. T_T
@prashu228 (37524)
• India
10 Aug 12
hope you see/meet your mother soon thanks for the response
@Elisa1234 (7607)
• Philippines
28 Jun 17
If I have a mom, but i dont have dad? how do you call it? Is it still a home?