There is a right age to have a baby?
By moneywinner
@moneywinner (1864)
Brazil
August 9, 2012 9:39pm CST
My aunt had just graduated in her college and she has about 28 years old. She already live with her boyfriend, but they are not married. He's 4 years younger than her and don't want to get married yet or having babies. Now, she don't want too, but she said that she wants to be married and be pregnant until she is 32 years old, but he wants to only have a baby when he has 35 years. This means she will have almost 40, she asked me if she should wait for him or she should give up of him? She say that she loves him, but be a mother is much important than anything. What would you say? I told her to try to convince him to change his mind, but even I don't think this is the most right thing to do..
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7 responses
@riyauro (6421)
• India
10 Aug 12
I think there is no age like that but if in 30s then it is okay but otherwise, if one is financially stable to support a baby then can have at any age either in 20s or 30s. It is rare that people have babies in 40s, as far as my experience. Well in this situation of your aunt, I think she should make him understand, and if he not getting it then I think Problem. it can be end of the relationship. Because your aunt will be 39 if the boys wants baby at 35 age. thanks for sharing, have a wonderful day.
@moneywinner (1864)
• Brazil
12 Aug 12
That's what I told her, I hope she be able to changes his mind, because having a baby only when you are 40's makes that this pregnancy be more dangerous to the mother and to the baby.
@savagecabbage (1216)
• Philippines
10 Aug 12
In my opinion, there is no right age to get pregnant or to have a baby. It is all dictated by society. In the past, people got married and they got pregnant when they were 14 to 16 years old. My grand mother was a victim of society's norm at that time. My grandma got married when she was 16 and got pregnant soon. Nowadays, it is not accepted to have an early marriage and an early pregnancy. Nowadays, it is acceptable to be pregnant in someone's late 20's or early 30's. It is funny that we follow the "NORM" of the society. I really think there is no right time. But we just think there is because of what society dictates.
@moneywinner (1864)
• Brazil
12 Aug 12
I agree with you..if you still don't have baby when you are 35 or more, people looks to you like you have some kind of problem, at least this is what my older friends say! 
@emdjay23 (1575)
• Philippines
10 Aug 12
There are really appropriate age on when to get pregnant but there is a right age to get married,under some circumstances people tend to get married because they are pregnant but some waited for the right time. For me getting pregnant or having kids will be ona right time specially if you knew that both of you can provide for your kids, it doesn't matter on quantity but as long as you can handle them properly, you can give enough educationfor tem, food, shelter, clothing and other needs I guess you can finally say that it's okay. But if in case you're in an age where in getting pregnant will be very hard,I guess you have to think twice or else you'll end up not having a baby..
@marguicha (215807)
• Chile
10 Aug 12
It seems that science is helping a lot to have babies at a later age. I had my first baby at 18 years of age, but I am aware that I would not recommend it for many people even though it was the best for me. My youngest daughter had her last child when she was 44. It was not her first child though, and it seems that that is also important. If I were you aunt, I´d go to have a checkup with a doctor. He will be able to tell her what is best for her.
@dorannmwin (36392)
• United States
10 Aug 12
I honestly don't think that there is any right or wrong age in general for a person to have a baby. I always thought that I wanted to be done having my children by the time that I was 30 years old. However, I'm now 32 years old and my two children are nine and five years old. At this point in time in my life, I have to admit that I would give anything to have another child.
With that said, I do think that the decision of the right age to have children is something that is as unique as the individuals themselves.
@triplejazzm51 (1373)
• Philippines
10 Aug 12
In maternal and child health aspects, there is what we call as high risk pregnancies. One of these is when a woman is too young or less than 18 years old and when a woman is more than 35 years old. These women when they get pregnant, there is a high probability that they can have complications during their pregnancy until child birth. So we advice young women those who are sexually active to delay first their pregnancy. We also advice those 35 years old and above to avoid getting pregnant, because this is one cause of maternal mortality. I would suggest that your aunt consult an obstetrician on this matter. It would be better if she bring her boyfriend along with her.
@stitchmabob (35)
• China
10 Aug 12
There is no right age. It always depends on the situation and the circumstances given. She has to tell him her side of the story, because love means you cooperate, not give in to everything.
