Why do Brothers and sisters often Clash?

Philippines
August 13, 2012 1:44am CST
In my family we are only 2, Im the Eldest and i have 1 sibling only my younger brother ( Shemale)....we keep on arguing, always quarrel.. i really dont know .. i want to shout loud coz of my angry....,,grrrrrrrr ..He don't listen to me , He keeps on saying " I have my own decision" its really hurt for me.. need some advice
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laydee
@laydee (12798)
• Philippines
13 Aug 12
Family - We can't live without them, but sometimes it seems we can't live with them! I guess these problems are common, but one thing is for sure, we'd truly be blessed if we have an intact family these days. It's rare.
I think this is common because of the saying: "Familiarity breeds contempt". Simply means that since we are living with our family members for so long (since birth) we tend to be overly-familiar with them, we're "at home" with them and sometimes (well most of the times) we (or they) forget or fail to respect them. I think one thing you could do is to let him be. He's right anyhow, he does have his own mind and could decide on his own. Perhaps you need to let him do his own thing and you do yours. Have a great Mylot experience ahead!
delfajumamil
@delfajumamil (62)
• Philippines
13 Aug 12
thanks laydee for your comment... Hes only 19 year old,,and i think hes not in a right way..example One time. He said that he want to stop studying...he likes to find a job...off course as Elder im afraid and i really dont care what he told me.. because for me i want him to finish the study first and then thats the time he gonna find job...is there something wrong with me?
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laydee
@laydee (12798)
• Philippines
13 Aug 12
I think this is the issue with most of the elders. I am the eldest as well and I couldn't help but feel "responsible" for my siblings. It wasn't until my mom told me to start worrying about myself (and my life) instead of worrying to much about my brothers that I truly found happiness. Remember that these are human beings. They will always think about their "what if's?", if you force the person to do something "right", sooner or later you'd find them complaining and blaming you for the things that they haven't done. It's never a win-win solution. Let it go. Support them with their decision but always give them the pros and cons, if they still end up pursuing what they want, you'd always be there to say "I told you so" in the end. Be firm without being pushy. Be an elder sister but don't be a boss.