Really bad situation
By asdomencil
@asdomencil (4265)
Philippines
August 13, 2012 7:29am CST
I just talked to one of my subordinate this morning about work and some personal problems. His colleagues and I noticed that he was not talking that much for several days and trying to avoid talking with us.
I was suprised that he was already planned their marriage with her girlfriend (for ten years) before the end of the year, but two weeks ago during his brthday, he was informed by his GF that she cannot commit with the marriage and she admits that she is with another guy and they are into a relationship for almost 2 years already and now, they are already living in the same roof.
He already met the guy and he was introduced as her cousin. My subordinate has a constant contact with the other guy and treat him as one of his bestfriends. He even picked the guy to be the bestman in their wedding.
He even beg her GF to marry him because he really loves him. The girl just told him that if he really loves her, he will let her to be happy with the other guy.
Now, he was afraid to tell his parents about the current situation because he really feel ashame of what happen and what others might tell to him.
I also knew that he was the one who supported her sister in her school now (financially) because he already treated that as his sister. Sometimes, he prioritize in sending money to the sister of his GF than sending money in their home for his sister.
I just told him that it was really painful but he needs to move on and don't mind what others might told him. Just think of the others that loves him like his family anf his friends. I also gave him other advise. I just hope that he will cope up with this situation sooner.
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@rsa101 (37968)
• Philippines
14 Aug 12
Plus tell him that he is that lucky that he knows this early what kind of a woman she was. Imagine lying from him for two years about another relationship she was keeping behind theirs. It would have been worse if that happened after the wedding. I think that what others will think of him does not matter anymore it would not make him any better or worse person. Just move on and be happy with life without her around it would do him better. In time, when the wounds have healed he can love once again and find a better person for her.
@rsa101 (37968)
• Philippines
14 Aug 12
Well I would understand that he is in great pain. For men, that realized he was being fooled by the love of his life is indeed painful. I just hope he can get over the situation and recover from that one tragic thing that happened in his life. Let this be a lesson for him. I think he should be stronger the next time he is ready to love again. But for now, I think is the time for healing and is not advised to find a replacement. Learn to love himself first before trying another shot to love again.
@asdomencil (4265)
• Philippines
14 Aug 12
He even begged the girl to be with him and continue the wedding. I already told that, given she accepted and marry with you, then after that, what will happen, she will live with the other guy which is really more painful. I also told him that it is better he knew it now than during the wedding day, his best man will protest and will tell the truth which is more awkward.
I also told him, don't be ashamed of what happened, some will say that he was idiot because he didn't know it for two years but that's all they can say aboout him. The more ashame to others is the girl for what she did to him.
I keep on telling him to move on. Yes, at first it was hard to accept but it will be at the start only, after few weeks, he will forget it.
I keep on telling him, that there are others there much deserve to have him.
He cannot stop his tear from falling down as I talked to him yesterday. I know he was really hurt deeply.
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@musicluv4life (1867)
• United States
13 Aug 12
Aww, I feel so bad for the poor guy, he deserves someone way better then her. I hope everything works out for him, That would be really hard, and they were together for 10 years thats a long time. So she was basically just using him for his money. Thats awful some people are so cruel.
I wish the best for your friend.
@asdomencil (4265)
• Philippines
13 Aug 12
That is one thing I thought earlier but he told me that their parents are in working in other country. I just wish he will cope up with this situation.
Furthermore, I need to encourage him talking with his parents since their parents are planning their double wedding (with his brother). They already have the design for the invitation and ready for printing already.
I told him that he must tell his parents soon and don't be afraid because they will understand him.
@musicluv4life (1867)
• United States
14 Aug 12
Yeah it will be better to tell then sooner rather then later when they already have invitations sent out.
