Violators beware!!

hik somecowgirl I think I am doing good as I do not abuse others and am always open to pmessages if anyone wants some help I do not make fun of newbies as Iwas new once myself. lately I too have given up pretty much just to have some peace and tranquility in my own life.

I only try to help if I am ASKED and asked SPECIFICALLY. The problem I have here are some old users who seem to believe they are admins and they not only trash newbies, they discuss them other places and make fun of them. I don't understand that mentality, it's almost like police brutality. I'm sure the people DOING it feel justified but I don't think it's even justifiable. Besides, I don't see the point, what good does it do to make a newbie suffer? Even if they are mildly annoying or not following the rules you do? Is it really that hard to ignore them? I don't think so. I ignore a LOT of things that just don't interest me. After all, I could be a jerk and go post in those discussions that I don't like the topic and I don't know why they are here - but that is WAY too much effort for me lol. Help - in my opinion - is offering ASKED for advice, NOT unasked for advice. It's like being criticized by a stranger - nobody ASKS for that and nobody WANTS that, and the stranger for all intents and purposes can think whatever they want to but should keep their frigging MOUTH SHUT. If you've ever had some jerk make a comment about how you're dressed or complain about how you discipline or dress your children, then you know exactly what I'm talking about and trust me, they deserve to get conked in the head lol.

Thank you! I think so far you are the first one to actually totally 'get it'. You deserve a BR! You've seen exactly what I'm talking about - this is meant towards the ones who browse purposely for discussions in which to batter and harass people. Another example of this behavior is when I go to youtube and people troll around, specifically going to artists and videos they HATE simply so they can write nasty comments. Yep... just like that. Really lame.

hi diana I agree we all have responsibilities to learn about mylot and help keep it looking good and working smoothly. I will be damned if I am tarred and feathered for helping people answering questions 'and making suggestions. why must we always have to point fingers at people and say they should not do this or that? I do not feel 'I have done one damned thing wrong here in just helping people when they ask questions and I write a response. I am not apologizing for loving m ylot and wanting to help.whats wrong with caring about this site?

Hatley, you are a revelation on mylot. i hope you do not think some of the responses are aimed at you. i think the discussionist is delving deeper than mylotters like yourself and mysd. I have read many responses from both off you where you have went out of your way to be friendly and helpful. hats of to both of you.

Do you prefer to have people rant and rave at you or would you rather just read the ToS yourself (your choice) or learn from your mistakes? I think I'd rather just read the ToS myself and then learn from my mistakes, maybe by having something deleted rather than have people I don't even know start ranting at me lol.

I actually prefer to read the guidelines than to make a discussion that will surely be deleted. I will admit that even though I read about the guidelines, I commit mistakes of commenting on a discussion that will be deleted. Anyway, what is important is that I am learning from it.

I don't think it's wrong if people ask, but I think it's wrong if someone doesn't want to be helped and long time members are continually harrassing them in discussions. If they don't read the ToS or don't heed KIND and FRIENDLY suggestions, then people should lay off. I see far too many comments where long time members actually argue with people or threaten them and say 'if you don't stop, your discussion will be deleted' and the user says 'I don't care' and the argument continues. If they don't care, then stop saying anything, let it get deleted lol. We are each only responsible for our own behavior here, nobody elses. I've also seen threats happen where nothing gets deleted, which is I why I think some people just get on a high horse and somehow believe they are knowledgeable about something when they actually have no clue.

Now I wish I could give TWO best responses because I like yours too. I am grateful to have found at least TWO people here in mylot who totally understand how pointless it is to keep repeating yourself to newbies who aren't here to listen to old timers, they are here because they are trying to make money by doing all the wrong things lol. When I joined here on a tip from a friend I met somewhere else, I figured the money would be a perk if I actually created and/or responded to quality stuff. There were a few months I made quite a LOT, and that's why. It had nothing to do with quantity really either, meaning I didn't start 50 discussions a day about nothing. I might have started 6 or 7 but most of my earning comes from responding. I also see LOTS of people join this site but most of them are not active or don't remain so. Some of the people I know here that I now keep in touch with in other ways besides here don't even come here any more. While I do miss their input (some of them were hilarious), this can turn into a huge timesink if you're not careful.

Haha thanks but that's OK, it's nice to get best response but I don't think it really does too much in the way or earnings or anything. Yeah I don't start discussions unless I have a question I find people who just spam with different discussions they don't really want an answer to pointless as well. Although we are the ones that earn from it and not them but some people just keep starting up discussions and then not responding to those who answered Yeah that happens as well. I have slowed down but still come on here everyday to see what's happening. I'm now behind on responses and things as well and trying to play catch up!

Dear Hatley Why do you assume this was directed against you? There are over 200 000 users on mylot. I think it is a general observation and a point well taken.

Oh.. I am definitely not picking on you, Hatley! I can think of one or two people I actually directed this toward and I am curious as to WHY they like to constantly bring up 'violations' or ToS in their postings. I only put that out there hopefully to entice them to come out and own up to doing it and explain WHY they seem to get such a kick out of it. You are a very kind and considerate poster - I'm sorry you felt it was directed at you