Busy, Busy, Busy

Philippines
August 17, 2012 1:32am CST
Good day Fellow Mylotters, Busy, busy, busy, this is the word which my partner always tells me. That, even he is not too busy, and can find time somehow, still, he claims he is busy. Even in a short period of time that I somehow asked a bit of his time, he always says he is busy. I don't want to think of any but I don't know how to handle this type of relationship. The only thing that I can think as of the moment is to leave and go to other place. Then, maybe he can somehow miss me and realize that he is not busy anymore.
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31 responses
• China
17 Aug 12
Oh, maybe I am a lucky dog, my partner is busy too and he will work untill 12:00 at night. but he still cook for me and see TV with me and then do the job. When my baby is aged one month, he took care of my baby to drink milk at night and go to work next morning. Maybe you can try to exchange your roles and find the reason why he/she complained.
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@jazel_juan (15748)
• Philippines
18 Aug 12
Maybe he is really busy my friend and if things are still that way for awhile maybe it is time for you and him to sit down and talk about it as well.. you both should also have time together whats the point of being in a relationship when you cannot be with each other just because one is busy?
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@ulanhad (24)
• Chifeng, China
18 Aug 12
Hi,airasheila I see you have a bad mood from your title. As a man, I must tell you some truth in my opinion. I think it's must be something wrong with your partner if he always tells you that he is so busy every day every day. I just wanna give you some advices. First, you should come to understand the real reason why he is busy. For example, stress from job, money, family, career, or other worst things-he didn't love you more. It's so popular that a man has a lot of money in China. (Please forgive my words like these, I just tell you that I wanna say.) How to do? You can use your own methods, you know. Second, when you know the truth, you should communicate with your partner and tell him your feeling. If he has huge stress, you should understand and support him and help him soon with your tenderness. If his feeling changed, you can make a decision for your future soon and protect your feeling. At last, enjoy your life and take a moment with your other friends. Your partner will contact you on his own initiative if he also care about you. Please forgive me if my words hurt you. Good Luck For You. Ulanhad, from China.
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@rsa101 (35105)
• Philippines
17 Aug 12
Well of course you have to know that he really is busy. I think once he gets time for you let this be your main topic. I guess if he has a valid reason then you should accept but excuses like saying he is busy is not acceptable anymore.
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@Mickie30 (2628)
17 Aug 12
I can understand being busy because I am busy a lot. When you have children it is easy to be busy. My hubby often spends time on his computer and I spend time on mine. Life is busy, but it's also important to find time for one another. Maybe if u spend a little time apart it might not be such a bad idea.
• Kiryat Ata, Israel
18 Aug 12
I agree with you and I want to add that partners need to make time to be with each other , plan how to make it through the day and find time. Children are a big challenge to handle , I see it on the TV with annoying children with their parents , they go to a professional helper that helps them to make their sons better. I think being busy is to give up and let the reality take us down to salvation. Damit , my neighbor works all day long but he never takes his dog for a walk , I feel like shouting at him for being busy and neglecting his dog !!!
@asliah (11137)
• Philippines
27 Oct 12
hi, i have been experienced that before in my past relationship and i really hate them if they told me that they were busy when i need them to talk or need to text with them,because my feeling during that if they tell that is they don't have such time for me.
@dorannmwin (36595)
• United States
18 Sep 12
This is something that I've gone through with my husband on a regular basis. He is always busy at work or too tired to do anything with the family when he is not at work. This isn't something that I really like, but it is something that I've just come to accept. I know that for me there is no way that I would be able to leave him because the love that I have for him is just too strong, but I would love for him to be able to realize that I do count too.
@aerous (13452)
• Philippines
20 Aug 12
Well, you need to find out more about his alibi. Because it's not because he is busy but because there might be something happen in his side. If there is a will, there is way.
@dismalgrin (2604)
• United States
19 Aug 12
I have not been so busy this weekend. I've been taking it easy because I'm in school and school has kept me very busy during the week.
@AJ1952Chats (2335)
• Anderson, Indiana
19 Aug 12
Your partner might be going through a busy time where he has so much to do that he only feels like doing the basics besides that, such as eating, sleeping, and going to the bathroom. However, if he has plenty of time to do recreational things such as playing or watching his favorite sports, hanging out at the bar with his buddies, and anything and everything else with the exception of one thing: making time for you -- there might be something very much wrong with the picture. Perhaps, he's even having an affair with someone else. Or, it could be something entirely different such as trying to find the way to tell you something serious such as about getting bad news from his doctor, is on the verge of losing his job, etc. What the two of you need to do is to find the time to sit down together to discuss your relationship. If he's lost interest in you and wants to get out of your relationship, he needs to be honest and tell you this. If he's troubled about something to the point that he just needs to be left alone, you need to tell him that you'll be there for him when he feels like talking about it. Perhaps, you can ask him if he would have time for, at least two or three times per week, to join you for a little snack where you could have at least an hour of together time. If he can't give you that much time at this time, ask him how much time each week he could spare just so that the two of you can enjoy a little quality time.
• India
19 Aug 12
Hello my friend airasheila Ji, Well, " BEING BUSY AND POSING BUSY IS ORDER AND LIFE STYLE THESE DAYS, IT IS CONSIDERED AS A STATUS SYMBOL' but people fail to understand taht it is creating lot of health issues un-noticed in the body. When one is not in same satte of mind and gives false to others it sends inverse signal to all parts of body. body never becomes light and without work. It is always under tense and ready to work. People should come out truely to remove this busy syndrome from their life. May God bless You and have a great time
@yugasini (12838)
• Anantapur, India
18 Aug 12
hi airasheila, this is clearly showing that your parter means boy friend,business partner or spouse, he is not willing to be with you that's why he is avoiding you,by saying busy busy busy, there is proverb "if there is will there is way", even Prime Minister and President also busy people,they even make some time to spend with dear one, ask your friend and let know the cause for this type of busy busy busy,have a nice day.
• Philippines
18 Aug 12
Sorry to hear about this. In a relationship the two should exert efforts for the relationship to work out. So your partner should know about this. And the best thing to do is to talk this over. How about a romantic dinner?
@Blondie2222 (28639)
• United States
18 Aug 12
I definitely would not want to be in a relationship where my significant other is always to busy for me. My boyfriend and I have differen't work schedules but we still fit time in to see each other. Sometimes he is busy at night helping his parents building a house for his brother but we still see each other 3 times a week and we talk on phone and text all the time. He always tries to make time for me, sometimes he will cancel if we have plans because something came up and I always understand so we just reschedule for another day. But since it seems your boyfriend can never do that I would suggest sitting down with him and having a talk and telling him everything you're feeling. And if things don't change after that talk then I would kick him to the curb and find someone else that wants to spend time with you and treat you like you should be treated. Best of luck with everything.
@oXAquaXo (607)
• United States
17 Aug 12
I'm sorry about the difficulties in your relationship. I've had similar issues with boyfriends in the past, and we always broke up. I'm not saying you should, it's just that how he's acting right now should definitely change, and if that doesn't work, you deserve someone better. My old boyfriend used to hold two jobs, but he was free on the weekends. I would always ask him to go with me for a walk in the park, but he would always say he was busy, even though he didn't work on the weekends and he would just sit at his computer surfing the web. It made me mad, but I didn't do anything, because I really didn't want to go through the pain of break-up. Eventually we broke up, and it was the best thing that I did. I tried to get him to change and be more open and more involved in our relationship, but he was stubborn, and with nothing more to do, we had to break up. My advice would be to step back and view how your relationship is going. If in ten years, this is the person you don't want to be with, I think you should move on and get someone you truly deserve. ~ Annie
@natliegleb (5175)
• India
17 Aug 12
for sure i have also been quite busy and running around the mill and because of so much stress i feel the life is becoming harder.is there any use in it.if some one says busy,you ought to understand and wait for them patiently.no other go
17 Aug 12
for me i want to be busy to forget my pass. everytime im not busy memories will come to me and let me cry..damn..how can i surpass this one if you dont know what to do..grrr..im confused of my life. airasheila ty
• China
17 Aug 12
Very sempathetic to your confusion,why not ask him to see you ,two people talk,to realize what he was doing,or have other thing,I think no matter what is the reason,the most important thing is to understand ,to talk to him,to understand what happened to him,so decided what to do next.it is the most appropriate.
@else22 (4317)
• India
17 Aug 12
The world has been fraught with such pseudo-busy persons.They are never busy,but go on claiming they are.May be I am also one of them.Often I have to say to my friends that I am busy just because they want me to join them in doing something that I am quite reluctant of doing.Only a few days back,one of my friends asked me to attend a meeting that was going to be held about half a kilometer away from my house.But I was free that day and had planned to watch a movie on tv.I knew if I told him about my plan,he would not leave me.So I had to lie.I told him I was busy. So far as you are concerned,you are right.Make your partner miss you.That's the only way to make him find time for you.
@Juliyan23 (600)
• Indonesia
17 Aug 12
Yes you are right. You should have a fun time with your friends - you are worth it to have that time. Just show him that you could always be fun even without him always . I found that it always works sometimes :D Maybe he just need a time to realize how worthy you are to be with :)