why BREAK-UPS hurt that much
By missjahn
@missjahn (4572)
Philippines
August 17, 2012 8:31pm CST
love is a feeling we cherish for somehow, it brought happiness to every being. seeing our partner at our side will brighten our day and give the sparkle to our eyes. by then we cannot deny the fact what ourselves given in. but like every stories, it have different endings; sad or happy. so as like love, there are happy endings also as the involved persons in the relationship agreed to end it mutually and live life separately. but most of the relationships ended with sorrow and heartaches even if we say, both sides decided to end it.
why so? is it because you lost the one you love and the pain is unbearable if imagining him/her being around with someone new? or yet, what would be the other reasons why feeling torment during mending hours as you and your partner need to live different lives unlikely from the old days being spent together usually.
i guess, there are still reasons for you to smile even how hard it is for you to do. if one was gone in your life, that means the person is not meant for you. let us just be happy for the memories being shared when two of you cherished and held each presence during your days. life must go on. live it again and full in love for another time with the right one. but falling yourself again is with a hope, that this one would work till end because starting a life with someone new means new adjustments and studying your partner's attitude and all about him while in the process of the relationship and vice versa. afterall, love relationship needs extra nourishments and care to lead it to eternity.
be cheerful friends whatever your state at the moment ")
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5 responses
@missjahn (4572)
• Philippines
24 Aug 12
yes, it is natural to feel downcast in life after love ended unwantingly. we are hurt because of many reasons. sometimes, we cannot accept the fact that the person is recovering from the pain first and we, cannot be able to move ourself to next level of life. i guess, this one involves our ego. but i believed that when you set the person free as he/she wanted it, you are giving him/her happiness and your love to that person is genuine because what you want is him/her to be happy...
thanks for joining in here:)
@majuuyaitai22 (93)
• Philippines
20 Aug 12
I think it hurts so much because we became so attached to that person we thought will stay forever. It really hurts to see everything changed so fast but looks like you did not change at all. You'll ask yourself, how come he/she changed if you still love him/her whole-hearted. And what makes it so hurtful is when you realize that everything the two of you planned had all been gone.It hurts to wake up without his/her text message saying i love you. It's all in your memories now.
@missjahn (4572)
• Philippines
24 Aug 12
yes, well said there... keep the memories and do not be too uptight with the situation. in a moment we are being torn but the pain will fade as for the coming days to come. it is not okay but fight it to be fine. you can find another love of course until the pain subsided. its the matter on how you gonna control your emotion right then there. afterall, we are the bringer of our own self and emotion. so we are the one who is responsible on how to manage our feelings. as to say, do not let your mind ruled over by your heart.
thanks for joining into this discussion. your presentation is highly appreciated :) and welcome to mylot :O)
@flagella08 (5065)
• Philippines
18 Aug 12
this kind of experience is indeed hurtful and infact can't be forgotten for life for some. Breaking up a relationship is extremely hard on both the person who is initiating the break-up as well as the person who is at the receiving end. Whatever the circumstances, when a break up occurs, it breaks your heart.just make sure that those people around you like your family and friends won't be affected when you're still in mourning.
@missjahn (4572)
• Philippines
23 Aug 12
rightly said there. people have undergone this, will surely had their heart broken. but what i believed is that this is a passive moment and that people will come and get up from the failure in love relationship. of course, if in my case, i won't let it happened that they will be affected or my daily routine will be contoured to another way because i am sad. i will just understand that it is hurt at first but as days go by, i will gratifyingly make it and show to the world that conquer the lonesome i felt inside. well, i should be in my usual track of myself and feel bravado for that kind of success, as i considered it that way...
thanks for sharing your point of views in here:)
@hsofyan (3446)
• Jakarta, Indonesia
18 Aug 12
I agree with the reasons you have mentioned. Other one is sad because we feel like a failure. Failed to maintain good relations. Moreover, if we don't know the actual cause of that failure.
@missjahn (4572)
• Philippines
24 Aug 12
having heartaches would be so painful of course caused by break-ups. but we cannot force the person to stay as ease even things are not working fine everyday because we can call that greediness and self-center to that kind of matter. but this is normal as to lovers who failed in love. as time goes by, they will be healed.
thanks for joining in here ever
:)
@simonelee (2715)
• China
18 Aug 12
It is because you're already attached to that person. That person is already part of your system, your daily routine. You plan things with him. Everyday you wake up expecting him to say "good morning" and you end your day with a good night kiss. This simple actions make you crazy, creating your own world. And if this world have to end up it will tear your heart into pieces since you created it with love. Good memories really hurt us. Bad memories lead to fast recovery.
@missjahn (4572)
• Philippines
24 Aug 12
well said in there, thank you!
let me add, his absence of presence would somehow give us the void meaning in our life that is why we felt sense of loneliness because we are used to live a moment around with that person. even that person is far away from us, it will be alright because we can claim his/ her belongingness to us unlike if the tie is broken for the rights to call him/ her as our own would be stopped too.
thanks for sharing your thoughts in here :) glad about it
