Need advice to help my daughter

United States
August 19, 2012 2:50pm CST
I have been in court for grandparent visitation for my daughters paternal grandmother since her son (my daughters father) died when she was a year old. My nine year old daughter was removed from my care because she cried abuse. She ran away and told my mother she was being abused in my home. My mother who I do not get along with because of her abusing me has been trying to turn my daughter against me ever since she could. My mother began calling ACS on me when I started living with my sister and wouldn't clean the house after her house parties. My daughter is emotionally disturbed and I have tried to get her help but haven't found the right therapy for her and I cannot afford to get her evaluated. The courts ordered my daughter to be psychologically evaluated but until it is all cleared up she is in my mother's care. I feel my mother has won and I have a lawyer that people say isn't doing her job as my daughter was removed from my care when she shouldn't have. My daughter has good days and bad days and on one of the bad days she cried abuse since her paternal grandmother promised to take her to the water park and didn't show up so my daughter got upset, refused to take off her bathing suit and when she threw out the garbage in the hall she ran away around the corner to my mothers home. I called my mother to ask if she was there and she didn't tell me she was and called the police instead a half an hour later. I have not talked to my mother in over a year. She had seen my daughter the Sunday before because the paternal grandmother took her to see her when she was specifically told not to by myself. The judge ordered the next court date to have my mother to stay away on the visitation order from the judge then when it was just a visitation hearing. I don't know if everything is going the way its supposed to go or if I should get a new lawyer? I have no idea what is happening and I would appreciate any advice (not legal help) but as parents or anyone with experience with a similar situation. Thank you.
1 response
@jenny1015 (13359)
• Philippines
20 Aug 12
I know how devastated you feel as a mother for not being with your daughter for so long. From the way you told your story, I think your daughter really ought to see a specialist to check on her psychological condition. And as for new lawyers to take your case, I suggest you do get a new one.
• United States
22 Aug 12
Thank you for your comment. I miss her terribly! I met with the parent advocate with the foster care agency and hope to meet with her soon. I want her to tell me from experience of having her children through the system especially she will let me know if my lawyer is helping or not and how to go about gettng a new one if she says she hasn't Thank you again, Happy myLotting!